You didn't get bacon

[BarbiesWorld]

Its snowing here. A lot. "D"H pissed off to work this morning despite the snow. I finished the usual morning routine and realised we only had 2 nappies left for the baby so took the kids on to the local shop for nappies.

He's had to come home because of the snow and abandoned his car next to a supermarket amd walk the rest of the way home. I'm now trying to get the baby down for his morning nap after a grand total of 3 hours sleep last night (for me) and he's wandered in asking why I didn't get any bacon.

I had no idea he was coming home.
He parked next to the fucking supermarket. If he wanted bacon he could have got some!

Now I've got homeschooling, teething 11 month old and a uni report due next week while he happily slobs about not contributing to family life because "it's a snow day".

WIBU to bury him under the decking?

*and my sister in law.

go out and get the bacon, but leave the kids with him preferably after dosed up on sugar and take your time

Maybe that's why there is just no decent men anywhere (in my experience). Because they have grown up to see that's what their mothers/women accept and put up with and the cycle continues

DH wouldn't have done this either. MIL brought her sons up to be self sufficient (except the youngest). DH would have let me know he was coming home and if he'd had to abandon near a supermarket asked if we needed anything before coming home.

Why didn't you get bacon? Not that I think you should, just want to know why you didn't?

She'd had three hours sleep & had other priorities (nappies) than whether her DH might fancy a bacon sandwich, especially when she didn't even know he was coming home.

Give him a shopping list and homeschooling to do

They obviously sell bacon in the local shop as that is where he expected you to buy it. So he can walk there himself and get it.

@steppemum
Exactly. I don't know any men in real like who behave like this.
But then I don't any women who would tolerate it.

Snow day? How old is he, 13?

Yep I’d definitely remind him both children are his and he mucks in. Does he want un help homeschool or wrangle a toddler, those are the choices either take one or fuck off!

To be fair (although it's galling) there ARE some jobs which mean you can't work in snow. DH is a driving instructor & he won't take newer pupils out in snow / ice because they've not learned to cope with it yet. Other jobs like construction are weather reliant as well.

Still doesn't excuse not moaning about bacon or looking after his children though.

I'd be telling him to go and get his own fucking bacon then! You're absolutely right, he should have thought of that, and if he was any kind of decent, he should have PHONED you when he abandoned his car next to a fucking supermarket (oh the irony!) to ASK you if you needed anything as he was coming home!

Dick he is.

@2021ComeAtMe

Have you told him to get up and contribute, that a snow day doesn't mean everything grinds to a halt in the house?

I'm amazed how many posts there are today about men doing fuck all, and the women are posting about them on here instead of telling them to shape up and be an active member of the family.

You know it's possible to do both right?

Wish we had snow.

Yabvu never mind your dh, we have no bacon and now I want some

All these threads do is make me thankful I'm not a man.

@Viviennemary I’m glad I’m not one of the women stuck with them 🙄

@senua

Go and fetch some bacon. Leave him at home with the homeschooling and teething DC. It's snowing outside so it may take some hours time until you return.

I think this is a good idea. Go out and get bacon. From really far away. Enjoy your journey. There's no rush, given that your husband is unexpectedly free for the kids.

Perhaps you could get some thinking done for your uni report whilst you're out? A long walk is good for planning.

@Merryoldgoat

I don’t find these threads funny.

They’re always written in a lighthearted way but the reality is your have a partner who’s checked out of family life or is just a lazy fucker.

I just couldn’t have a relationship like that.

I honestly want to know what’s going wrong with what boys are learning as children to make them think it’s ok to behave like this as a man.

Same here. Why are there so many bloody useless partners?

So what did you say op? Cos in this house it's go like this

I'm not doing anything because it's a snow day
Cool,we dumping all the kids in the garden?
What?
Well of it's a snow day so we don't have to do anything what are we doing with the kids?

The "oh o don't say anything cos there's no point" annoys me more than the useless men

@UghNotThisAgain36

Posts like this and the others we've seen just this morning make me realise that I am fortunate to be a single parent. DP lives alone elsewhere so just me and the DC to deal with. Why do people pick such inept and feckless partners!?

I know, the posts on here about men doing fuck all are depressing. Mainly because the women posting are half thinking it's a bit funny or frustrating, rather than showing clearly that the men concerned are arseholes.

But I expect they're "good dads", they always seem to be!

You have a spare adult! HE can go and buy bloody bacon. Preferably while giving the 11 year old some exercise. Then he can home school. Awful day sorted.

If he's not up for helping fix the day, why? Consider if you genuinely want to be with such a useless tosser.

@MrsGlitterSparklesHun

Missing the point of the thread entirely but where are you to have snow?! Very jealous, it all melted here last week and it's been torrential rain since!

Leeds /Wakefield area. We have about a foot of snow.

I honestly want to know what’s going wrong with what boys are learning as children to make them think it’s ok to behave like this as a man.

What about what girls are learning? Why are we raising th to tolerate this crap?

I have three boys. I'll do my best to not raise entitled dicks but I expect any partners of theirs to absolutely call them out if they do act like one.

And if they call and says "mom, Lila keeps moaning. She's home all day with the kids and I work so why does she expect me to do X, Y,Z" I promise to point out I didn't accept that crap from their father and I don't expect it from them

“Tell him he's a pig and cannibalism is illegal“

😂

@Herja

You have a spare adult! HE can go and buy bloody bacon. Preferably while giving the 11 year old some exercise. Then he can home school. Awful day sorted.

If he's not up for helping fix the day, why? Consider if you genuinely want to be with such a useless tosser.

Perhaps OP wants to be such a useless tosser because 'he brings home the bacon'!

@Merryoldgoat

I don’t find these threads funny.

They’re always written in a lighthearted way but the reality is your have a partner who’s checked out of family life or is just a lazy fucker.

I just couldn’t have a relationship like that.

I honestly want to know what’s going wrong with what boys are learning as children to make them think it’s ok to behave like this as a man.

They're depressing, they show many women as enablers to many men's uselessness.

I now realise why I've been mostly single as an adult! I just wouldn't put up with this shit. Mind you, my ex husband wasn't like this at all. He was at least a grown up.

My mother didn't put up with this either, and kicked my father out, he expected her to do it all whilst he did the bits he wanted. So I've learnt good lessons from her. He's now married to a woman who does everything and laughs off his lazy arrogance regarding pulling weight for household stuff.