To be a bit upset/miffed about this - zoom related

[superstardjherewego]

Organised a fun online zoom quiz and some games for DC and some of their friends yesterday after all the homeschool video lessons had finished. Sent out the Zoom invites and got a great response, about 15 confirmed they'd log on.

So, get to yesterday and only 4 actually logged on for it.

At log on time I texted parents to see if they were coming and if so we'd wait for them.

Excuses included:

DC is now doing something else so won't be logging on
We've just popped out for a walk so won't be logging on
We've gone out to Asda now so won't be logging on
Oh we're not logging on now - have fun though!

Am I being unreasonable to think that it's really rude and lacking basic manners to not drop a text saying no longer coming without being prompted? We'd put quite a lot of effort into the whole thing and DC were really looking forward to it with their friends.

One or two people I can understand can't make it as things happen but 11?!?!

Not attending a large group zoom activity/chat is totally different to not attending an actual real life event.

How would it have made any difference to you if they’d dropped a text to say they weren’t coming? The effort of preparing the quiz has already been expended, the time you’d allocated would be taken with the four that did show and it wasn’t as if you’d had to cater.

It seems a weird thing to be pissed off about.

@OhCaptain

“Turn up” to what? It’s online.

Exactly. Turn up to what? It's not real. A friend said to me she went to a party last weekend. No love, you didn't even get out the front door. You went exactly Nowhere.

Exactly.
Turn up to what?
It's not real.
A friend said to me she went to a party last weekend.

No love, you didn't even get out the front door.
You went exactly Nowhere.

😂 love this, really made me laugh!

It is rude not to turn up but not to say you aren’t coming
I agree with some other posters though that it wasn’t a great idea

I think people find it awkward to say thanks, but no thanks straight out.
And they've had it up to here with Zoom and quizzes.

I get that it would be disappointing but I do agree with the majority. What probably sounded like a good idea at the time the invitation was accepted would turn spur after a difficult day battling with kids to do homeschool, probably running behind schedule, possibly totally forgetting this extra appointment. I agree with a pp who said everything's disorienting and difficult atm