Page 3 | He said me walking slow is annoying

User158340 · 16/01/2021 19:30

Get out while you can. Seriously.

makingmammaries · 16/01/2021 19:38

Run for the hills. Oops. I mean, ditch him.

peak2021 · 16/01/2021 20:01

You have a diagnosed medical condition. His lack of recognition of this is enough to end the relationship.

44PumpLane · 16/01/2021 20:49

I voted YABU because it really is annoying when someone walks slowly, but if he's nice and just happened to be annoyed at your walking pace don't go out for long walks with him.

As an aside I am iron deficient anaemic and am quite a speedy walker, I've never known anaemia to make someone a slow walker unless it was super severe and the person was receiving guided medical treatment for it..... So are you sure you're not just unfit? (u don't mean to be rude, you may genuinely be suffering purely from the anaemia and in that case clearly you cq t help it).

If it is just the anaemia what are you doing to help yourself? Are you taking the proper supplements and at what level? This shouldn't be a long term issue unless you are really severely ill in which case he's a bit insensitive.

VainAbigail · 16/01/2021 21:06

Ask him to Google iron deficiency whilst he’s also Googleing his ex’s name.

hansgrueber · 16/01/2021 21:56

He is being harshly judged, I get sore legs if I have to walk slowly for whatever resason. Maybe he should do what I did, walk a couple of hundred yeards at his own pace and stop to allow her to catch up. No reason why one person should be able to dictate to another.

lemonsquashie · 16/01/2021 22:04

Yabu I can't stand slow walkers either.

CheesePleaz · 16/01/2021 22:06

I'm with him on this, slow walkers are frustrating.

VladimirCutiePutiPie · 16/01/2021 22:09

There afw some really shitty people on here saying people who walk slow are annoying. I walk fast and I walk dogs who walk even faster than I do. Your boyfriend is an arsehole and so are the people on here slating you for a medical condition. You don’t need to be made to feel rubbish when you are having fresh air and the people on here being trolls need to get a life.

vanillandhoney · 16/01/2021 22:11

I have to be honest, I wouldn't automatically make a link between anaemia and an inability to walk quickly.

Have you actually explained this to him?

Stillgoings · 16/01/2021 22:18

Me and my DH have this. He tries.to walk as slowly as he can and I try to scurry along to catch up with him but we're never quite in sync. I also have an anaemia. I take ferrous fumerate and it has made an enormous difference to my ability to get up hills and I love our walks but we're rarely side by side. We just have to put up with eachother as best we can

1Morewineplease · 16/01/2021 22:20

Suggest you chat with your GP . Anaemia aside, you should be able to walk with your partner.
My husband is considerably taller than I am and , consequently covers a greater distance in his leg stride than I do. It's been a bit of a bother over the years but we've reached a midway point. Maybe that's your problem.

DeeCeeCherry · 16/01/2021 22:23

I can't walk quickly due to iron deficient anemia which takes my breath away if I walk quickly. Hills are a particular struggle. He knows I'm anemic

Yet another Mr Unfuckable who disrespects women yet inexplicably manages to get a woman to put up with him and query his nasty comments instead of telling him to get lost.

alltoomuchrightnow · 16/01/2021 22:26

omg I dumped someone last summer because of this! (ok one of the reasons..he was HORRIBLE about it.. so arrogant) I'm tall with long legs and don't walk slow but he's 6ft 4 and I couldnt keep up with his pace..and he was really horrible about it..if his name begins with R, run run run ;)
My point also was he gave me a camera lens when I went to stay with him and I slowed down to take photos.. you know, what he wanted me to do... he lives in a beautiful place. So i wanted to show appreciation of the gift..but then he moaned re me slowing down...to take photos..he'd have moaned if i hadnt!!
He said if i didn't speed up i'd get lost as I don't know the area. So yeh..that was nice! That he'd let me get lost...and he did! Several times!
Then when i came home he had the cheek to flag all this up as a big issue re compatibility. Really upset me as I'm a huge walker, I love it, and I walk tons in my job! I'm probably fitter than him! Yet he was making out I was unfit when I was merely slowing down to take photos in lovely scenery, and to take in the landscape he can see anytime! I just saw it as arrogance as he couldn't compromise and meet in the middle re pace. So many of my photos have his big hulking arrogant frame trundling off on the horizon!

