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To think my husbands disgusting!

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JustCuriousToday · 20/01/2021 23:37

Hi all,

This is kinda light hearted but also really annoying and gross, but tonight's really annoyed me as it's the third time now and I want to say usually farts and bodily fluids don't bother me BUT :- I am heavily pregnant, 38 weeks and 5 days and my husband has come into the bathroom to pass me my pjs off of the radiator as it's freezing tonight (which was very nice of him) but when he was in the bathroom he's farted and left shutting the door which has caused me to be sick absolutely everywhere, he thinks this is funny but jokes on him because he has to clean it as I can't bend down but it's annoying because this is the third time he's done it now, the first was a few weeks ago when I was in the bath he came in to ask me something, farted and left closing the door luckily I wasn't as big then so could get out the bath quickly and be sick in the toilet, same with the second time it always seems to be when I'm in the bath so I asked him if he comes into the bathroom while I'm there not to fart, I don't feel like he really needs to do it there and then, he can wait until he's outside of the bathroom and I think what annoys me more is he thinks it's funny! Am I being unreasonable to ask that until the baby is born (literally next week) to try and not fart in enclosed spaces or should I LTB? I am half joking but it's horrible to be heavily pregnant and then to be made sick unnecessarily, I know I'm being unreasonable as it's just a natural bodily function but I just wanted somewhere to vent and it's not really something you want to share with real life friends Blush ugh does anyone else have a disgusting husband or is it just me? Grin (he's lovely about everything else and has been a big help in the pregnancy, he just can't hold his farts in apparently!)

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MsHedgehog · 21/01/2021 01:07

I'm very much against farting in front of other people. Each to their own, but for me it's a big no (ironically, I suffer from rectal damage that means there are times I fart without knowing I will!). But when DH and I first moved in, he would fart in front of me and I found it disgusting.

He found it funny at first until I explained how disrespectful it is to fart in front of me when he knows how I feel. He has since stopped. I hear him fart in other rooms but I don't call him out on that because it's not his fault I can hear!

But the point is, he stopped out of respect for me. Your DH shows no respect for you by knowing it makes you throw up, but making no conscious effort to avoid farting in front of you. That is both disgusting and simply rude!

purplecorkheart · 21/01/2021 01:10

Seriously, unless he has a health condition could he have not have held it until he left the bathroom. Sorry he is either stupid or cruel. You were sick once from him farting.

PyongyangKipperbang · 21/01/2021 01:11

My sister thought it hilarious that her (fucking rank) house cats shitting made me retch. She deliberately didnt tell me once and I got a face full and threw up on her newly varnished wood floor. It went everywhere. I went home.

Oddly enough, she has always warned me since then!

PyongyangKipperbang · 21/01/2021 01:12

And farts make me retch too. I think it is the thought of (sorry!!!) "shitty air" in me that makes it worse.

Scalphelp · 21/01/2021 01:17

You profusely vomiting can’t be great for the baby, tell him he needs to be more respectful of you/your child - he’s making his pregnant partner physically sick. Any decent man would feel guilty about that

Joinedjustforthispost · 21/01/2021 01:20

Op yes farts are natural and I think they are funny but it’s disgusting and a power move farting when he knows it makes you vomit, it’s abusive doing it repeatedly. I’ve just recently given birth to dc 3 and me and my dh usually are light hearted with farting but he let rip when I was pregnant and it made me retch , he apologised and made the effort to go in to a different room to me to fart because he cares and isn’t a child and doesn’t enjoy making his pregnant wife sick.

BaggoMcoys · 21/01/2021 01:20

My ex partner found farting hilarious. It is literally (in the correct sense of the word) the only thing that makes him laugh. In the 11+ years I've known him, he's not laughed at anything else. He sometimes would fart and I'd think he had spoken and say "excuse me?" He found that most hilarious of all. I've never found toilet humour funny and generally think farts don't really need to be commented on. He was bad in many other ways though. If it was just the farting, I think I could have coped.

The one good side about it, is that once I was chronically constipated... I made some horrendous smells and had no control over it at all. I think with anyone else I'd have been mortified... I kind of still was a bit, but it wasn't too bad.

Charliecatpaws · 21/01/2021 01:42

He’s a fucking pig.....no way should he be doing that he’s acting like a child......sorry I couldn’t live with a man-child like this 🤢🤮

Hatstrategicallydipped · 21/01/2021 01:48

Ever hear on an arsehole?

Where do farts come from?
Arseholes.

Hatstrategicallydipped · 21/01/2021 01:49

What is he eating that's making him have nasty farts? I'd starve the fucker into submission lol. Men are so fucking smelly.

whereismormonjesus · 21/01/2021 01:54

Oh op, you poor thing.

I can’t cope with farts either, especially not when pregnant. If I’m eating and somebody in the room farts, I have to chuck the food away. I also get a sore throat but I’m sure that’s psychosomatic as I’m thinking about all of the shite particles in the air. Ergh ergh ergh.

A man doing this would literally be a dealbreaker for me. Not telling you to LTB, but you most certainly are not BU.

Marshmallow91 · 21/01/2021 02:03

Bless you OP, when I was pregnant I had to wash plates, pans etc 5 or 6 times in a row to get any smell off them. I really hated that about pregnancy. I think it's part of the nesting instinct so we animals didn't let our dens get mouldy or eat any rotten food.

Nowadays it's a pretty useless function that enables women to vomit over farts and smell a crumb of cheese on the floor of our house from 15 miles away at asda.

