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Original poster

To be annoyed by this comment

96 replies

HNY2021 · 21/01/2021 07:06

OH ‘they are using X as a vaccine centre’
Me ‘oh DS foresaw that happening’
OH ‘he didn’t foresee that, X was used as a testing centre it’s pretty obvious, it’s like saying Christmas Day will be ok the 25th of December this year’

For context DS is 9

Also what would have been your response to that.

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Changemaname1 · 21/01/2021 07:37

I think I get it it so you think your ds made an observant remark sort of thing that they would use x as a vaccination place and as with our kids things like that impress us because we think oh aren’t they clever etc because that’s how we are with them 🤷🏻‍♀️

And then your dp said that

Agree with others tho is there a backstory ?

FutureDuchessofHastings · 21/01/2021 07:38

Your son guessing they might use the test centre as a vaccination centre is a bit of a non event, sorry. He's nine, not four. Arguing with your husband about it because he wasn't as impressed as you seems a bit of an over reaction to be honest

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 21/01/2021 07:39

You're right OP your child is an absolute genius 🙄
How would that conversation even occur with a 9 year old child?

AndIquote · 21/01/2021 07:42

Then you come on here to see what nit picking is really about Grin

LApprentiSorcier · 21/01/2021 07:43

It was a good observation by your son. Not sure why your OH made such a meal of it.

Absolutely nothing wrong with the word 'foresaw'. It has no psychic connotations in the context you used it.

tigerlily20 · 21/01/2021 07:44

Sounds a bit jealous, couldn't acknowledge that ds had been very observant and he sounds a bit rude too, I would also have taken issue.

Bluntness100 · 21/01/2021 07:45

Ok. If there is no back story and he’s not putting the child down regularly fhen, yeah, you’re being a twat.

ThorFull · 21/01/2021 07:46

I’ve been pissed off with my DH for the way he speaks about my youngest son.
It’s in his tone, the subtle way he treats them differently, and the odd word here and there.
I pick up on it and react.
Maybe this was one of those times for you?

Ameliablue · 21/01/2021 07:57

In isolation you are making a mountain of of a molehill. Either this is representative of bigger relationship problems or lockdown has got to both of you making you both irritable.

Original poster
HNY2021 · 21/01/2021 07:57

@Bluntness100 so for clarification I’m being a test for saying the sentence’DS foresaw that’

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shitinmyhandsandclap · 21/01/2021 07:58

I get you op, I'm sure others do but some people can't help being sarcastic. He made an observation and your DH belittled him for it, he's only 9 so probably was quite upset

Ffsnosexallowed · 21/01/2021 08:02

@HNY2021 you still haven't explained how this turned into a massive argument?

SmileyClare · 21/01/2021 08:06

Look, either your partner regularly belittles your son and is dismissive of him, in which case it's understandable you're annoyed.
Or this is a one off comment from your partner and you need to take your son off the pedestal and lighten up.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 21/01/2021 08:07

I know what you you mean,

The other day I said to OH "Do you fancy a cup of tea" and they just said 'No'. Didn't add a 'thank you' or say 'not a the moment' or even remind me that they don't drink tea, (which they don't).

I slammed the door and thought about kicking the cat, then I remembered we don't have one and tapping the goldfish bowl quite hard doesn't release the same amount of tension.

What would you have done?

Grin
GeordieGreigsButtButtZoom · 21/01/2021 08:09

Whatever you were arguing about, it wasn't your use of the word "foresaw".

imalmosthere · 21/01/2021 08:10

I don't get why you had a row?
It's a non event. Your husband was right, he made an observation. I don't get why you reacted enough to have a row about it? Confused

Timeontimeoff · 21/01/2021 08:10

It would appear that many people are under unusual stress with the pandemic if this type of comment results in a 'massive argument'.....
I hope both you and your partner find calm soon

contrmary · 21/01/2021 08:11

I don't understand how or why you turned it into a massive argument. Why didn't you just leave it, agree to disagree.

Anyone could have foreseen that was the best course of action.

NoParticularPattern · 21/01/2021 08:13

This resulted in a massive argument?! Jesus. It’s a nonevent. Neither of you needed to nitpick or have a row but for some reason you both felt it was necessary. Either there’s a massive back story or you both need to grow up a bit. Probably apart.

Gazelda · 21/01/2021 08:13

Without knowing the back story, it's hard to understand how this escalated into a massive row.
I hope you can now agree to disagree and put it behind you.

HappydaysArehere · 21/01/2021 08:14

This made me laugh.

Original poster
HNY2021 · 21/01/2021 08:16

There was a big argument because I disagreed with his disagreement and he had a go at me for arguing with him. I feel I have a right to reply.

From now on I’ll just bite my tongue and smile and nod.

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Catty1720 · 21/01/2021 08:20

Was in just in a bad mood op?? It sounds like a small thing has escalated?

notanothertakeaway · 21/01/2021 08:26

As always, I think there must be a backstory / history

In a happy house, there might be a bit of gentle testing for thinking the child is a genius, or acknowledgement that kids can be more,astute than we might give them credit for

GeordieGreigsButtButtZoom · 21/01/2021 08:32

@HNY2021

There was a big argument because I disagreed with his disagreement and he had a go at me for arguing with him. I feel I have a right to reply.

From now on I’ll just bite my tongue and smile and nod.

I think you should address the real issues.
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