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OH kicking off at the kids whilst I'm WFH

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tiredandfrumpy · 20/01/2021 09:37

I'm upstairs working and all you can hear is screaming and crying.
OH been up since 6 this morning trying to buy a PS5 he obviously can't get one so he's in a fit off rage like a kid.

Poor DD & DS crying because they want juice and breakfast. I feel tempted to just take the day off but I won't be paid.

I feel like a fucking awful mum!

He should of got up when I did and sorted the kids out but he's been in fucking bed.

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tiredandfrumpy · 20/01/2021 09:39

Apologises for my language just very angry

OP posts:
CarterBeatsTheDevil · 20/01/2021 09:40

I know it's hard but you're working, it's his mess and however frustrated the kids are they won't actually starve. Don't intervene!

Macncheeseballs · 20/01/2021 09:41

Sounds like a big child, buying a ps5 is obviously way more important than looking after kids Hmm

Butchyrestingface · 20/01/2021 09:41

Poor DD & DS crying because they want juice and breakfast. I feel tempted to just take the day off but I won't be paid.

Has he not fed the kids yet?

BabyofMine · 20/01/2021 09:41

You are NOT an awful mum. Not sure about the father though. I love games as much as anyone but what a man-child.
I’d be seeing if I could take a 5 minutes break and reading him the riot act. Absolutely selfish, ridiculous behaviour, he needs to get a grip.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 20/01/2021 09:47

Why do you feel like a terrible mum!.
(The whole point why you (collective you not personal you) is to be able to provide for your kids. It’s him who’s the major arse hole and thats me putting it politely. You must feel like you’ve got 3 kids.

luxxlisbon · 20/01/2021 09:47

At 9:35 it seems reasonable that kids would br crying for their breakfast because they haven't been fed yet. You shouldn't need to but pop downstairs for 2 seconds and tell your husband he needs to feed his own children because you are at work. Better than taking a last minute day off when there is another supposedly adult there who is perfectly capable of helping.

Sexnotgender · 20/01/2021 09:48

Is he meant to be working or looking after the kids?

Why is he still in bed?

Why is he not feeding the children?

Keratinsmooth · 20/01/2021 09:49

Just tell him to sort the kids breakfast out?

2021vision · 20/01/2021 09:53

OP stay where you are. Jus a guess, and sorry if negative, but I suspect your OH is doing nothing in the hope you will come down and sort everyone out. If you keep sorting it out you are enabling his behaviour. He needs to learn that he sorts the children first and then his own internet shopping/gaming whatever. Surely his job for the day is the children?

If he says anything let him explain what the problem was, make him take responsibility, don't do the talking and don't tell him what to do. Encourage the children to go to him and ask for things. Honestly he is their parent too.

Gncq · 20/01/2021 09:55

A PS5??
Do you have a husband or just more children?

VettiyaIruken · 20/01/2021 10:02

What kind of useless shitbag priorities buying a bloody games console over feeding their children?

I know he should be doing it but he clearly isn't and for the sake of your children I'd go downstairs and give them some food then go straight back to work and also plan how you're going to deal with Mr father of the year.

AintPageantMaterial · 20/01/2021 10:03

@2021vision

OP stay where you are. Jus a guess, and sorry if negative, but I suspect your OH is doing nothing in the hope you will come down and sort everyone out. If you keep sorting it out you are enabling his behaviour. He needs to learn that he sorts the children first and then his own internet shopping/gaming whatever. Surely his job for the day is the children?

If he says anything let him explain what the problem was, make him take responsibility, don't do the talking and don't tell him what to do. Encourage the children to go to him and ask for things. Honestly he is their parent too.

THIS! All Day Long!
GeordieGreigsButtButtZoom · 20/01/2021 10:07

It's gone 9.30 and he hasn't fed the kids because he's been trying to buy a games console in bed since 6am?

Yesmate · 20/01/2021 10:10

Eurgh! He’s a prick. Go and sort the kids out, you know if you ask him to he will huff like a child. Then tell him he’s got responsibilities that far outweigh a fucking games console.

Quartz2208 · 20/01/2021 10:13

You have a massively serious OH problem

Does he work
Do you have the money to spare on a PS5 (which once you have bundled everything in is not cheap)

And the kids should be the priority

That said where is your communication about responsibilites do you know what you are suppose to do

merryhouse · 20/01/2021 10:13

I'd be tempted to go full Working Dad: open the study door and shout "can't you keep your kids quiet while I'm working?!"

...except that would make the kids feel shit

so just stand in the bedroom doorway and say it through gritted teeth

GypsyLee · 20/01/2021 10:15

He wants his toys, bless him.
It must be hard working with 3 kids, lucky you can leave the biggest useless one.
Are you really attracted enough to have kids with this man, yuk.
Glad he's yours.

Shoxfordian · 20/01/2021 10:16

Is OH their dad? He sounds like a teenager
Tell him to sort the kids out
Is he always this useless?

Squiffany · 20/01/2021 10:18

Ignore him let him get on with it.

Squiffany · 20/01/2021 10:18

@GypsyLee

He wants his toys, bless him. It must be hard working with 3 kids, lucky you can leave the biggest useless one. Are you really attracted enough to have kids with this man, yuk. Glad he's yours.
Sounds like you’re blaming the OP for his behaviour here.
user1471538283 · 20/01/2021 10:23

I cannot believe that he would prioritize finding a console over feeding his children! Everyone, man or woman, knows that you've got to feed your children first thing!

I would go down and tell him to do so now!

PeggyHill · 20/01/2021 10:26

Don't go and intervene. That's exactly what he wants. You are working. He is supposed to be looking after his children.

What kind of useless fuckwit would still be in bed at this time when his young children are crying for breakfast? Jesus Christ, he could have just done buttered toast. Takes 2 mins. Poor kids.

JorisBonson · 20/01/2021 10:27

OP, you've previously posted about this man. You 100% have an OH problem.

Pugliandreamer · 20/01/2021 10:27

@Squiffany, @GypsyLee is being sarcastic...

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