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AIBU?

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Would you be happy with this rent split?

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Dustyspringfield10 · 31/01/2021 15:44

700 including bills for a one-bed flat. If one person pays 500 who is in full time employment, salary of 1200 per month. The other person isn't in work due to covid and pays 200 per month.
If the person unemployed looks for and finds a job they could split the rent 350 each way. Would you accept to pay 300 more per month than the unemployed person?

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blobblob · 31/01/2021 18:30

You are not obliged to support him - you could make him move out. But if you are living together in a one bed flat you are paying less than if you were living separately in two x one bedroom flats. UC takes into account the fact that you and he are both saving money by living as a couple.

If he moves out then you will have to pay the rent all on your own.
If he moves out then UC will cover his rent - but depending on age. locality etc unlikely to be enough to an equivalent whole flat.

MixedUpFiles · 31/01/2021 18:37

Your cheapest option might be the ask the landlord to break the lease before you move in. If they had plenty of other interested tenants, they might be willing to do it for the cost of your deposit.

Nanny0gg · 31/01/2021 18:43

And surely, if he gets a job, your UC credit will go down as it will be taken into account.

So he'll have to support you.

arethereanyleftatall · 31/01/2021 18:54

I don't really understand. Are you living there on your own at the moment and he wants to move in? Surely then that's £200 more than you would have in your own?

Also, you don't seem to like this guy very much.

crowsfeet57 · 31/01/2021 19:00

If you move in together they won't be getting £500 a month because UC will take your income into account. Check what they will get using Entitled to or another benefit checker.

MissBaskinIfYoureNasty · 31/01/2021 19:03

So they're not looking for a job and want to get a flat with you and let you support them. Good luck with that one.

peboh · 31/01/2021 19:07

If it was live in partner? Yes I'd be happy to pay extra whilst they were getting back on their feet.
You don't sound happy to do it, so don't move in together. It's really as simple as that. Morally you aren't obliged to support them, however once he lives with you and continues to claim UC you are legally I obliged to support him, otherwise your rent won't get paid.

orangenasturtium · 31/01/2021 19:10

@crowsfeet57

If you move in together they won't be getting £500 a month because UC will take your income into account. Check what they will get using Entitled to or another benefit checker.

Yes, this.

Dinosauraddict · 31/01/2021 19:25

OP either look at entitledto or if you share some more details here (age etc) some lovey people will help work out your/your DP's benefit entitlement when living as a couple.

laraa91 · 31/01/2021 19:26

If the person is my partner I wouldn't mind at all (assuming he would be the same with me)

However if its a flatmate or friend - I wouldn't agree.

byebyeboyee · 31/01/2021 19:40

My ex wasn't entitled to anything and I was only earning 800 a month and my rent was 425. I mean he didn't get any money at all zilch. You need to see if you can get out of the lease agreement or flip the entire bill, or something I can. You need to enter everything into thing like entitled .

BlueDay22 · 31/01/2021 19:46

Absolutely not. Don't move in with this person until they have a job!

SummersMumma · 31/01/2021 20:32

@Dustyspringfield10 sounds like this moving in together is dead in the water. Call time on it now rather than prolonging the issue. Hope things get better soon x

gamerchick · 31/01/2021 20:36

@Dustyspringfield10

We don't already live together. No, I'm not morally obliged to support him despite what some on here think. He isn't my husband etc. We are a couple dating and now moving in together. I didn't know about the UC rules for living together.

Then you don't live together.

In the eyes of the DWP your income will be taken into account when it comes to his claim. So you either have to suck it up or live apart until he has a job.

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Dustyspringfield10 · 31/01/2021 20:56

Urgh don't use that God awful phrase suck it up.

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DimidDavilby · 31/01/2021 21:00

You don't sound like you like him very much... Already!

Sparklfairy · 31/01/2021 21:02

@Dustyspringfield10

Urgh don't use that God awful phrase suck it up.

It would be helpful if you could include a list of banned phrases in your next post ... Just so we know like

bridgetreilly · 31/01/2021 21:03

Its ridiculous,we aren't married, we don't have children together, we haven't lived together before, I refuse to be "required" to support him. I earn 1200 per month and have 350 monthly debt repayments coming out of that too, I am strapped for cash.

Well, in that case you can't move in together. You seem to have signed a lease for a flat that he/she can't afford. The money has to come from somewhere. If they don't have it and you don't have it, you can't afford to live there. This is not rocket science.

Tier10 · 31/01/2021 21:04

How will you split all the other bills?

Hellothere19999 · 31/01/2021 21:07

I am on UC and our bills/ rent is £800 total. I always pay my half and with a one year old baby too and I have a car and my partner doesn’t. I’m not totally sure on how it works but if my partner got 1200 I would get more like 700 quid per month. I get 500 if he earns a lot more in a month but that could be because I have a daughter, you might want to double check,

MsVestibule · 31/01/2021 21:07

Urgh don't use that God awful phrase suck it up.

Dear God. It's like trying to have a sensible discussion with a belligerent teenager 🙄. If you're referring to me, I was actually trying to be supportive. I think your boyfriend would have a lucky escape if you did choose to back out now.

Hellothere19999 · 31/01/2021 21:10

You do get money towards rent also, he will have to fill it all on his claim.

gamerchick · 31/01/2021 21:13

@Dustyspringfield10

Urgh don't use that God awful phrase suck it up.

Yeah soz, I missed the princess off the end.

Doesn't change anything, you can huff and strop all over this thread. If you move in with him then it's going to cost you. You have a clear choice to make.

MargosKaftan · 31/01/2021 21:13

OP, you need to act fast. You can't just demand he pays a set amount he doesn't have. Even if he has savings, how long will that last?

Speaking to the letting agent /landlord first thing in the morning and explain he is now unemployed and you can't afford the rent alone, would they consider letting you out of the tenancy now? They will have one eye on that once you move in, if you can't pay the rent it will be bloody hard /expensive to get you out. Best to rent it to someone who can pay.

Then think carefully about how you got in this position, did you barrel along thinking it was his responsibility to pay his share? If you live together you are seen as legally responsible for keeping the other one if you can. If that's not a step you are willing to make then cohabiting isn't for you.

Avondklok · 31/01/2021 22:13

If you live together as a couple you will need to support him financially.

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