AIBU to say that couples incessantly holding hands on property finding programmes f**is me off ?

[Sunnysideoftheshite]

Drives me nuts , why do they have to cling to each other on shows such as "A Place in the Sun" ( naff I know, but love it ) and " Location, location" ? Makes me cringe .

Blimey I had no idea people had such strong feelings about this! I cling on to my Husband's hand/arm at all times. I've got a dodgy hip and I'll fall over if I don't

theleafandnotthetree

^SomewhereInbetween1

Because they want to 😂 I feel a bit weird if I'm walking with DH and not holding his hand.^

Seriously?

Yes, seriously. Not sure why that's so controversial

@Hoiking

I actually LOLd at that 😂😂😂

DH and I cuddle on the sofa at the end of the day but a hand round the small of my back just sounds uncomfortable.

@Sendingasurprise

I prefer not to see it in public, just seems too personal. Over 80's etc exempt as may help with steadiness.

Really?? We’re not talking about nakedness or lewdness ... just holding hands! 🤦‍♀️ My word mumsnet police.

The old chestnut where the man puts his hand on his wife's back to guide and shepherd her around the house lest she fall over/get lost/Christ knows what else has been much commented upon here

Aw I like it when my partner does that, but he usually also drops his hand for a squeeze of my bum. I'd hope he wouldn't do that on TV! Knowing my luck though he would.

It's not the holding hands, it's the doing it in public that seems unnecessary. Public displays of affection used to be considered as being in poor taste - this must have changed a bit over the years.

Chewing each others faces off in public may have been seen as poor taste. Holding hands certainly wasn't. 🤔

I do wonder a bit when they show a retired couple buying a house which is very obviously intended as a family house. It seems such a waste having all those bedrooms lying empty on the off-chance that someone will get around to visiting them

To be fair there was one a year or so ago where the woman was from New Zealand and was insisting on a bedroom for guests - Kirstie told her she was going to spend about another £70K and she'd get a lot of hotel room nights for her family for that money!

As for the holding hands, fine. I do find it a bit teenage "oh look I've got a boyfriend" but it's fine as long as they will let go and walk single file when needs be - not just in covid times. The problem is so many won't.

Funny enough my DH was watching one of the is it where they move to the Country side and he said excatly that 🤣.We have been married 26yrs now so he thinks hand holding is for teenagers 🤣.

@Sendingasurprise

It's not the holding hands, it's the doing it in public that seems unnecessary. Public displays of affection used to be considered as being in poor taste - this must have changed a bit over the years.

I wouldn't consider holding hands as very public displays of affection, it is quite normal.

I haven't seen these programmes but just had a shufti at Escape From the City - An Aussie lifestyle program and yes, the man's hand in the small of the woman's back is a thing, as is handholding. Not so much for the lesbian and transwoman couple episode.

Anyhoo, one thing I noticed on coming to live in Australia nearly fifteen years ago was that handholding while walking down the street was and still is a thing. Middle-aged and older couples mostly. It's never when shopping, but when going for a walk round the streets, also a thing.

I'm middle-aged myself and loved my late DH dearly and were expressive of this, though not in a ewww way. But we never did the handholding thing. We both remarked on it at the time.

Well I think it's nice and I'm just so jealous because I wish I had someone to hold my hand. No one fancies me though

I did catch some new quiz show called Lingo. There was a couple on that where the wifie was literally hanging off her husband's arm, kissing his arm, etc. That did look really sad

[quote CorianderBee]@Arobase you'd hate being me then. I still hold my mums hand when we're out together. She told me off when I tried to stop as a teen and so I still do it.

Sometimes hold my dads hand.

Mostly hold my partners hand.

We're hand holders apparently.[/quote]
What the f.....?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

I'm sorry but that's disturbing and bordering on illegal

@Sunnysideoftheshite

Just to clarify , I have no problem with affection, couples holding hands when walking etc. I do it from time to time with my husband . What I do have a problem with is dragging each other round from room to room like the world's going to end.

I agree. And DP and I are that hand holding/morphing into each other on the sofa couple. It is weird that they are so stuck together on TV though. I can let go of DP when necessary 😆.

I imagine that if they have teenagers then those offspring must be mortified and pray their mates don't see it!

@SomewhereInbetween1

Because they want to 😂 I feel a bit weird if I'm walking with DH and not holding his hand.

Don't worry, you'll grow out of it.

@BritWifeinUSA

It’s irritating. But what I find worse are the couples who insist on a big kitchen “because we live to cook and entertain” and then it shows a clip of them supposedly cooking and one of them is sawing on a carrot with completely the wrong knife and the other is doing that open-mouthed head back pretend laugh with some random people to “prove” to us that they have friends and that they “entertain”.

One couple I remember the house was perfect in every way but they stood in the drive with the presenter and said “ssssh! We want to see if we can hear any traffic”. Silence. In the very distant, distant background you could just about hear a solitary car. “No good” they declared. “We don’t want any traffic noise”. Later it showed that they moved in with their two huge SUVs (because they “live rurally” now so they to wear green wellies and drive an SUV so that people know that they “live rurally”) and Mr proudly says that his journey to the train station at 5 am to catch the early train to London takes 15 minutes in his new SUV. So it’s ok for him to screech along the country lanes at 5 am but heaven forbid anyone else should drive along at 2 in the afternoon.

I recall watching some property programme where the woman carried her favourite pan round with her because the kitchen had to match her pans. Luckily for her, Kirsty wasn't involved!

Yes, I find it a bit bizarre when someone decides against a perfectly nice house because they reckon their dining table won't fit in the dining room, or something similar. Usually it's a couple who definitely don't need a mahoosive great dining table anyway.

I think it's more expected here to hold your husband or partner in utter contempt.

I don't, I'm really rather partial to DH. But I still don't want to clutch his hand in public.

I think it's more expected here to hold your husband or partner in utter contempt

And you base this on what exactly?

I have been married 30 years (in 3 weeks) and never hold hands.