Anniegetyourgun · 16/01/2021 22:29

@katy1213

It's hardly worth ditching him over - let him go for proper walks on his own and tootle around the park together at your pace.

Why not? They've only been dating a month. It's hardly worth spending time getting closer to someone who doesn't seem very nice when she could be dating a kind, thoughtful man instead. They do exist.

PlanDeRaccordement · 16/01/2021 22:31

YANBU, but are you quite sure he knows how your anemia affects you? He may know you have it, but have no idea that is why you struggle to walk quickly.

nancybotwinbloom · 16/01/2021 22:38

These boots are made for walking....

feelingverylazytoday · 16/01/2021 22:38

@VladimirCutiePutiPie

There afw some really shitty people on here saying people who walk slow are annoying. I walk fast and I walk dogs who walk even faster than I do. Your boyfriend is an arsehole and so are the people on here slating you for a medical condition. You don’t need to be made to feel rubbish when you are having fresh air and the people on here being trolls need to get a life.

Being annoyed by something doesn't make you an arsehole. It sounds as if hill walking is his hobby, in which case he 's going to find it annoying if someone can't keep up. It would be different if they were doing ordinary walking, like to the shops or something. I like swimming, I want to swim laps as fast as I can, not pootle along chatting to a mate. It's the same thing in my mind.

StrawberrySquash · 16/01/2021 22:48

The two of you need to communicate and work out a solution. Continually walking at a slower pace than natural used to cause me physical pain, so it's not as simple as saying he should just slow down. I have a slow walking friend. Sometimes we walk at her pace, other times it's useful for me to steam off ahead and, say, get in a restaurant queue for us. Or I wait somewhere for her to catch up.

DeeCeeCherry · 16/01/2021 22:51

It's hardly worth ditching him over - let him go for proper walks on his own and tootle around the park together at your pace

What - with a new man who's irritated that a medical condition OP suffers from, means she can't walk fast?

Nowhere has OP said she's so desperate for a man she'd put up with an insensitive oaf. They've been together a mere month. Hardly earth-shattering if she ditches him. He's not the last man on earth.

He knows she's anaemic and she's explained the symptoms. Anything else he wants to know he'd read up on it, as logically sensible people tend to.

The pp's here ignoring someone's medical condition in their haste to show they 'do things better' are just silly.

M0rT · 16/01/2021 22:55

I am short with a joint condition, I've never been able to walk fast and detioriaration recently means most toddlers can outpace me.
There are only two people in my life who find my inability to keep pace with them irritating.
I know they love me and they try to slow down for me but it is really difficult for them and I see them struggle with it.
They don't tell me I'm annoying..
Everyone else also walks faster than me but can slow down to talk to me when in my company, even the properly fit athletic ones.
I'd get rid, a month in and he's telling you something you can't control about yourself is annoying. What's the point?

Indecisive12 · 16/01/2021 22:58

It is annoying when someone walks a lot slower than you do.
It doesn’t sound like you’re compatible if he’s very active and outdoorsy and you struggle mobility wise.

Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel · 16/01/2021 23:00

Oh OP, don't put up with his nonsense. It will get worse, after only a month there's an issue. It will be something else soon enough. Run! Well, walk away, slowly.

Keepyourdistance000 · 16/01/2021 23:02

He sounds like an inconsiderate, selfish bully - massive red flag OP. Get rid before you get in too deep to leave.

WilsonMilson · 16/01/2021 23:10

I’m a fast walker and I find it really annoying to have to slow down to someone else’s pace, it just doesn’t feel like exercise then. But, as you have a medical condition I would expect a bit more sympathy and allowance.