OH kicking off at the kids whilst I'm WFH

[tiredandfrumpy]

I'm upstairs working and all you can hear is screaming and crying.
OH been up since 6 this morning trying to buy a PS5 he obviously can't get one so he's in a fit off rage like a kid.

Poor DD & DS crying because they want juice and breakfast. I feel tempted to just take the day off but I won't be paid.

I feel like a fucking awful mum!

He should of got up when I did and sorted the kids out but he's been in fucking bed.

Please do not rush down to help. Text him to tell him to feed the children immediately.

I'd send him an e-mail, telling him to feed his kids.

Don't go down as hard as it is.

They haven't come to find you so it's not as bad as you think.

If you must lean out the door and shout 'why are they crying?! Can you keep them quiet please!'

How old is your husband that he is so desperate to buy a PS5? I presume he isn't a teenager. I don't get why he cannot feed the children, that's basic. He certainly shouldn't be kicking off at them. What a selfish prat.

He should of got up when I did and sorted the kids out but he's been in fucking bed. Yes he definitely should have.

What are you doing with such a man child?

This isn't the first time you have posted about your useless dh but you never seem to respond when people point out the obvious and say you have a dh problem. By posting I get that you have the chance to rant but surely you can see that it is utterly pointless if you are never going to do anything about it. By all means rant away if it helps but I hope that one day (hopefully soon) you will get the courage to do something about him.

This trend of man-babies is really quite shocking. I guess those aged 25-35 never grew up, and video games is the main reason for that.

Is this gaming obsession hidden until children are born?

Shoot the bastard

I would be taking a 5 minute break to tear into him about how much more important his children are than a fucking PS5, OP.

How sad that he doesn't value feeding his children over a games console.

So your DH is neglecting your children because he wants a new toy. I agree you shouldn’t have to but I’d be feeding my kids then going in an almighty rage at him telling him he’s a useless man child and to get out the house.

@LizFlowers, well done on correcting the Op's grammar. It's clearly the most important element of her post

@LizFlowers

Why assume he is her husband? Sounds like a casual boyfriend to me.

If you try and correct grammar on here you will find you look like the dick plus it would take you all day long.

OP, would you want your son or daughter to be in a relationship like this?

Why / why not?

You know this is disgusting behaviour - can you imagine sitting around trying to buy a games console for hours for yourself while he works and the kids are without breakfast...? No? Surely you can see how broken this situation is?

He sounds like another child, but one who will never grow up.

Leave him and show your children that you are worth more than to be with this waster.

Maybe dont spend the time posting your situation on MN and sort the situation out in RL? Just a thought....

@Doomsdayiscoming
This trend of man-babies is really quite shocking
Trend? I'm not sure angry posts getting loads of clicks on MN are any kind of valid statistical data.

Hey, don't you dare have a go at Liz! I was completely unable to understand anything the op was trying to say. Her correction of 'of' to 'have' enabled me to read and understand what the op was trying to communicate. Rather than have a go at her, you should award her with a medal to communication services. She saved us all from staring at the ops post, desperately trying to understand it.

She's a hero.

I have issues like this and am only still with my 'D'H as he's in counselling trying to improve and actually become an adult. I would go down personally and tell him exactly what I thought of prioritising PS over children. I'd also either grab the children's breakfast (if he wouldn't) or request it. However, unless he's going to change his behaviour permanently through seeking help, I would not stay because his role as a parent WITH you is to remove some stress by also parenting and not to cause extra stress by behaving like a poorly behaved child himself. It really sucks, Op. It can be so stressful. xxx

Everyone saying don't go down...could you really listen to kids screaming and crying for their breakfast and not intervene?
As for the man child.. I don't know what to say. Loser.

9.30 you kids hadn’t had breakfast, what time do they get up?

Your poor kids.

You've posted about his shitty behaviour a lot before. You never do anything about it. Your kids continue to suffer.

What do you want from this thread?

Why dont you actually do something about your situation?

Eventually someone will need to feed them. It's not their fault.

The trouble with all the 'you just need to tell him to...' is that if he was the sort of man who would do something because his partner told him to then its unlikely this situation would have occurred.

Not sure why people think other people's partners are like naughty dogs who just need firm instructions to become fully trained and compliant.

Practically OP, I think for my peace of mind and the children's wellbeing I would go and make sure they are fed at least.

Going forward, only you know if this is typical of him, and if it is, whether the positives of your relationship outweigh this sort of thing.

You are absolutely not a bad mother and this is not your fault.

I would go down feed kids put tv on and give ipads / roblox and then go back to work

And send husband to bed and you work at kitchen table- this is what I do and I speak to patients all day and kids tiptoe round me and oldest writes me notes

@MissBaskinIfYoureNasty

Everyone saying don't go down...could you really listen to kids screaming and crying for their breakfast and not intervene? As for the man child.. I don't know what to say. Loser.

I agree, I would go down and tell him you're trying to work, can he feed the children right now