You didn't get bacon

[BarbiesWorld]

Its snowing here. A lot. "D"H pissed off to work this morning despite the snow. I finished the usual morning routine and realised we only had 2 nappies left for the baby so took the kids on to the local shop for nappies.

He's had to come home because of the snow and abandoned his car next to a supermarket amd walk the rest of the way home. I'm now trying to get the baby down for his morning nap after a grand total of 3 hours sleep last night (for me) and he's wandered in asking why I didn't get any bacon.

I had no idea he was coming home.
He parked next to the fucking supermarket. If he wanted bacon he could have got some!

Now I've got homeschooling, teething 11 month old and a uni report due next week while he happily slobs about not contributing to family life because "it's a snow day".

WIBU to bury him under the decking?

@Robbybobtail

Honestly? I think I’d have had a mental breakdown. As a sahm the bulk of the childcare/night feeds was up to me but he would help if I specifically asked and he could see how knackered I was. Also, this is one of the reasons (amongst other things) why I chose to bottle feed - I wanted to be able to hand the baby over to someone else. I get it’s so much harder when you’re breastfeeding.

If you are spelling it out and he doesn’t seem to care well, I think I would threaten to leave and see if it makes any difference. I think many women stay while the kids are young as they’re so ground down and tired and leaving seems likes a monumental effort - but when the dc’s are grown and you have more headspace to think, everything becomes clearer and the years of resentment often trigger the woman just snapping as she’s had enough, or maybe realising life’s too short to stay with someone who didn’t support you when you most needed them?

If he loves you he should want you to be happy, my own dh can be lazy and strategically incompetent but when I have a go he generally steps up.

I think ground down is exactly what it is. At the moment of I get to the end of the day and everyone is alive and the kids are happy I think of it as a success.

He says he loves me but is so lazy and inconsiderate it pains me. I mentioned his behaviour again this afternoon and he acts like he's accepted I'm going to leave him. But won't do anything about it.

I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place.

What happened at teatime?

Missing the point of the thread entirely but where are you to have snow?! Very jealous, it all melted here last week and it's been torrential rain since!
We've got it up here in Leeds and Bradford by the bucket load. Everything is at a standstill

He says he loves me but is so lazy and inconsiderate it pains me. I mentioned his behaviour again this afternoon and he acts like he's accepted I'm going to leave him. But won't do anything about it.

Love is a verb.

I don't believe in putting men through Herculean tasks to prove their dedication, but I don't think it's too much to ask that they let you get some sleep and give a shit about having you there.

Oh sorry, wrong thread, the sleep thing was on one of the other 40 threads we've got going at the moment about lazy men who do nothing and let their partners run themselves to exhaustion. I can't keep track. The rest of it still stands though.

So what was his reason for not getting bacon when he parked up next to the supermarket...?

He says he loves me but is so lazy and inconsiderate it pains me. I mentioned his behaviour again this afternoon and he acts like he's accepted I'm going to leave him. But won't do anything about it.

I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place.

No he really doesn't think you'd leave, he's telling you that every time he ignores your requests to change.

Make him do the home schooling.