to think i will never get a council house?

[bellver888]

been on the waiting list 2 years - showing 30 in bidding systems
DV occurred up to September 2020 when i forced my exp out the house.
rent is 600 and i cannot afford it now there’s just me and DS.
Landlord is shit, I have no heating, riddled with damp and window hanging out of pane. It’s a 3rd floor flat. HSA (housing standards authority) keep saying they’re contacting my landlord and he’s sending someone round, they never come.
PTSD is kicking in and i can’t go in my bedroom without vomiting and panicking as that’s where the abuse occurred
poor credit and no guarantor and no way i can afford private rent as average is 600-700 in my area and i need support
severe depression, OCD and anxiety
im getting 1140 in UC and im in arrears with everything, DHP was rejected and can’t appeal

Every single time when I phone up I get “keep bidding you’re moving up the list” yet I’m really not. I can’t take anymore of this, I hate my life and I don’t think I have a future at all.

I would say to struggle through and complete you're degree. I did this and also a single parent and it has opened so many doors for me. I am now able to buy a small home for us due to having a graduate HCP job. Before this, I was a care worker on min wage. I can't tell you the difference it has made and gives me hope for for future despite at times having had pretty severe money worries. Education really is the best route out of poverty especially as a lone parent. There is usually more flexibility with professional jobs. I used to do a couple of 12 hr shifts at the weekend in a care home or on the bank. Hopefully you will later be in a position to look at shared ownership etc. Good luck!

Omg cannot believe someone told you on here that uni is a luxury you cannot afford.
Who can afford it apart from people who have money? That’s why loans and grants are available.

In the short term studying and a single parent is fucking tough. But long term it is so rewarding. As another poster said please don’t make life changing decisions at the moment.

There are solicitors out there who will help you. Please phone around and ask them. Ask friends, family and on here for recommendations as well to help. Financial help is available from some. Shelter might also be able to give you recommendations.

When I needed a family solicitor my mums criminal lawyer sent me to someone who could help closer to me.

So when the landlord doesn't send anyone around what will housing do?

Can they now admit that you've no heating for x months and a broken window for y months and that it's not acceptable??

Landlord saying they worked last week and I’ve damaged them myself. Lol. Woo.

Please seek free legal advice. That landlord is despicable.

Honestly I would move back in with your Mum for "mental health" reasons for you and wait a few months and go to the council for help to move out to rented.

It's just utterly awful.

What is the housing lady explanation for why you have been saying for x months they haven't worked and she believes the lies of the landlord?

I agree finish your degree

I don’t even think I can find the motivation, I feel like I’ve been beaten with a stick, I just want to close my eyes and not wake up.

I don’t know why I’m never enough of the victim for any help whatsoever. I know people who’ve experienced DV. They went back to uni. They’ve had support workers, help off the local authority. I’ve had an email with the freedom programme on it and referred to an agency who won’t help me whilst I’m looking to go into further education.

OP could you contact the Early Help team in the Local authority. Is it Manchester LA?

hsm.manchester.gov.uk/kb5/manchester/directory/site.page?id=Pa30YkIftcs
Here is the link with contact numbers for the early help team in Manchester LA.
You have been so let down by everybody. Please give them a ring. They can help get your young family the correct support. Please don't give up on uni.

You could say you aren't going back and you could defer for another year anyway (I think you can).

My LA is actually Tameside

I was supposed to be going into a refuge in august/sept however once they found out he didn’t live here I wasn’t allowed. It’s a fucking joke and I wish he’d have murdered me.

www.tameside.gov.uk/Early-Help/Parent-Carer/The-early-help-access-point

Here is the Tameside LA Early Help link. It has a phone number and chat facility. You could even signpost them to this MN thread.

Got a response from the council regarding my complaint. They’re saying they’ve done nothing wrong. I can’t be fucking arsed anymore

@BlueSuffragette is that social services? Thank you x

Are you eligible for the Tameside Rent Deposit scheme their Housing Advice team run? I'm sorry if this is all stuff you have been through a million times :(

Go to your MP that's what they are paid for.

@bellver888 Yes it is. Here is a link. You just need some support and an action plan.

www.tamesidesafeguardingchildren.org.uk/parentsandcarers/early-help-assessment

You can also ring them. Early Help Access Pointon 0161 342 4260.
Please give it a go. You and your young child deserve so much better. Best of luck. x

• contact Early Help Access Point on 0161 342 4260

@unmarkedbythat yeah I am :) just can’t find a landlord who accepts dss, no credit and no guarantor. I’m on the verge of going to hospital tonight as I can’t cope anymore.

@bellver888 do go if you're feeling like that. I'd say phone the Access team but they close at 5pm (0161 716 4247 in case it's helpful in the future though). But yes, go, be safe.

Please please speak to your GP, Crises or similar

@bellver888

Your council should have a deposit and guarantor scheme. Please get help,