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Original poster

So what, I'm ugly, get over it or don't look at me

98 replies

Leannethom85 · 17/01/2021 23:17

I have a bunch of women constantly on my case and make remarks about me being ugly, in a group mind, never alone! they say nothing when alone and put their heads down when they pass me.
I accept I'm ugly as fuck, I've been told it since primary school by just about everyone I've ever came into contact with, so what is there to achieve! Hurt my feelings I guess but I'm used to it so why don't they think something new up? I've also been called smelly lol, so ugly and smelly.
Aibu to think this group of repetitive morons are a wee bit obsessed by me and my family?

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Yesmate · 17/01/2021 23:37

Thai is very odd OP. It sounds like teenage behaviour. Are you all teens?

Nanny0gg · 17/01/2021 23:45

@Leannethom85

I do not know the answer to that question, why do people hate others for no reason? Had an argument with someone years ago perhaps and these clowns jumped on a bandwagon, who knows. The question was aibu to think this constant verbal abuse is obessesive?
Why are you in a group with them, reading what they say?
WorraLiberty · 17/01/2021 23:45

The question was aibu to think this constant verbal abuse is obessesive?

No

Have you thought about reporting to police for harassment?

WorraLiberty · 17/01/2021 23:46

@Nanny0gg I don't think it's an online group?

SleepingStandingUp · 17/01/2021 23:49

If you're getting constant verbal abuse and you know who they are, have you tried speaking to the police?

OutOntheTilez · 17/01/2021 23:54

Is it obsessive? Yes. You could consider it flattering, too, them giving you so much head space and all.

Meanwhile, it’s harassment, so as PPs have said, perhaps a visit to the police is in order.

Ugzbugz · 17/01/2021 23:55

They sounds butt ugly tbh, who goes round telling people things like that?

Ok everyone isn't stunning but personally makes the most beautiful person butt ugly.

NiceGerbil · 17/01/2021 23:58

How old are they?

If they are harassing you and your family then tell the police.

I mean whether they do anything is another question but ongoing harassment is illegal.

Sendhelpplease · 17/01/2021 23:58

Jealousy and nothing going on in their own lives. Rise above it and ignore them. They’ll get bored soon enough. People who do these sort of things are looking for you to react.

SenorFrog · 18/01/2021 00:00

I've never told a single person they were ugly in my life, I think most people are just normal looking in a day to day basis, even beautiful people never stand out unless they've made an effort in some way, put a beautiful person in jeans, trainers and a big standard fleece and they'll be pretty average.

Ignore these women, nasty souls.

truetuesdays · 18/01/2021 00:02

I don't know anyone who behaves like this

Is there not any way of you avoiding them? How are they in your life??

MadameBlobby · 18/01/2021 00:11

What horrible people! Weird behaviour. Sounds like they might be jealous of you.

And I bet you’re not ugly!

Averyyounggrandmaofsix · 18/01/2021 00:17

I bet you're not ugly. I've never seen anyone really ugly, everyone has some nice features. Their behaviour on the other hand is very ugly.

Sandybanana7 · 18/01/2021 00:18

I’m sorry people are being mean to you - they sound very unkind.
It’s a bit odd for adults to behave this way- are they teenagers?
How can you avoid them? I honestly think you should do this if possible for your own mental health to be honest. They sound vile

FrenchBoule · 18/01/2021 00:21

OP, please cut these bullying bitches out of your life and find some normal people,plenty of them around.

Never judge the book by the cover and all that...

user1473878824 · 18/01/2021 00:24

Sorry none of this makes any sense at all. A random group of women constantly call you ugly when you see them in your area and bitch about your family and they you confronted one of them and she walked away but they keep talking about you?

What?

DeeCeeCherry · 18/01/2021 00:34

They're envious of you, for whatever reason.

I very much doubt you're ugly, just a victim of spite over the years

YourWinter · 18/01/2021 00:37

How old are you and the others? It sounds like teenage stuff. Can you change your outdoor routine so you don't encounter them?

VettiyaIruken · 18/01/2021 00:37

You say groups online - Is this happening on FB ? you could report it to them.

NiceGerbil · 18/01/2021 00:46

It's not online it's real life.

And if this group has decided to harass OP and her family then yes they may well be hanging out at the top of her road etc or she may live in a smallish town or village.

I live in London and there's loads of people I bump into on the high street all the time.

Original poster
Leannethom85 · 18/01/2021 00:51

I didn't say groups online though.. That was someone else who said that. Yes random people in my area seem to have a problem with me for no reason. They are younger than me in their early 20s

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Mamanyt · 18/01/2021 00:55

Dunno what to tell you, other than beauty is, indeed, skin-deep, but mean-hearted goes right down to the bone. I'd far rather be ugly than an ill-tempered twat. YOU WIN!

steff13 · 18/01/2021 01:03

I don't think it's likely that you're ugly. I've never met anyone who's genuinely ugly. There's no excuse for their behavior, but you must have some inkling of why they're doing it.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 18/01/2021 01:06

How old are these “women” 12. Also are they such stunning glamorous beauties.
I saw a quote can’t remember where that said. Before you judge me you better sure you’re fuckin perfect!.
Ditch the bitches. !!!!!

CandyLeBonBon · 18/01/2021 01:14

How bizarre