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Stressed about living situation

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Umbrella22 · 28/01/2021 18:10

Boyfriend lives with parents as he's trying to save up and he has a job near them but hasn't been able to work in months due to tiers and lockdown.
He moved in with me when we went into lockdown (I live in a flat share)

His plan was to stay for a month, but his parents have told him that he's not allowed to come back until lockdown ends, which is looking like April now.

I would really like him to stay longer of course, the only problem is that I've just signed for a new en suite flat share which is for single occupancy only. It wasn't in our plans to move in right away, and he needs to find a job closer first.

They have already stated that it's not for couples. I think a few weeks would be ok but staying until April would be really screwing them over, don't want to be in breach of my contract.

We did discuss it before but he said he wouldn't be staying for months so I went ahead and signed for the room. His parents are adamant he can't come back.

On the other hand it depends on him getting a job here. If I got a couples' room and he didn't get a job then it'd be for nothing.

Just not sure what to do,feel like I am in an awkward situation. I do really want him to stay but don't think it's fair to the landlord and likely illegal.

OP posts:
billy1966 · 28/01/2021 22:21

Well done OP.

He is not yours to fix.

Move into this new room and give yourself the best chance to settle in with out bad feeling.

He is not your responsibility.

Please re think a relationship that has you minding someone.

You are so young.
You will bitterly regret not enjoying these years.

Don't get tied down and used.

Best of luck with the move.
Protect yourself.Flowers

Stompythedinosaur · 28/01/2021 22:22

Good decision op.

If his parents aren't willing to have him living with them then he needs to sort out his own accommodation.

mrsbyers · 28/01/2021 22:27

Why don’t you ask the landlord first ?

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