the Conception thread titles are spinning out of control again!

[sadpapercourtesan]

Sorry to piss on anyone's chips, but do we have to have lurid thread titles with "fishy burps" and "meaty periods" in them?! It makes me feel sick.

This happened a few years ago and there was a consensus that they needed to tone it down...AIBU?

Thanks i will do blackcurrant sadly the monthly horror has yet again arrived today, (l do hope that phrase doesn't give anyone the vapors.).. so a little bit down from that, so shall join you in the meaty place!

Yep I agree op. Gross and unnecessary. I didn't know there was a hide button so will do that now.

I think you're being really silly. However, while we're at it, I think I shall come over all faint and disgusted at your revoltingly insensitive reference to prostitution in your MN name. Especially since 'courtesan' is a term that glosses over the realities of sex work and feeds into a misogynistic glamourising of the exploitation of women.

Oh, wait, do you feel a bit daft now?

@SarahAndQuack

I think you're being really silly. However, while we're at it, I think I shall come over all faint and disgusted at your revoltingly insensitive reference to prostitution in your MN name. Especially since 'courtesan' is a term that glosses over the realities of sex work and feeds into a misogynistic glamourising of the exploitation of women.

Oh, wait, do you feel a bit daft now?

I always think the people that are most 'offended' by everyone else, are the ones that are never aware of their own actions or care how they affect others. Mostly because they have a 'its their way or no way attitude'. Funny isn't it!

@paintfairy how dare we support each other? 😁

YABU, just hide it! It’s a bit grim (can’t say it’d bother me really though) but hardly the worst thing on the Internet. Lots of people use dark humour to cope with difficult stuff. Whatever gets ya through the day.

The thread titles are revolting. They sometimes pop up in Active and my first reaction is always - this is who we're trusting our next generation to? Really? I would be completely embarrassed and ashamed if I was born into that bollox, as of course children conceived now will be able to look back at this time on the Internet, and Mumsnet (apart from the time limited pages) are here forever. Born out of a 70s stinky bush with a fishy fanny fart to help you along. Who wouldn't want their genesis into the world to be heralded this way. Jesus

@JovialNickname

The thread titles are revolting. They sometimes pop up in Active and my first reaction is always - this is who we're trusting our next generation to? Really? I would be completely embarrassed and ashamed if I was born into that bollox, as of course children conceived now will be able to look back at this time on the Internet, and Mumsnet (apart from the time limited pages) are here forever. Born out of a 70s stinky bush with a fishy fanny fart to help you along. Who wouldn't want their genesis into the world to be heralded this way. Jesus

That's... erm... a tad dramatic.

@JovialNickname

The thread titles are revolting. They sometimes pop up in Active and my first reaction is always - this is who we're trusting our next generation to? Really? I would be completely embarrassed and ashamed if I was born into that bollox, as of course children conceived now will be able to look back at this time on the Internet, and Mumsnet (apart from the time limited pages) are here forever. Born out of a 70s stinky bush with a fishy fanny fart to help you along. Who wouldn't want their genesis into the world to be heralded this way. Jesus

The whole point of mumsnet is you use a username so no one will know who is who😂 not like your child is going to be like oh look @JovialNickname that's my mum 🤣

@JovialNickname

The thread titles are revolting. They sometimes pop up in Active and my first reaction is always - this is who we're trusting our next generation to? Really? I would be completely embarrassed and ashamed if I was born into that bollox, as of course children conceived now will be able to look back at this time on the Internet, and Mumsnet (apart from the time limited pages) are here forever. Born out of a 70s stinky bush with a fishy fanny fart to help you along. Who wouldn't want their genesis into the world to be heralded this way. Jesus

What a horrible comment to make. The women TTC are simply trying to make light of their situation and support each other. You can very easily hide the whole topic as others have stated - Problem solved. I would suggest you are severely lacking in any kind of ‘genius’ or empathy for that matter.

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Good luck to everyone TTC. I hope the fishy burps and meaty periods are soon replaced with much nicer warm and fuzzy feelings. You go girls, don’t let the miserable bastards grind you down.

I personally have been on the thread mentioned above for 8 months now and after 16 months of ttc with secondary infertility I got my BFP in December just before Christmas. Couldn't have done it without those girls and I've made friends for life 🥰💓

@JovialNickname

The thread titles are revolting. They sometimes pop up in Active and my first reaction is always - this is who we're trusting our next generation to? Really? I would be completely embarrassed and ashamed if I was born into that bollox, as of course children conceived now will be able to look back at this time on the Internet, and Mumsnet (apart from the time limited pages) are here forever. Born out of a 70s stinky bush with a fishy fanny fart to help you along. Who wouldn't want their genesis into the world to be heralded this way. Jesus

Hmm... definition of your username...jovial, jocose, jocular, jocund agree in referring to someone who is in a good humor.Jovialsuggests a hearty, joyous humour So not living up to your name are you!

