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To think that the other mothers could have been a bit more sympathetic?

56 replies

Indiechick · 28/10/2007 07:28

Took dd to a party yesterday at McDonalds, from 11 to 12.30. Once party was in full swing in party room I went and got myself lunch. Now I should explain, I'm three months pregnant and am having really bad problems with my blood sugar, I've been advised to eat five/six times a day to stop my blood sugar dipping too low. So given that I'd had breakfast at 7.30 I was getting a bit shaky by 11.00 so thought I'd have an early lunch. McDonalds wouldn't have been my first choice but we were there and it's a McDonalds in the middles of nowhere so it's not like I could go anywhere else. All the other mothers acted as though I was so stupid, needing food and laughing at me when I explained I need to eat so often. I mean wtf? I'm pregnant and not terribly well with it. They are all mothers, would a bit of understanding be too much to ask for. One of them was quite rude about me eating, saying that I just saying I had to eat so I could be greedy. Sorry, bit long, but I'm fed up. I mean, what's so wrong with eating an early lunch anyway? I hate the fact that you're expected to go along to these parties and not eat anything!

OP posts:
onebadmother · 28/10/2007 07:37

yanbu. But it's your pregnancy hormones making you care what any of these loons think!

Summerfruitfullofscaryworms · 28/10/2007 07:40

At 3 months pregnant, I was completely the same as you...also the smell of the food must have made you feel shaky it's normal even more normal if you had your breakfast early in the morning, these woman are stupids...you are pregnant, you need to eat..macdonalds or whatever else you need to eat !

Summerfruitfullofscaryworms · 28/10/2007 07:40

forget to add YANBU

HappyMummyOfOne · 28/10/2007 08:17

YANBU, I had to eat 5 or 6 small meals a day until I reached about 21 weeks otherwise I was just sick all day and felt wobbly.

Ignore them, the rude one was probably only jealous that she wasnt eating

lucyellensmum · 28/10/2007 08:18

wow - they sound like a great bunch of moronic arseholes girls

franke · 28/10/2007 08:21

I'm 3 months and have almost done handbrake turns in the road to get to a sandwich bar - when you're pregnant and you get hungry you have to eat RIGHT NOW!

Silly women - don't take any notice of them. And as for someone implying you're greedy, what a loon. yanbu.

milliec · 28/10/2007 08:33

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kittywitch · 28/10/2007 08:46

YANBU, you have to eat when your body tells you and you have to eat immediately.
Whenever I was at that stage in my pgs I would always carry homemade sarnies with me, that way I didn't have to eat shop bought shite and I could eat as and when I needed to.

GarrottedbyElasticband · 28/10/2007 08:47

how mean, but i bet there were one or two of them wishign they had a meal too, but didnt dare cos to the crowd bullying mentality.

Tommy · 28/10/2007 08:48

if you ad been in a soft play place I bet they would have all had a coffee and a cake.

YANBU at all - try to ignore what other people say

2shoescreepingthroughblood · 28/10/2007 08:54

yanbu
I rember my sil's laughing at me when i HAD to eat (at lunchtime) when I was pregnant.

Bouncingturtleskulls · 28/10/2007 09:02

YANBU - had the same problem in this pg, right up to a few weeks ago, if I didn't eat something when I was hungry, then very quickly I started feeling very nauseous, and certainly in the 1st trimester would be sick!
Ignorant bunch of cows.

bling1 · 28/10/2007 09:12

You do what's right for you - I almost passed out on an easyjet flight to Glasgow with my first pregnancy as my blood sugar dipped dramatically! If your body's telling you to eat - eat even if it is McD's!

Eddas · 28/10/2007 09:13

YANBU, that's terrible. I had to eat when pg, you just have to! I remember bring in Ireland with dh and 3 others when i was 3 months pg. We were walking down the road, and they all kept looking at me asking are you ok? Clearly looked rough! I said i was fine but about 5mins later I said no I need to stop asap, i have to eat. We stopped for 'emergency food' after that I kept an emergency packet of crisps and water with me Everytime I saw them after are Ireland trip they'd ask if I had my emergency crisps Bless em!

cazboldy · 28/10/2007 09:27

when i was pg with dd1 i walked past a fish and chip shop. I had to go back and join the queue. It was a really odd feeling.... The thought of eating chips made me feel sick but I needed them.
Anyway, I passed out in the queue! Also I fell downstairs while carrying my ds down in the morning at about 13 wks pg with dd1, because of the same thing.Luckily I was fine but it was really scary. After that took some biscuits to bed so i could eat one before i tried to go downstairs. sorry for the one handed typing dd2 is on my lap and is eating the other one

nooka · 28/10/2007 09:37

Why is it anyone else's business if you wanted something to eat? What rude people! I have blood sugar problems sometimes anyway, so I know how it is when you get that horrible woozy feeling. My dh who is a bodybuilder eats a large meal every 2 1/2 hours, not usually at McD's, but when it happens because we are out and with the children he then eats something like four burgers - we've never had any comments! I would advise that you plan to eat every two or three hours and take something low GI (something that includes protein would be good) with you in future. If you eat fast food you will find you get horrible energy dips quite shortly after you eat.

Nightynight · 28/10/2007 09:37

Commenting on what other people eat is so rude. Anyway, you're in McDs, you were eating - what on earth is to comment about??? I often eat a second breakfast and go easy on lunch.

LoveAngel · 28/10/2007 09:40

YANBU. What kind of pig ignorant person comments on what another person is eating?

p.s. They were probably gagging for a few chips!

pixie04 · 28/10/2007 09:41

YANBU, what a bunch of nasty cows, I'm not PG and I have to eat every couple of hours, I've never had tests done to check for low blood sugar but I get very dizzy and sick if I skip one of my snacks/meals and I nearly always carry something in my handbag incase I get stuck somewhere with no food. I get made fun of a little bit at work but people would never be so nasty about it. What's wrong with eating for goodness sake. Are we supposed to starve ourselves for the approval of other women?!

LoveAngel · 28/10/2007 09:42

p.s. I am hypoglycaemic myself, so I know that when you NEED to eat, you NEED to. It's not 'being greedy', it's avoiding headaches, fainting, sickness etc - all of which is compounded by early pregnancy.

ProfYaffle · 28/10/2007 09:51

YANBU. I was similar in the early days of bfing and I remember (childless) BIL sneering at me because i couldn't wait an hour for lunch. People can have a funny attitude to women eating, we're all supposed to pick listlessly at our lettuce aren't we?

helenhismadwife · 28/10/2007 09:57

what a horrible bunch of people, I wonder what they would have done and said if you had fainted because your blood sugars were low. I aways used to carry a snack and drink in my bag when pregnant

TheChickenLady · 28/10/2007 10:39

I hope you had fries and a milkshake too!

You'd think they'd know better about your needs when pregnant, especially being mums themselves.

agnesnitt · 28/10/2007 10:44

You can buy sweets from the chemist that are for people who have a habit of going hypo. Grab some for your handbag as they're a perfect antidote to feeling bad, and they give you enough time to get to a decent meal

Oh, and bals tot he other mothers

Agnes

nooka · 28/10/2007 11:02

I used to have a box of glucose powder (weird stuff) which gives you instant sugar, but it is better to pace yourself throguh the day really - an even keel is much better for you (I actually used to pass out as a teenager when I had both low blood pressure and hypoglycemia, both of which I have pretty much grown out of). My mother used to send me to school with extra honey sandwiches for break times.