Drastic change of hair - close friend didnt notice

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Close friend didn't say anything about my very drastic hair dye. I went from brunette to platinum blonde. Most people say it looks great on me - (I have coloured eyes and fair skin - if relevant)

Now by no means do I expect a compliment, but I would have expected acknowledgement of the drastic change. She has odd moments where I've noticed she dislikes drawing attention on other people etc. I think its odder for me because I am such a girls girl - I like making women around me feel good about themselves so compliment the things I like easily.
Ofcourse there is always the option she disliked my new hair and preferred to not mention it.

Am I being unreasonable to get annoyed about her not saying anything?

I have no problem giving compliments but I really struggle with fake compliments. A couple of times when I was younger, friends had very radical changes of appearance that
I personally didn’t like or see as an improvement. I sort of froze and didn’t know what to say. I was so awkward. I still find it really hard. I’d probably have had people start threads about me “why didn’t she notice?” if MN was around.

Just recently someone I know who’s hair was their “thing” cut 24 inches of it off - going from “crowning glory” to a very frumpy, poorly cut bob. I’d NEVER have said this to them or anyone in real life, but it aged her a lot and really doesn’t suit her. Luckily she’d donated it to the little Princess Trust so I was able to say how proud of her I was and how lucky they were to have such long, thick, glorious hair going to a sick child and be very effusive with my praise. But I couldn’t say “your hair looks amazing” because I feel awful lying and don’t think I’d convince anyone. So bloody awkward!

A while back a friend opened the front door to me and she had had a drastic haircut that I just didn’t think suited her at all.

After a couple of seconds of stunned silence I started talking as normal but never mentioned the hair. I knew anything positive I said would sound fake so I just didn’t say anything as I didn’t want to hurt her feelings.

Which I probably already had done by staring at her in stunned silence when I first saw her

I have also experienced being ignored by people, even relatives who surely MUST have noticed the big change in my hair colour/style. Not talking about having a couple of inches chopped off but a totally different style altogether. I find it amusing that they can not bring themselves to even say "hey you look SO different like that" or any similar comments which need not be compliments if they preferred the other me.
People who are determined to say nothing at all are a bit of an enigma to me. I am the opposite. If I meet a friend who has been adventurous and changed their look then I assume they are pleased with it and I at least say something nice.

Nowt so queer as folk as they say.

nobody at work noticed when I swapped my unobtrusive metal framed specs for a much more statement tortoiseshell pair.

I have no visual memory (literally cannot see anything with my mind when awake). I wouldn't necessarily pick up on a hair colour change. About one percent of people are like me.

I cannot imagine at all having a close friend, changing my look drastically and not asking them what they thought. We would probably FaceTime each other from the salon whilst the drasticness was taking place.

Did you not ask her what she thought? Perhaps you aren't as close as you think?

Your hair looks fabulous I bet and she's just jealous
I recently had about 5 inches cut off my hair and had a lot of blonde put through it. My husband didn't notice
My 21 year old didn't notice
My 18 year old didn't notice.
I walked into Boots to collect my prescription and the guy in the pharmacy shouts across "ooh! Love the hair! Suits you!"
I gave my husband a bollocking

Got to laugh At these threads, some folks like to run in and give a sly kick. “She doesn’t like it mate”. Unsaid translation “you look shit”

Op. She’s likely jealous. She noticed alright. Even if she didn’t like it, which she did, she’d muster up a “ gosh what a difference do you like it” . The silence says envy.

Revel in it. You look good. 😃

My friend had very long attractive hair for the first few years I knew her. One day she turned up and had cut it all extremely short. It did not look good. She looked like a teenage boy with a cheap barber.

I did not know what to say, OP. I didn’t want to lie and I didn’t want to be in some awkward ‘oh you changed it’ conversation which ends with her saying ‘what do you think?’

Your friend did notice your hair, and doesn’t like it. Yabu expecting compliments.