@JovialNickname

The thread titles are revolting. They sometimes pop up in Active and my first reaction is always - this is who we're trusting our next generation to? Really? I would be completely embarrassed and ashamed if I was born into that bollox, as of course children conceived now will be able to look back at this time on the Internet, and Mumsnet (apart from the time limited pages) are here forever. Born out of a 70s stinky bush with a fishy fanny fart to help you along. Who wouldn't want their genesis into the world to be heralded this way. Jesus

Interestingly enough, i was in a ttc thread about five years ago (with equally grotty names!) And we are all still in daily contact. I couldn't tell you what my nickname was then on here (in order to locate the thread) but I can always direct DC to my best friends who discussed cervical mucus and the like at the time .

@JovialNickname why can't we all just suffer in silence? Well, cos we don't want to, we rather have a laugh and a handhold with such strong women

Wowsers, just wowsers.

Once again MN shows the best and the worst.

I've checked back onto "I'm on" today after a day of self care & a counselling zoom session after indeed @JovialNickname my embryo decided it didn't want (I'm not even gonna use the words you used cos they are way worse than the ones we would ever use ours are a humour filled coping mechanism for horrendous TTC times) to transfer to me today. So these pictures are for you. WE ARE STRONGER, TOGETHER.

@AlexaPlayWhiteNoise indeed I have very close friends from the ivf threads I was on 3 years ago when we were fortunate to get a miracle child through surrogacy to my best friend & today is also world cancer day which is why that had to happen, one of those friends was there to hug me the week before full lockdown was announced in March right after my "reassurance scan" confirmed a MMC it seems a lot of ppl here understand the importance of the TTC threads & the like if not maybe our dark humour but I won't apologise.

@sadpapercourtesan I won't apologise for offending & I wouldn't expect anyone on a TTC to either. Maybe read my blog you'll see why. Its Minster musings without the space. It's a work in progress, as there's been years of stuff. words can hurt & we've all learnt we can hide threads that we don't want to see, but I know you didn't really mean it like that and if you have sensory issues that can be really distressing so I send hugs 😘☺️

Thank you to everyone who has contributed and added thoughts, votes and ways to hide things, we all live and learn.

Maybe later MNHQ can remove in can we all get flamed but I like to hope we can leave it for a bit for ppl to read & leave it all on a positive note

@JovialNickname why don't you actually read the thread before you judge, you'll soon see that it's not US that the next generation will resent, it's people who JUDGE things they don't try to understand.

The thread titles completely don't show the immense love, support and hardship we've been through together, but if that keeps judgemental people away, then that's a win in my books 👍🏻

Did you all miss the part where OP said she had ASD? Her discomfort around certain things is as much a part of her condition as your fertility drug related issues are a part of hers. Your issues do not trump hers and your unkindness is not necessary, she wasn’t rude about infertility in any way.

@OwlBeThere I don't think anyone missed that but if it's such a concern then why didn't said OP just hide the threads and get on with it rather than going out of her way to write a thread about it and then type the exact words that make her feel nauseous about 10 times.🤷🏼‍♀️

Every time those threads come up I do wince a bit because they are quite crude and graphic (but brilliantly descriptive!).

I probably will hide the topic now I can see how to.

I was on a long defunct different site during my years of trying and failing to conceive so I can vouch for the support those threads will be offering and it's good to see they're busy as it's a bloody lonely experience (pardon the pun).

It's a shame we don't talk about it more in real life though. I'm in my 50s now (so have definitely missed the bus!) and I have two very close friends and about half a dozen other friends and colleagues who've been unable to have children. We have never discussed it. I have no idea why.

@OwlBeThere

Did you all miss the part where OP said she had ASD? Her discomfort around certain things is as much a part of her condition as your fertility drug related issues are a part of hers. Your issues do not trump hers and your unkindness is not necessary, she wasn’t rude about infertility in any way.

Right. But no one knocked on her door with it? That's like all the people on the infertility post creating an AIBU post about anyone that posts on MN about being pregnant or having a child?

Just because you have a problem you can't go around moaning about other people who don't, when they are minding their own business?

And there we go again, we have a nice little bus, we welcome anyone on it but haven't tied anyone inside yet, live and let die people, we are happy, we are well, tell me again why we need to change that? Oh and on the asd, we are familiar, and these ladies have supported me with that too, in this bus we don't issue invitations, print your own ticket

@OwlBeThere can I point you to my post where I specifically mention her issues and I understand them & wish her well

We have at no point been mean to her, whereas others have been pretty offensive towards our thread. but as others have said we are in our own area minding our own business, not our fault we are a chatty supportive bunch & come up in active 🤣

Creating a specific thread to "bitch about us" is pretty pathetic but nonetheless gives us more entertainment, more to talk about during boring lockdown & TTC can get pretty dull. thems curtains don't twitch themselves after all. Our clutched pearls tend to go elsewhere 🤔

@Franklydear some of us have tied ppl up don't forget. But they enjoyed it 😉

@paintfairy must do that AIBU now. STAT.