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So what, I'm ugly, get over it or don't look at me

98 replies

Leannethom85 · 17/01/2021 23:17

I have a bunch of women constantly on my case and make remarks about me being ugly, in a group mind, never alone! they say nothing when alone and put their heads down when they pass me.
I accept I'm ugly as fuck, I've been told it since primary school by just about everyone I've ever came into contact with, so what is there to achieve! Hurt my feelings I guess but I'm used to it so why don't they think something new up? I've also been called smelly lol, so ugly and smelly.
Aibu to think this group of repetitive morons are a wee bit obsessed by me and my family?

OP posts:
PeggyHill · 18/01/2021 01:26

I would call it bullying

Sugarandteaandmum · 18/01/2021 01:35

What do you mean, you might have had an argument with someone years ago? Is there more to the story here OP?

I am sure you are not ugly. x

1forAll74 · 18/01/2021 01:49

These abusive people sound like people of low intelligence and devoid of any normal manners, and if it's a groupy thing, it becomes like a pack instinct behaviour with them. They all need to be ignored, and not spoken to at all, and don't confront them at all. Then they might stop all this infantile behaviour, and back off.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 18/01/2021 01:49

Random people? As in you don't know who they are?

thosetalesofunexpected · 18/01/2021 01:51

Hi Op
These women who are Nasty to you so often and especially the woman who told you,that you were Ugly !!!

These Women Are All Arseholes 100 Per cent !!

Please don't give them/or their Comments
Any headspace at all.!

I know its not easy !

These women sound like they are Jealous as hell of you and very insecure
So they ensure they feel better by kicking you down emotionally into the Gutter !

I really can not stand People like this !

Op
Hold your head up high,
You are far better than these people will ever be !

Please focus on improving your self esteem/Cofindence
Even explore/ look into some kind of Therapy to improve your self cofindence
There is so many different therapies see find out which therapies will be most effective/ beneficial to you.
DaffodilCakeBrew
Take care xxx

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 18/01/2021 01:53

Do you live in a fairly small village where everyone pretty much knows everyone else and there isn't much else to do?
I can't otherwise imagine how you would have so much with these inane ninnies, or why they would be so bothered!

Have you or your family (any of) done something to anyone in this area that is remembered by all and sundry? And the smelly comment is just mad unless you actually DO smell - or is it a carryover from school or something?

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 18/01/2021 01:54

Don't know where the word "contact" went out of the second sentence!
I can't otherwise imagine how you would have so much contact with these inane ninnies, or why they would be so bothered!

thosetalesofunexpected · 18/01/2021 02:05

Hi Op

Beauty is more than skin deep.

These women's who are Nasty to you
Have Really Ugly Shitty Personalities !

Op
Please focus on creating friendships/being with family members and with people who are much better for you/have a much more positive attitude to you and in life in general !

Really sorry and angry as hell you are going through this kind of Crap in life !

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 18/01/2021 02:13

Why are they all hanging around the street in a group in their 20's bullying older women?

thosetalesofunexpected · 18/01/2021 02:18

Hi Op..

I think there is something seriously wrong with these women !

Dasher789 · 18/01/2021 02:19

I don't understand why these 20 year old are hanging about and name calling older women?! Do they not have jobs or children to be keeping them busy?! They sound like ugly people. Try to rise above them OP nd just ignore if you can but if they are harassing you then call the police.

GodOfPhwoar · 18/01/2021 02:58

“Your boyfriend didn’t think I was ugly the other night.” 😘

Emeraldshamrock · 18/01/2021 03:09

I have never heard anyone tell anyone they were ugly. I've never said it myself, who the heck do they think they are? What has your looks got to do with them.
Bullying smart comments when in a group horrible people.

WaltzingBetty · 18/01/2021 03:29

I'm confused as to how you're getting constant verbal abuse from a group of strangers on the street in lockdown.
Don't they work? How do you see them?
Why is a group of women in their 20s hanging around on the street waiting to abuse you?

It sounds like there's a massive backstory here Confused

oakleaffy · 18/01/2021 03:39

It sounds like a bunch of very poorly educated women.
Who on earth wastes time name calling like that?
I didn't do it, even when at infant school, where a boy smelled very badly of urine {A bedwetter?} He was very thin and neglected looking, and unkind kids called him names.

It still hurts to think of it.. And I hope he is ok mentally now.
Things like this can really affect a person.
I'd move if I lived in an area where people wasted time being like this.

Mummyoflittledragon · 18/01/2021 03:43

I would report them to the police for harassment. Do you know where they live?

PeggyHill · 18/01/2021 03:54

@GodOfPhwoar

“Your boyfriend didn’t think I was ugly the other night.” 😘
Grin
SarahBellam · 18/01/2021 04:58

Grown women walk up to you out of the blue and tell you you’re ugly? They must be deranged. Why would anyone want to say something so rude for no reason? That must have absolutely nothing else going on in their lives. It says far more about them than it does about you.

georgarina · 18/01/2021 05:05

Are they definitely talking about you? Do they always walk away when you confront them? What do other people say about this?

groovergirl · 18/01/2021 05:59

They sound quite rough and of low IQ. I love how you handled it -- you squared up to one of them and she backed away in fear. Keep doing it! Just don't touch them. If they touch you, then you can exercise self-defence.

BTW, calling someone "ugly" is the oldest trick in the green-eyed monster's book. It's meant to neg you and bring you down. Beautiful women of my acquaintance have copped it. Ordinary girls get it too; I recall being slagged off as "fat" when I was a size 8. And "slut'' tends to be levelled at anyone who might be attracting more male attention than the detractors are. Don't take these moronic epithets to heart, OP.

VettiyaIruken · 18/01/2021 06:16

Oh! Physical groups. I'm thick 🤦
They must be rough as a badger's arse. This is surely harassment by now. Would you be willing to report to the police?

Vinceypie · 18/01/2021 06:21

People can only be ugly on the inside... and they Are VERY ugly!! Keep your head high and be proud of who you are!!!

Eckhart · 18/01/2021 06:31

Are you a teenager and pretending to be an adult? Your situation doesn't transpose very well onto the adult world.

Groups of adults don't hang around picking on an individual for being ugly. Why is your interest in whether it's 'obsessive' or not? What difference does that make to anything? As an adult, you need to be dealing with it, not labeling it. Contact the police, or ignore them like a grown up. Sticks and stones....

MessAllOver · 18/01/2021 06:34

You have had the misfortune to come across some extraordinarily rude people. I'm sorry... it must be very tedious.

HoppingPavlova · 18/01/2021 06:40

Sounds odd and as though there is some backstory.

Is moving a possibility? From what you have written you have done nothing wrong but seriously life is too short.