To report someone ?

[chillipepperr]

If you thought someone was committing fraud would you contact the police?
Or DWP?
Or would you just leave it alone?
What if you really disliked this person?

@chillipepperr

Today is just a bit of a sad day. I'm just wondering what I did for her to hate me so much. I was a good friend to her. I have times when I'm ok and I'm positive then days like today where I'm just upset all the time.

I’m sorry. I have some to Mrs felt like this too. But remember 1) the truth is the truth no matter what someone else ‘thinks’ and 2) this says far more about them than you. You can spend years soul searching for the reason ‘why’, you’ll never know because it was never about you. It’s about their inner life and inner battles. You can’t fight that or solve it. Try to make your peace and remember that not everyone is so untrustworthy.

^sometimes

[quote chillipepperr]@sunflowersandbuttercups yes,this "ex friend" did this to me.
It was over and done with a while ago now but it's still left me feeling awful.
The fact she convinced others she was telling the truth.
It turned people against me and obviously caused me stress etc whilst it was being investigated [/quote]
Ah okay, I get you now.

I'm sorry - that sounds awful and she doesn't sound like a true friend at all. Neither do the people who were turned against you.

I'm sorry you went through something like that - it's a very shitty way to treat someone.

I wouldn't report even if I knew for a fact and I despised the person.
I do trust those saying they "Yes I'd report" would also report Tax dodgers.
We can't have one rule for the filthy rich and another for the poor, now can we. Goose and gander and all that

No, You don't report people based on a feeling. How would you know if they had savings they were living off?

@Fuckinlonely

Awww *@chillipepperr* there are a lot of snakes out there. You are better off without her xx

4/10 but that's only for the snitches get stitches one

I'd not. She might be buying stuff on credit cards.

@Bloodypunkrockers I wanted to make her smile but I wasnt being sarcastic. It's horrible when you get reported maliciously.

Aah got it now, i wouldn't waste your head space thinking about this. You know the truth, thats all thay matters

*that

Is this not the 3rd post you have made about this??? I think you need to go get some counselling about this so you can move on. She wasn't a friend and she did it because she is a nasty person.

I know I'm hindsight I need to let it all go.
My real friends tell me at least I have a toxic friend out of my life.
Be grateful for that.
It's just shit that someone I was so close too ...literally wanted me at breaking point.
I could get my own back with her (genuine skeletons in her closet ) but it would make me as bad as her ..and I'm nothing like her.

I wouldnt personally but up to you. Don't let bitterness eat you.

I know I'm hindsight I need to let it all go.

OP am I right in thinking you've posted about this several times before?

@slashlover hi yes.
I've spent months trying to figure it out.
Why she would do it.
How she could do it
It's drove me half crazy

I could report my ex but I haven’t and wouldn’t

You really need to let it go, you are not helping yourself by going over and over it and posting.

Maybe she didn't like you.
Maybe she was a nasty person.
Maybe she was genuinely worried about elder abuse.

Why are you still letting her afect you like this?

@slashlover if someone did that to you could you let it go?
It's one of the worst things that's happened to me,since it happened he died.
I just feel like I need to get my own back

OP, you posted about this in September. You were told the same thing then.

These people are not your friends and will not care about you 'getting your own back'. They have probably forgotten all about you, meanwhile you are only hurting yourself by obsessing over them. Talk to you actual friends and more on

@slashlover 17 years of friendship is a long time.
Your right tho,this isn't healthy,I know myself.
The only way I'm going to be happy is to leave it in the past.

I thought it was 13 years? Anyway, this happened over a year ago.

It was since we were 18 and I'm 35 now
So 17 years
It's been 13 years of working together
It was august last year it really came to light

You said in September that it had been 8 months and you in that time she had turned 3 people against you.

Do you think she is giving you and headspace at the moment? Do you think she is going over this again and again in her head? Revenge wont make you feel better and will only cause her to try to get back at you. You said she's a good liar and it will only escalate.

@slashlover no she won't be thinking about it,as she got what she wanted.
The call was made in jan/feb last year but I didn't get confirmation it was deffo her till months later.
Like I say your right tho ..going over it is achieving zilch so I will try and move on now
Thankyou for your advice

OP you’ve posted about this several times and got the same answers every time. I think you need to approach a counselling service to help you move on with your life. No one on an online forum is going to be able to help you.