DH in a mood because I received an appointment for my covid jab

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I am several years older than him and have been shielding since last March due to a medical condition. I showed him my appt and he just humphed and grumpily said I wonder when I will get mine. He seems to think he should have his now even though he is not in any of the top four categories, why can't he be pleased that I have mine and that the more people that are vaccinated the sooner we will be able to have a bit more normality in our lives.

Of course yanbu but you know that already.

Is this his normal personality or is he particularly stressed. Seems like odd behaviour and not particularly loving.

What's life like with him generally? Oh and pleased you have your appt hope it brings you some comfort

I’ve had mine because I work for the NHS in a patient facing role.

Husband would love to get his too because he has asthma and gets bronchitis, but he understands that he has to wait.

He was pleased for me that I could get mine earlier than I would otherwise have done

Is this a one-off for him, or is it how he normally is?

Wow. My dh had his weeks ago, I didn't think much about it. I use it as an excuse/reason for him to go to shops and our dd to doctor and hospital when ill.

My DH got his injection last week. I am pleased for him, I am under 70 so will just wait for my turn.

Think it’s very hard in households where one gets it and not the other. DH has had his as works for NHS whilst I’m currently vulnerable and having to live with him (no evidence he can’t still carry or pass it on) and living in fear.

Think it’s a bit crap for families in our situation.

Grasping at straws.... Could he be wanting it so as to protect you? Even on a subliminal level...

I will definitely be having mine! Yes, whenever I am I'll or have a headache etc he always has something worse, if I broke a leg he would say he had broken two.

That's an odd attitude. DH will be getting his soon as CEV which is a relief, I won't be but that is OK as he is more vulnerable.

I doubt it SummerHouse

I do sort of understand your husband's point of view. All my family have been vaccinated - my parents as they're old and my sisters as they work for the nhs. And I just feel like I am very far down the queue as I'm in my 40s and yes, I do feel a bit jealous. I have kept it to myself though.

That isn’t very loving.

@Hattieintheskywithdiamonds

Think it’s very hard in households where one gets it and not the other. DH has had his as works for NHS whilst I’m currently vulnerable and having to live with him (no evidence he can’t still carry or pass it on) and living in fear.

Think it’s a bit crap for families in our situation.

I agree with this. It's difficult.

@Hattieintheskywithdiamonds

Think it’s very hard in households where one gets it and not the other. DH has had his as works for NHS whilst I’m currently vulnerable and having to live with him (no evidence he can’t still carry or pass it on) and living in fear.

Think it’s a bit crap for families in our situation.

That sounds really hard.

It sounds part of your DHs previous behaviour but I have seen others like it to recently. I work in ss and have had my first dose. My own DM kept commenting about my DGM not having been invited yet. No mention of my jab just a direct comparison. I had to sheild in lockdown 1 due to being cv which seems to have conviently been forgotten

Yes, whenever I am I'll or have a headache etc he always has something worse, if I broke a leg he would say he had broken two

Bloody Hell are we married to the same man? I can’t ever be ill in peace. If I’m ill he’s iller 🙄

I’m so glad he’s having his jab on Friday. I’m way down the line. I’ll wait my turn (and see if he has any side effects 😉🤭😬).

He sounds lie an arsehole. What do you find attractive about him today?

My db and dsis have had their first jab as they work for the nhs in patient facing rules. I would have had mine by now but am pregnant so unless advised otherwise will be waiting till baby is born. I am happy for my db and dsis and am hoping my parents get theirs in the next few months.

He is being inconsiderate but if this is unusual for him I would let it go. If this behaviour is typical of him I would tell him to stop being an arsehole but that is just me.

Well, it's normal to feel a bit what about me, but not reasonable to be so grumpy about it.

He sounds great.

@Hattieintheskywithdiamonds

Think it’s very hard in households where one gets it and not the other. DH has had his as works for NHS whilst I’m currently vulnerable and having to live with him (no evidence he can’t still carry or pass it on) and living in fear.

Think it’s a bit crap for families in our situation.

Surely this is the case whether he has the vaccine or not

Seahorseoraml not much at all really.

He was very pleased when his DM had hers

Wow. So he would rather you weren't offered the vaccine and then were seriously ill or worse?

I don't think his reaction is okay at all, given you must be clinically vulnerable to receive it as this point. Surely he wants you to be safe and well.

Not sure how easily I could get over that really.

How weird! My DH had his before Christmas, I’m pregnant so not getting one.

I’m glad he has some level of protection.