Page 3 | DH in a mood because I received an appointment for my covid jab

Sciics · 25/01/2021 20:32

Yanbu!
I’m under 30 and perfectly healthy and I had my vaccine before Christmas. I’m not going to be ashamed or made to feel bad because of that. (NHS worker) I test covid samples so that’s my justification anyway.

Anystarinthesky · 25/01/2021 20:38

He should be happy and relieved for you, such a selfish attitude.

ragged · 25/01/2021 20:41

Vaccine Envy is so weird.

Confuzzlediddled · 25/01/2021 20:44

My exh was like this, towards the end one time that sticks in my mind is when I was at the hospital having a colposcopy, they said I might feel a bit under the weather after it, got to the car park and I said I had to sit down as I felt a bit faint, his reaction was to say that he didn't feel too good, web been we got home he was going to go to his bed and I was to make sure he got peace from our 2 yr old twins...

YouWontBelieveYourEyes · 25/01/2021 20:45

DH and I are both NHS, he received his jab weeks ago where as I have only just been invited for mine. I was pleased he had it as he works on ITU. It’s not a competition.

everythingbackbutyou · 25/01/2021 21:00

@Confuzzlediddled, aren't these guys something? I had threatened preterm labour at 32 weeks with my youngest. I got home after 2 days in hospital and supposed to be taking it easy. Well, then who was going to watch the other children?

mumwon · 25/01/2021 21:13

I keep looking at our phones each day to check if dh has got an appointment - I will be really glad when he has - I wont get mine for ages I expect- but that's OK

tara66 · 25/01/2021 21:35

I understand in some cases a DH or partner that does not have appointment but goes too sometimes also can get one at the same time - especially if it is Pfizer (which doesn't last long out of deep freeze).

Peakedin1997 · 25/01/2021 22:03

In response to Cuntitinthebin's point, I think there is potentially an increased risk to family members of vaccinated NHS staff - if the vaccine doesn't prevent transmission, but does prevent symptoms, then the vaccinated are more likely to pass it around their colleagues and families, because they won't realise they are infected and therefore won't self isolate.

My dp has had the vaccine but I'm way down the list. I'm happy that he's had it, mostly because I don't want him to get ill. But also because it means that he has to do all of the shopping, and can look after me and the kids if I get ill

PrivateHall · 25/01/2021 22:10

@Originalyellowbelly

I am several years older than him and have been shielding since last March due to a medical condition. I showed him my appt and he just humphed and grumpily said I wonder when I will get mine. He seems to think he should have his now even though he is not in any of the top four categories, why can't he be pleased that I have mine and that the more people that are vaccinated the sooner we will be able to have a bit more normality in our lives.

Sadly a LOT of people feel this way. Post after post after post of people saying 'what about meeeee'! Incredible. People aren't getting what mass vaccination is aiming to achieve. It is not about protecting an individual, but protecting the whole population. The more people who are vaccinated, the better for us all. When are people going to understand this?

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Originalyellowbelly · 25/01/2021 22:10

He is very jealous that I am getting the vaccine, he's not jealous of the disease that makes me vulnerable though, I wish I wasn't a priority but that's the way the cookie crumbles. I'd happily swap places with him.

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PrivateHall · 25/01/2021 22:11

@Peakedin1997

In response to Cuntitinthebin's point, I think there is potentially an increased risk to family members of vaccinated NHS staff - if the vaccine doesn't prevent transmission, but does prevent symptoms, then the vaccinated are more likely to pass it around their colleagues and families, because they won't realise they are infected and therefore won't self isolate.

My dp has had the vaccine but I'm way down the list. I'm happy that he's had it, mostly because I don't want him to get ill. But also because it means that he has to do all of the shopping, and can look after me and the kids if I get ill

There is a lot of evidence that asymptomatic people are less likely to spread it. Nothing conclusive, but it does make total sense.

Peakedin1997 · 25/01/2021 22:16

Fingers crossed PrivateHall

PrivateHall · 25/01/2021 22:18

@Peakedin1997

Fingers crossed PrivateHall

Yes, I agree, so many unknowns aren't there!

Ellie56 · 25/01/2021 22:19

A grown man is sulking because you've got an appointment (because your need is greater than his) and he hasn't?

He sounds like a massive twat. Tell him to grow up.

Bourbonic · 25/01/2021 22:22

Of course you're not unreasonable, he should be pleased for you.

My husband is group 4 clinically extremely vulnerable and I'm group 6. They rang him to make an appointment and he asked if I could have mine at the same time though. Not sure whether that could apply to you?

Lemons1571 · 25/01/2021 22:30

@Bourbonic did they say yea?

I’d give him a break tbh. It’s been a hard year and lots of people are emotional. I’d be gutted too. Would be really happy that they got their vaccine. But also scared that the vaccinated partner might in time forget that they still need to protect me.

Bourbonic · 25/01/2021 22:33

Yes. Wasn't an issue at all. He asked and they just made the appointment for the same time as his.

PurpleMustang · 25/01/2021 22:33

Wow, he just wanted to piss on your chips, didn't he!

Totallydefeated · 25/01/2021 22:46

Not nice for you to see him so blatantly jealous, Op.

CEV DH is having his tomorrow, and I’m thrilled for him, even though I’m bottom of the list of priorities and won’t be getting mine for ages. Why wouldn’t I be? His need is clearly much greater than mine, so it’s only fair he gets his first. And most importantly, I’m so glad the risk of him getting really ill or dying is about to dramatically reduce.

Can’t imagine being jealous that i didn’t get mine before him. I mean, how self-centred would you have to be to think like that?

IEat · 25/01/2021 22:47

I’m like your dh inher so jealous when a person close to me gets something/does something I want to have/do. I don’t think no hide or too well but they are sweet enough not to say anything

mummytolittledragons · 25/01/2021 22:48

He sounds like a sulky immature teenager op you must have the patience of a saint .

eastegg · 25/01/2021 23:10

I'll confess to vaccine jealousy, in my case it's jealousy of my ILs on behalf of my DM. I could see a mile off they were going to get theirs before her despite being in a slightly lower priority group by age, and being in general good health whereas DM had a stroke a year ago. They knew that their area were ahead of the curve whereas my 87 year old DF had his only 2 weeks ago. Sure enough they've been called and DM hasn't.

It's so typical; they lead a bit of a charmed life and would have been up in arms if they'd had to wait a bit like my DF did. Bah.

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Originalyellowbelly · 25/01/2021 23:27

My DC had there vaccine way before me because they are NHS workers, I was so pleased they did, I was happy to wait my turn as I'm happy to stay indoors, it's too bloody cold anyway! But for someone at no risk and wfh to kick off is just pathetic.

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Orangeblossom1977 · 26/01/2021 20:06

What is group 6 please?