What would you think if your DP made these comments?

[Ginnylemon1]

Imagine that you were anti-drugs and he suggested on a few occasions that you 'do acid together', even though you said no.

You are somebody who doesn't drink/smoke/take drugs, and some people have the misconception that you mustn't enjoy pubs/clubs, that you can't go out and party etc. as a result, even though the two are not mutually exclusive.

You look at a nightclub that seems really cool and innovative but your DP says he 'can't imagine you liking it'.
He then says that he imagines you 'stood hunched in the corner with your arms folded, like a disapproving parent.'

On another occasion during lockdown, when you say you wish you could have a house party at yours, he sends a Ned Flanders meme and says 'sorry, this is how I imagine it.'

Would you think these are harmless jokes or more to it?

I should think that he loves me as I am and respects the fact that I don't drink etc. As many people don't.

Didn’t you already post about him? Sounds like he doesn’t really like you very much

I'd think he was an immature dumbass with no imagination who doesn't respect your boundaries

Have you posted about this before? It all sounds very familiar.

Either way, it doesn't sound like you are compatible. I wouldn't be happy with comments like that.

On another occasion during lockdown, when you say you wish you could have a house party at yours, he sends a Ned Flanders meme and says 'sorry, this is how I imagine it.'

Well that actually made me laugh and I was thinking he just sounds a bit cheeky. Then i saw your username and realised this is the guy who treats you like you're an idiot.

Since he still lives with mummy i would have sent back this image and said "I'm imagining a house party at yours like this 🤭🤭🤭"

You don't sound compatible. AT ALL.

I'd think we weren't compatible. I wouldn't think much more about it than that

I would say you're not compatible at all.

I am following your other thread in the hope you’ll report back that you’ve left this arsehole, I will do the same with this one

Based on your other thread about him, he sounds like a nasty piece of shit who is doing his best to entirely destroy you with his endless dismissing, condescension, criticisms, and mocking.

He’s labouring under the misapprehension that he is vastly superior to you. Bit, in my opinion, he sounds like a total twat.

I would think I need to find a new DP

Do you think that people who don't drink etc. shouldn't be with those who do like to? I don't understand and find it quite immature the attitude some people have that if you're not into drinking you must be' boring ' and only like staying in.

I'd assume he is a twat and dump him.

I'd think he had a negative view of me and thought I was boring.

My very first boyfriend really liked a drink and even got a bit of a rep, but it never proved to an issue at all nor did he ever comment on me in that way.

He sounds mean. You don't want a mean dp. He should have your back, not ridicule you.

Ginny, stop wasting your life on a relationship that will end anyway.

@Ginnylemon1

Do you think that people who don't drink etc. shouldn't be with those who do like to? I don't understand and find it quite immature the attitude some people have that if you're not into drinking you must be' boring ' and only like staying in.

It's kind of irrelevant if other people are in happy relationships where one drinks and the other doesn't. Your partner thinks you're boring because of it. That's the issue.

You don't sound compatible. I dated someone before who used drugs recreationally (and I never have) and it was just always a point of contention! He used to think I was ignorant for not wanting to snort coke.

@Ginnylemon1

Do you think that people who don't drink etc. shouldn't be with those who do like to? I don't understand and find it quite immature the attitude some people have that if you're not into drinking you must be' boring ' and only like staying in.

One of my brothers doesn't drink but his wife does and another of my brothers does drink but his wife doesn't......never been an issue, the non drinkers still go out and still have fun (but they have the added bonus of not having to get a taxi home!)

Are you hoping for some different answers this time to the ones you got on your identical thread last week?

I'm a boozer and it would be difficult for me to go out with someone who didn't drink.

I don't think they are harmless jokes at all. If the comments are regular then I would consider him abusive. He is damaging your self-esteem little by little. He's a disgrace.

I have a friend who doesn't drink and never has but always enjoyed clubbing with us (until we all got old and boring and had babies...) It isn't that hard to wrap your head around. He sounds like a very unsympathetic guy who is using your choices to try and lower your confidence and involvement in certain social situations.

He’s taking the piss out of you. You don’t sound compatible.

Do you think that people who don't drink etc. shouldn't be with those who do like to?

I'm not sure should comes into it. If someone has chosen to life there life one way (drinker/non drinker) you've chosen to do that for a reason. Theres an unspoken judgement behind the decision.

Generally for a relationship to work you need to have similar values.