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Sunflowers095 · 31/01/2021 16:37

DP and I are both in our mid twenties, not married but live together and been together for 5 years.

I'm quite a driven person, and worked for everything myself (no support or money from family to put myself through education). I've worked really hard, did a degree whole working full time and I'm now in early stages of building the career I want. My income is decent with a view to move into management soon.

Partner comes from a wealthy background but dropped out of uni. Since then he's started a part time degree that he puts in the minimum effort for and has an entry level job with an entry level income. He hasn't been looking for jobs or doing any qualifications to help him build his career.

Whenever we talk about this he says he wants this to change but never really follows with any action.

Other than that he's a good person, good partner, kind, generous, etc. But I feel like we want very different things in life. Is this a shallow reason to want to leave someone?

I wouldn't mind if he didn't make a lot of money, it's more that he doesn't even try to apply for more interesting/flexible jobs with career advancement opportunities.

Any advice would be much welcome...

OP posts:
WhoStoleMyCheese · 01/02/2021 11:25

OP it sounds like your upbringing has made you conscious of covering all bases. Lower earner having prospects of advancing should something happen to you is sensible as future is uncertain.
His on the other hand is the polar opposite. As he has a wealthy family as a safety net he doesn’t consider ‘what ifs’.

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