To think this rude comment was unwarranted? (Supermarket rage!)

[CrossFitAddict]

Just popped to the supermarket for a few bits and on exiting the checkouts I come out behind an elderly lady with another woman walking with her side by side (probably her daughter). It’s about 50ft to the exit and the elderly lady is walking extremely slowly holding onto a trolley (no problem with her at all), the other woman with her is walking at the same pace and blocking the walkway (she was rather large) so there’s a queue of us behind them.

As the area widened I walked quickly around them, a good distance from the elderly lady, and sped up to the entrance hearing the other woman shout loudly ‘some people can’t wait for other people can they’. I turned as I heard her (as did everyone else) and wanted to say that she should have moved to the side and walked single file behind the older lady if she had any manners but didn’t bother and just shook my head.

AIBU to think that if you’re walking with a slow moving person, you should move to the side rather than hold up everyone else and then take umbrage if someone overtakes you .

In the real world everybody passes the slow walkers when there is space. There was once a thread on here where a parent with a slow walking toddler was slaughtered for being entitled and precious. For holding the busy adults up.

The only lesson there is that in contrary Mumsnet-land, you can only be wrong.

Sounds like this pair have got nothing better to do than chelp at strangers for nothing.

Were you two meters from them when you passed?

@DuckonaBike

YANBU. Can’t stand people who stroll everywhere slowly like this flaunting their time wealth.

Some people have no choice. My mum walked so slowly at the end of her life I found it almost physically impossible to match her pace.

@Mummyoflittledragon I think that was sarcasm from @DuckonaBike

I’d be surprised at youboughtmeawall leaping to the conclusion that people saying an elderly frail person should stay home during a pandemic because they’re impatient, but given how self-entitled some people are on MN about family outings to the supermarket I’m not shocked at all.

OPs comment wasn’t anything to do with covid. She just said should the woman be out shopping if she’s that frail. Well you know what, that’s her decision to make. People don’t instantly lose the right to make their own decisions just because their bodies have slowed down. She has exactly the same right as OP has to be in that supermarket.

Yes she was rude to remark like that and its better to move out of the way if there is space rather than block the way of other people.

You are also wrong to be commenting on a persons size. Sounds like you had already made a decision to rush past because you had already judged the woman because she was on the large side.

It's possible the manner in which you went past may have caused her to remark as she did.

@Still1nLove

Were you two meters from them when you passed?

Does 2 metres matter for the second it takes to past! Aren't the people more 'in danger' being behind the slow walking person!

YANBU to have walked around them when you had space to do so. I'm a New Yorker and slow pedestrians are a fact of life. People here just go around them and no one thinks anything of it.

People don’t instantly lose the right to make their own decisions just because their bodies have slowed down. She has exactly the same right as OP has to be in that supermarket

Same applies to children and families then doesnt it? yet ive seen lots of threads bashing them for being out shopping.

"Lucky you were in a good mood" 😳what would have happened if you weren't 😱

Same applies to children and families then doesnt it? yet ive seen lots of threads bashing them for being out shopping.

Yes same applies for those families. Why wouldn’t it? They all get to make their own decisions about whether they need to be in the supermarket together. They’re in a much better position to make that decision that strangers who don’t know them from Adam. Did you see me bashing those families on those threads?

@Russellbrandshair

People don’t instantly lose the right to make their own decisions just because their bodies have slowed down. She has exactly the same right as OP has to be in that supermarket

Same applies to children and families then doesnt it? yet ive seen lots of threads bashing them for being out shopping.

No it doesn’t. Children don’t need to buy groceries, that’s what they’ve got parents for.

Did you see me bashing those families on those threads

I dont memorise screen names on every thread so I wouldn't know!

I'm merely pointing out the hypocrisy of the "but she needs to get out!" point of view simply due to her older age when multiple threads have bashed parents for bringing their kids to the shops. Its either ok or its not ok, you cannot say its ok for one age group to do it and not another otherwise thats discriminatory and ageist

No it wasn’t sarcasm! When I’m rushing madly to fit everything in it really winds me up to see people strolling along blocking the way who clearly have all... the time ... in the world...

But yes, I guess some people physically can’t go very fast. Perhaps I’m being unfair in some cases.

No it doesn’t. Children don’t need to buy groceries, that’s what they’ve got parents for

The elderly lady also had someone to buy for her! kids need to get out just as much as she did so that argument is null

@Russellbrandshair

No it doesn’t. Children don’t need to buy groceries, that’s what they’ve got parents for

The elderly lady also had someone to buy for her! kids need to get out just as much as she did so that argument is null

That’s a massive assumption based on no evidence whatsoever.

The response you gave her rude remark ‘I just shook my head at her’ was probably far more annoying to her than if you had shouted a remark at her!

I'm merely pointing out the hypocrisy of the "but she needs to get out!" point of view simply due to her older age when multiple threads have bashed parents for bringing their kids to the shops.

You are likening an adult woman with children! She isn’t a child!

Its either ok or its not ok, you cannot say its ok for one age group to do it and not another otherwise thats discriminatory and ageist

I didn’t.

YANBU OP, I walk fast naturally and I overtake slow walkers when I'm out. I'd have shouted something back though if she'd have said it to me If you walk slowly, whether it may be due to a disability or just general, then you should understand others may want to go around you. It's not being rude to overtake someone.

I walk quickly but I know not everyone can. Fat shaming and elderly shaming just for a couple of minutes of your time. Sorry, just not how I think. And something like this wouldn't rile me enough to need to rant on Mumsnet about it.

Jeeez who cares tbh ! Wear headphones next time and you won’t hear what anyone says 😂 why do you even care

Oh ffs only on MN could walking past someone be seen a rude. We’re not ants we can thankfully walk at our own pace and own direction.

The woman was being an arse, she could be having a day or she could in fact just be an arse. You’re politer than most would have been.

Your name is really fitting though OP

YANBU for what you did overall but YABU for the "only one of them should have been shopping" comment as that doesn't seem to be the case even on face value.

I honestly think the standard of fitness is so appalling in this country that some people make a virtue out of moving as slowly as possible, as if they're scared of normal speed.