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Cleaner trying on employers makeup

112 replies

seaclaidte · 27/01/2021 17:21

Would this be a sackable offense for most?
It's a new cleaner by the way. Self employed, so no agency.

Also it was a lipstick.
House owner had left the house but came back to retrieve forgotten item and caught cleaner in the act.

OP posts:
AStudyinPink · 27/01/2021 17:33

That’s one of the most disgusting things I’ve ever heard. 😂 Single White Female?

glassshoes · 27/01/2021 17:33

Yes, I think trying on lipstick in a pandemic is a reasonable stackable offence tbh

WhereverIGoddamnLike · 27/01/2021 17:33

She'd have been gone that day and that would have been the end of it. You need to be able to trust the people getting all access to your home.

WINKINGatyourage · 27/01/2021 17:33

Btw it’s not the employer, it’s a client. Self employed cleaners don’t have an employer.

Ileflottante · 27/01/2021 17:34

@WhereDoMyBluebirdsFly

Perfume is ok, it's normal to be curious about how it smells and doesn't involve sharing bodily secretions. Putting lipstick on her lips, in a pandemic?! No. So unhygienic.
I don’t think this is ok. It’s helping yourself to personal cosmetics belonging to your employer. Just no. I don’t give a shit if someone is curious, they should learn to control themselves!
AStudyinPink · 27/01/2021 17:34

Perfume is ok, it's normal to be curious about how it smells...

It’s still theft and still very very cheeky.

StoneofDestiny · 27/01/2021 17:34

Yelp - lack of trust in your home - couldn't have that cleaner back.

Newfor2021 · 27/01/2021 17:34

Yes, my ex Nanny started wearing my clothes..... including my knickers!!! Envy (not envy!)

HollowTalk · 27/01/2021 17:35

Perfume is stupid, too, given that the smell lingers. But trying on someone else's lipstick during Covid? That takes stupidity to a whole new level.

Imiss2019 · 27/01/2021 17:35

Totally crossing boundaries would terminate services straight away

Lucieintheskye · 27/01/2021 17:36

Absolutely a sackable offence. It's entirely inappropriate and shows a lack of boundaries between what is wrong and right. I'd be worried the cleaner would be helping themselves to other things around the house e.g. trying on clothes, using gadgets or eating food.

peboh · 27/01/2021 17:37

Ew. Yes that's completely sackable, especially during covid times. What the hell?

unmarkedbythat · 27/01/2021 17:38

I'd rather someone nicked it than used it and put it back without me knowing. I couldn't have them back in my house, it's such a stupid thing to do.

grapewine · 27/01/2021 17:39

Who the hell does this? Sacked PDQ. It's gross and incredibly boundary-crossing.

BatleyTownswomensGuild · 27/01/2021 17:40

I normally eye-roll when people come on here and moan about their cleaners. ("My cleaner drank a can of my coke, should I sack her?" Etc) But this one would absolutely be a step over the line for me.

  1. Hygiene issues - especially in a time of effing pandemic ffs!
  2. Total lack of respect for personal possessions etc.

There are many hard-working and respectful cleaners out there. You don't need this one!

Reinventinganna · 27/01/2021 17:42

I would wonder what else they were doing while the client was out.

Bluntness100 · 27/01/2021 17:48

Are you sure you absolutely caught her op. Directly putting it on her mouth? How come she didn’t hear you come in?

longandwide · 27/01/2021 17:49

Bit of a coincidence wasn't it? Nip out, come back shortly after to get the exact item that the cleaner decided to use - and catch her in the act - even though her use of the lipstick likely only lasted 30 seconds and she would almost certainly have heard the OP re-entering the house and coming towards the room.

I'm calling a "Didn't happen."

But if it did, make sure you give Eric a sniff and a rinse under the hot tap just to be on the safe side.

peboh · 27/01/2021 17:49

@WhereDoMyBluebirdsFly

Perfume is ok, it's normal to be curious about how it smells and doesn't involve sharing bodily secretions. Putting lipstick on her lips, in a pandemic?! No. So unhygienic.
That's still not okay. I wouldn't feel comfortable to know that anybody I've entrusted to enter my home to work is helping themselves to any of my personal items. Not okay. Never okay.
AStudyinPink · 27/01/2021 17:49

Who’s Eric?

Katrinawaves · 27/01/2021 17:49

@Newfor2021 my former nanny did the same thing. Wonder if it was the same person!

WINKINGatyourage · 27/01/2021 17:52

Nip out, come back shortly after to get the exact item that the cleaner decided to use

No. Read the OP again.

unmarkedbythat · 27/01/2021 17:53

Eric? [cnfused]

unmarkedbythat · 27/01/2021 17:53

Or even Confused

Bluntness100 · 27/01/2021 17:54

@longandwide

Bit of a coincidence wasn't it? Nip out, come back shortly after to get the exact item that the cleaner decided to use - and catch her in the act - even though her use of the lipstick likely only lasted 30 seconds and she would almost certainly have heard the OP re-entering the house and coming towards the room.

I'm calling a "Didn't happen."

But if it did, make sure you give Eric a sniff and a rinse under the hot tap just to be on the safe side.

Yeah that’s what I’m thinking. If this is real the op suspects she used it. The odds of catching her in the act are unbelievably small.