Sending you hugs that your baby comes swiftly and safely and you can get back to normal. Flowers

loubieloo4 · 21/01/2021 02:11

Dh (40) has stage 4 terminal bowel cancer and along with chemo you can imagine the farts, the poor man was mortified whenever he farted after he had a huge 10hr operation that included a few nights in ITU. It took him over a year and a lot of silliness from us all to stop his embarrassment.

Next time puke on him.

ChestnutStuffing · 21/01/2021 02:14

I don't think I'd lock the door, if you need help in the bath it could be a bad idea.

Anyway - some people don't like farting in front of spouses, and others don't care. Neither is right or wrong.

It sounds like you've become more sensitive because of pregnancy which is common enough. I had one pregnancy where I had to go past the men's toilet at work every day, and I gagged on the stench of urinal pucks that wafted out. I had never even noticed the smell there before, it was just my sense of smell became more sensitive.

I can see that someone vomiting from a fart where it didn't bother them before could be somewhat funny, because it would be unexpected and seem over the top. Hopefully now that he realises how much it bothers you he'll try to avoid it.

montysma1 · 21/01/2021 03:17

Christ what's he been eating to produce farts that can make somebody vomit on the spot?

Providora · 21/01/2021 03:21

Ugh, all I can say is thank you, for taking and keeping this revolting specimen off the market so no other woman has to suffer.

Shoxfordian · 21/01/2021 06:43

Ugh he sounds gross
Any other disgusting habits?

FlatteredRhubardFool · 21/01/2021 09:45

My exH did things like this when I was pregnant too. He'd deliberately eat garlic knowing it made me sick to smell his garlic breath. I was so sick in pregnancy so I get it. He got worse and just one of the reasons I divorced him. It's disrespectful and abusive to make someone ill. However, you don't sound very mature either meaning vomit for someone else to clear up. You say you can't bend down but what would you do if you were on your own or had a toddler who'd vomited everywhere? Just leave it until he came home? What if you were single like I was when I was pregnant with my third child? You'd get on your knees and figure a way to get it cleaned up wouldn't you. God help you both when your baby arrives.

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JustCuriousToday · 21/01/2021 09:52

@FlatteredRhubardFool

My exH did things like this when I was pregnant too. He'd deliberately eat garlic knowing it made me sick to smell his garlic breath. I was so sick in pregnancy so I get it. He got worse and just one of the reasons I divorced him. It's disrespectful and abusive to make someone ill. However, you don't sound very mature either meaning vomit for someone else to clear up. You say you can't bend down but what would you do if you were on your own or had a toddler who'd vomited everywhere? Just leave it until he came home? What if you were single like I was when I was pregnant with my third child? You'd get on your knees and figure a way to get it cleaned up wouldn't you. God help you both when your baby arrives.
I'm 38 weeks pregnant and everything hurts? I'm not a single mum on my third child so what you've said is completely irrelevant. If I was on my own and sick of my own accord then I'd have obviously cleaned it up myself but I wasn't, it's a bit of sick, I've cleaned my DHs up in the past when he's been very ill as well, swings and round a bouts - he didn't do it on purpose, like I've said in PP he was just being inconsiderate and didn't think and after speaking to him this morning asking if he really thought it was funny he was making me sick he said no he was embarrassed and didn't know how else to respond.
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DrManhattan · 21/01/2021 09:58

Gross. Lucky you

Theunamedcat · 21/01/2021 10:02

Give him prebiotic tablets to fix the stench

MsHedgehog · 21/01/2021 10:21

@FlatteredRhubardFool Are you actually serious? You talk about OP not being mature but I think you should re-read your post to see who is really being immature here...

Silenceisgolden20 · 21/01/2021 10:28

How the hell can he be a good husband if he knows it makes you sick? Seriously??
Of course he can contain them . Does he do them in public in front of others?
Bet he doesn't. Why doesn't he open a window or warn you not to go in the bathroom for a bit if he knows it makes you sick?

Silenceisgolden20 · 21/01/2021 10:31

You are justifying it like he is a child or doesn't know how to control his bodily functions.
He is a grown man. Why can't you have a bath by yourself? Why does he need to come in the bathroom?
You started the thread saying how disgusting he is and now you're back tracking when people are agreeing with you.
Why do women treat men like children like 'they can't help it'

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JustCuriousToday · 21/01/2021 10:42

@Silenceisgolden20

You are justifying it like he is a child or doesn't know how to control his bodily functions. He is a grown man. Why can't you have a bath by yourself? Why does he need to come in the bathroom? You started the thread saying how disgusting he is and now you're back tracking when people are agreeing with you. Why do women treat men like children like 'they can't help it'
It was light hearted calling him disgusting, he's gross for doing it definitely but he doesn't barge in when I'm having a bath, he was giving me my pjs that he put on the radiator to make sure I didn't get cold after my bath, I wrote my post straight after it happened so I was annoyed and feeling unwell and yes it was disgusting and there was no reason he couldn't have held it in until he exited the bathroom but to suggest it was abuse or even a fetish is just odd to me which I don't agree with, again he's gross for doing it and he isn't getting away with it lightly and hopefully after having a serious word with him last night and again this morning it doesn't happen again. The reason I may seem to be back tracking is apart from this he really doesn't do much else wrong and I'm not minimising what he did as it wasn't okay accident or not, one time fine but after the third time it's not but the last two times I laughed it off as it wasn't as bad as last night so maybe he didn't realise how serious it was, I don't know but he won't do it again.
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