OH kicking off at the kids whilst I'm WFH

[tiredandfrumpy]

I'm upstairs working and all you can hear is screaming and crying.
OH been up since 6 this morning trying to buy a PS5 he obviously can't get one so he's in a fit off rage like a kid.

Poor DD & DS crying because they want juice and breakfast. I feel tempted to just take the day off but I won't be paid.

I feel like a fucking awful mum!

He should of got up when I did and sorted the kids out but he's been in fucking bed.

I would feed the children. Then I would seriously think about whether or not I would want to be with a man sho gave his own kids such a low priority.

There’s no way he was still trying to get a PS5 at the time the OP posted. Currys dropped at 7.54 am and they were sold out by 8.20. He may have been in a bad mood but he wasn’t still online looking for a PS5. The OP seems to be guessing what was going on downstairs.

I would go down and tell him the kids need to be fed, what a bloody man child.

Is he the DCs father? He sounds like a useless sack of shit.

Both of you are a bit strange. OH is up early looking to buy PS5, not feeding children. You are working, listening to your children cries, have time for MN instead of using this time to give them some food. Of course OH isn't right but children need to be fed. The correct thing would be to feed the children and then have a word with your OH and then write on MN. What if he doesn't feed them till noon or evening?

@Viviennemary

I would feed the children. Then I would seriously think about whether or not I would want to be with a man sho gave his own kids such a low priority.

Yes, particularly if all he cared about was playing games! What a prize the man is, lying in bed and neglecting the needs of his kids.

Ewww. Strategically incompetent man child.

I wouldn't be swooping in. This will just encourage him to not do what he is meant to be doing! Why should the husband go to bed?! Doesn't sound like OP can.

Your OH is useless and selfish but you already know that. His children are crying because he hasn’t fed them - he’s absolute scum. Why do you stay with him?

There's nothing wrong with you. But you've posted about him before. He's not going to change. I'd go and feed the kids just because I'd struggle to hear them upset, when USELESS TWUNT is doing nothing. Eventually I'd leave this useless man, because what is the point of him. He's self-centred and just seems to create a bubble of upset around him everywhere he goes. He should get a flat, on his own, with his PS5. Probably better at virtual reality than reality.

What? An adult man is in a "rage" because of a computer game? That is complete bollocks.

Please go and feed your kids, don't let his shitty behaviour impact them to the point they are hungry/thirsty.

A new toy for him will only make this worse though - can you tell him he needs to sort out his priorities and demonstrate he is capable of parenting before the PS5 is ordered?

What a wanker.

While your dh was not feeding the kids, you were here on Mumsnet so not actually working.

If you had time to do that then you had time to go and tell him to get his arse into gear. Or to actually feed them yourself. Because it's not their fault they have a lazy father and a mother who would rather moan on social media instead of feeding them herself.

Hopefully they've had breakfast and ljnchtime will have gone smootehr

If he's been up since 6 this morning trying to buy a PS5 when did he go back to bed. Does he work.

@Bananalanacake

If he's been up since 6 this morning trying to buy a PS5 when did he go back to bed. Does he work.

I would think he didn't get out of bed and was looking for his PS5 online whilst in bed.

OP, you've had your moan and I hope it has made you feel better. Your man is an arse and selfish with it. Now what are you going to do about it?

Sorry everyone I've been busy and not long finished work so just catching up now. I ended up going downstairs then he start screaming in my face.

Then this evening I was on a video call with my mum and apparently he heard me say "all he cares about is money" I never actually said that at all so I ended up ringing my mum back to prove I never said that and he still doesn't believe me.

He doesn't work I study part time and work full time. I feel so depressed I've come to realise that he has no respect for me anymore and he isn't a good parent at all.

It's hard for me to do anything about my situation I just feel trapped!! So everyone telling me to just leave I can't just leave I wouldn't nowhere to start.

Don't feel like a bad mum because he's a bad dad.

So you work full time, study part time and look after the children and do everything else including deal with his shit.
You don't now where to start, start with his sorry arse he adds nothing but takes. Get rid of him and you will have energy for the rest of your life and more money because you won't need to buy PlayStation 5's or feed him

He does fuck all and you do everything else, including studying to better your life. Right.

You don’t need him. He’s absolutely proven he’s a waste of fucking skin. Was it the money you earnt that he would have used to buy a ps5?

OP, you do not need this twat in your life.

Why doesn’t he work?

Why doesn't he work. Is he on furlough. Is he looking for work. Please tell me he does most of the housework and cooking.

@LouiseTrees

Why doesn’t he work?

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How is he affording a ps5 if he doesn’t work?

If you know he may not feed the kids then you really need to do that before you start work. I don't mean you should enable his behaviour or whatever, but you have to ensure your kids are fed. That's really important.