Housing officer rang social services on me..aibu to think it was out of order?

[beenkeen]

My mum was 65 when she was diagnosed with dementia.
By the time she was 70 it was advanced.
I became her carer and looked after her.
I moved in with her.
She lived in a council property (the same one for over 30 years).
I was her appointee so dealt with her finances and also her appointee with the council so they could deal with me.
My mum had vascular dementia.
She had hallucinations (both visual and heard voices) she only liked me in the house with her.
Then in walks a new housing officer,she rang me and said she wanted to come and meet my mum.
I explained her dementia and she said "oh don't worry I won't stay long"
I said I don't feel comfortable with this as it will upset my mum, can I come into the office and we can chat like that ..she agreed and went to meet her and explained.
She said she understood and no problem.
Two weeks later she rang saying "Clive" had to visit us to conduct a property survey.
I said "ok but can you please explain about the dementia to Clive "
She said yes ..
Day of apt arrived
I obviously expected Clive
Opened the door
It was her,with a social worker and a police officer.
She made the survey apt up to gain access.
She looked in every room and told me she rang social services as "I seemed stressed and she wasn't sure if living in this property was best for my mum anymore "
And said ..maybe assisted living or a care home.
I was so angry
She didn't know me
She didn't know my mum
I was stressed and upset enough
Anyway my mum has now passed away
This was last year but honestly I'm still so angry
Aibu here or was this out of order ?

I'm sorry for your loss OP. I used to be a council housing tenant and I had a similar thing happen to me - inappropriate and underhand social services referral. It does happen sometimes. Housing staff do need to be on the look out for vulnerable tenants but they are often poorly trained and they have low expectations for their tenants so they extrapolate in any situation based on their own prejudices.

If it happened last year I would probably drop it now and focus on your grief (perhaps seek counselling), as presumably the case will be closed now and a complaint wouldn't achieve anything.

In my case I felt determined to prove them wrong so I saved up and managed to buy my flat with a tidy discount, it means that I have more rights over my home and I will be able to sell it on (at a good profit) in a few years and leave the area entirely.