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To think that the other mothers could have been a bit more sympathetic?

56 replies

Indiechick · 28/10/2007 07:28

Took dd to a party yesterday at McDonalds, from 11 to 12.30. Once party was in full swing in party room I went and got myself lunch. Now I should explain, I'm three months pregnant and am having really bad problems with my blood sugar, I've been advised to eat five/six times a day to stop my blood sugar dipping too low. So given that I'd had breakfast at 7.30 I was getting a bit shaky by 11.00 so thought I'd have an early lunch. McDonalds wouldn't have been my first choice but we were there and it's a McDonalds in the middles of nowhere so it's not like I could go anywhere else. All the other mothers acted as though I was so stupid, needing food and laughing at me when I explained I need to eat so often. I mean wtf? I'm pregnant and not terribly well with it. They are all mothers, would a bit of understanding be too much to ask for. One of them was quite rude about me eating, saying that I just saying I had to eat so I could be greedy. Sorry, bit long, but I'm fed up. I mean, what's so wrong with eating an early lunch anyway? I hate the fact that you're expected to go along to these parties and not eat anything!

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spookybatoscar · 28/10/2007 11:08

What a bunch of narrow minded judgemental tosspots

Ignore them. God I hate food nazis.

I have to keep my blood sugar up myself and I agree with Agnes. Glucose tabs are vital for my handbag, a short sharp hit.

Sod the lot of them and obey you're body's needs

Congrats on the bfp btw

krang · 28/10/2007 11:12

I'm not pregnant but I love food and I love eating and food is necessary and delicious, so quite frankly people who have a problem with, er, eating food obviously have a problem with being alive. Sheesh, how sad to be able to enjoy such a basic pleasure in life. And such a bad example to children, too. 'Oooh, that woman's EATING some FOOD! Ugh! How awful!' And then they wonder why their kids grow up to have eating disorders.

pointydog · 28/10/2007 11:17

YABU

It's your body, you were hungry, you ate. So what if other people made a few light-hearted comments. Don't know why it made you so angry.

kerala · 28/10/2007 11:25

YANBU at all - how rude and unsympathetic.

I was the same and the one time I didnt eat in time in early pregnancy I was very sick in Hampstead high street.

In fact have always had low blood sugar so that if you dont eat in time you feel dizzy and eventually will faint. Have always had this but pregnancy made it worse. Perhaps carry a stash of bananas to scoff whenever that dizzy feeling comes on?

miobombino · 28/10/2007 11:28

Another one here - low blood sugar especially bad during pregnancies. Even now i feel the need for lunch at around 11am and I'm not pregnant or bfeeding !

Anyone who's never had that nauseous/dizzy/weak/irritable feeling due to lack of food should count themselves lucky. It's beyond hunger and not to be ignored.

But even if you weren't preg and feeling rough, how rude of them to comment.

I'm not "greedy" or "out of control" with my eating and I'm sure you're not either; I'm a slimmish size 8-10 who just enjoys food and needs to eat often to feel well. i know all about GI levels etc. my cupboard is full of porridge, quinoa, other wholefoods,healthy veg, meat and fish etc.

bumperlicious · 28/10/2007 12:05

Oh gosh, I was exactly the same when I was pg, had to eat within 10 minutes of feeling hungry or I would feel too sick to eat. Even though I hate mcdonalds I had to go several times when pg as I was so hungry and it was quick and easy.

I'm the same now I am bfing. In fact I have already eaten my lunch today (well the clocks have gone back so 11am felt like midday!).

Even when not pg or bfing if I don't eat I feel sick and get v cranky (much like my 4 month old baby!).

YOMO · 28/10/2007 13:11

Some people have no class. To make you feel embarrassed for eating when you are pregnant is just low..... I ate all the time through out my pregnancy (I remember sitting on the 6.00am train to London eating packets of salt and vinegar disco's), it was the only way I stopped myself feeling sick..

oxocube · 28/10/2007 13:15

YANBU. Even if you weren't pregnant and just fancied a burger, its got naff all to do with anyone else. Witches, with too much time on their hands

VioletBaudelaire · 28/10/2007 13:20

They sound vapid.

TBH, it wouldn't occur to me to notice if anyone else was eating, and I certainly wouldn't comment on it.

Methinks they have little of interest in their lives.

Maybe you could give your DD a biscuit in public sometime soon - these women would probably explode!

shoptilidrop · 28/10/2007 13:33

oooohh my step mother was like that. i had to eat little and often too, or my blood sugar plumpted and i got the shakes and would get faint and go pale and sweat. she just used to keep commenting that she didnt understand why i was hungry and that she never ate anything extra when she had her children.
But of course , and she didnt put on a pound either, and in fact no one could hardly tell she was pg.. and all her children were potty trained day and night by 12 months... i could go on , you get the idea.

Some women are just BITCHES!
eat what you like and be smug in the fact that you are better than them!

justaboutdrippingblood · 28/10/2007 13:42

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claireybee · 28/10/2007 13:49

YANBU If i've eaten breakfast at 7 I need to eat again well before 11-pregnant or not! Ignore them

Hekate · 28/10/2007 14:46

I bet they were all jealous, wishing they could bite into a big burger but feeling they mustn't be seen to eat McYukkies or eat anything with a calorie in it.

Next time, order 2 big macs and eat them slowly, going Mmmmmmm, mmmmmmm, mmmmmmmm, and closing your eyes.

milliec · 28/10/2007 15:24

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LoveAngel · 28/10/2007 15:59

pmsl @ HeKate!!!!!

macdoodle · 28/10/2007 16:27

So its ok for their DC to eat Mcds but not them bunch of sanctimonious hypocrites...I was same in early PG just had to eat pretty much constantly or would be sick all the time ...bit better now at 32/40 but still would not be able to resist a McD at 11 if had breakfast at 7:30...
YANBUAA hope you enjoyed every mouthfull and had a MILKSHAKE or SOFT SERVE after

pointydog · 28/10/2007 16:43

You are an angry bunch

boolepew · 28/10/2007 16:55

They probably rushed round the corner to Burger King after the party. After being released from hospital with hyperemesis I went to McD's every lunchtime and had fries and a McChicken sandwich every for 2 weeks!

ideamummy · 28/10/2007 18:54

Well thank you, I feel a lot more normal and you're right about how hypocritical to let their chilren go to a party there but not eat the food themselves.
And pointydog, they were not lighthearted comments, but quite rude ones that were totally uncalled for. Presumably you'd have joined in if you'd been there. Glad to see most mumsnetters are supportive, thank you.

pointydog · 28/10/2007 18:55

No I wouldn't have joined in so don't bother carrying on the crabbitness with me

ideamummy · 28/10/2007 18:59

I think you started it dear, but you're right, I shouldn't waste time on you.

kittywitch · 28/10/2007 19:14

Is it a full moon?

ArmadilloDaMan · 28/10/2007 19:18

dear god - she said you were being a bit unreasonable, she didn't steal your firstborn for god's sake

Think maybe you're overreacting a tinsy little bit, possibly

jezzemx · 28/10/2007 19:24

Bunch of Idiots. If you want to eat then eat. you don't have to explain yourself. I'm normally the first in line when food is on the go and I don't give two hoots what anyone thinks and i'm not even preggas!!! some people have a real problem with macdonalds but I bet they were wishing that they were tucking into a big mac and chips. Just ignore them.
ps congrats x

theprecious · 28/10/2007 19:26

don't you think that it should be a rule that if you want to be rude to someone that you create a profile page? That way we could look at the arguing parties and decide which we like best.

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