To report someone ?

[chillipepperr]

If you thought someone was committing fraud would you contact the police?
Or DWP?
Or would you just leave it alone?
What if you really disliked this person?

@Maves

Oh so she's stealing her grandads money you mean? That's fucked

She wasn't.

Awww @chillipepperr there are a lot of snakes out there. You are better off without her xx

This friend had some sort of weird vendetta against me and it was one thing after the other.
She knew how much I loved him and knew me inside and out.
She knew it wasn't true but did it to cause me trouble.
It's massively affected me.

Did you post this before?

It sounds as if you have no proof.

How do you know he hasn't asked her to spend as much as she can to avoid IHT or something?

Do you actually have any proof at all? You said it’s just a feeling, simply because she’s spending money?

Maybe her grandfather is giving it to her? Maybe she has income from elsewhere.

I get shes hurt you but move on - you said really bitter.

Ooh ok well you did nothing wrong fuck her. How do you even know it was her?

No absolutely not. I've got through three investigations all of which where disproved very quickly. 2 were actively malicious,one was DWP being a dipstick. All were hell.

I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Unless you have something way more substantial than a hunch I wouldn't even consider it.

@chillipepperr

This friend had some sort of weird vendetta against me and it was one thing after the other. She knew how much I loved him and knew me inside and out. She knew it wasn't true but did it to cause me trouble. It's massively affected me.

Loved who?

It must have been horrible for you. There seems to be some people who really enjoy maliciously reporting anything and everything.

It looks bad on her, not you OP.

Wait, so your ex friend reported you for fraud?

Sorry, I'm lost. Can you type out what actually happened and what you are asking instead of a list of hypothetical questions then flipping who did what to who please.

Don't put the DWP or the grandad through anything horrible for your revenge.

Reporting someone because you dislike them - with no actual concrete evidence of ANYthing, is remarkably childish and spiteful.

Sorry
She knew how much I loved my grandad.
I found out as a mutual friend said something that she could have only known from said friend about the report (I didn't tell her about it ) so the only way she knew was from friend.
Then when I questioned her about it,she flipped it and painted me as the "psycho"
She wasn't shocked or surprised as you might expect finding it something like that ..as she knew.

@chillipepperr

Sorry She knew how much I loved my grandad. I found out as a mutual friend said something that she could have only known from said friend about the report (I didn't tell her about it ) so the only way she knew was from friend. Then when I questioned her about it,she flipped it and painted me as the "psycho" She wasn't shocked or surprised as you might expect finding it something like that ..as she knew.

Found out what?

You posted about this not too long ago, didn't you OP?

Last year there was someone on here asking if she should report her friend in similar circumstances to what you describe but that was about the dad not grandad.
Something about spending more than she earned and suspecting she was fraudulently using dads money. Think she got her arse handed to her.
Wonder if that was your 'friend'

@pictish

No, I would not report someone out of spite because I disliked them.

I would. Why pass up a golden opportunity?

It really is just tit for tat then.

I'm lost...was it op that was reported for fraud

No I would not report. No way of knowing for sure.

Sorry, I’m a bit confused...
You were reported based on spite and hadn’t done anything wrong.
You aren’t thinking of reporting the ex friend,
you are upset you were reported?

You are justified in feeling angry, rage, sadness etc. I’m sorry you experienced this and didn’t deserve it. I hope you find better friends who don’t behave like this. I have had someone lying about me and it truly rocked me. So I understand. I would never do this to someone, even my ‘enemy’. Hope you can move on.

Today is just a bit of a sad day.
I'm just wondering what I did for her to hate me so much.
I was a good friend to her.
I have times when I'm ok and I'm positive then days like today where I'm just upset all the time.

I'm so confused!

Were you the one reported for fraud? And you hadn't done anything wrong but it still caused you lots of stress/anguish?

@sunflowersandbuttercups yes,this "ex friend" did this to me.
It was over and done with a while ago now but it's still left me feeling awful.
The fact she convinced others she was telling the truth.
It turned people against me and obviously caused me stress etc whilst it was being investigated

@LunaHeather

Don't put the DWP or the grandad through anything horrible for your revenge.

Luna the op was the one that was reported by her so called friend and she doesn’t know why.