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To kick DH out the bed

102 replies

noteabagsleft · 12/01/2021 23:33

THE SNORING
Honestly can't cope tonight. I'm shattered, almost time of the month and I've never been so irritated in my life.
I've woke him up about 6 times in the last hour to try and get him to stop but bloody hell he's almost lifting the roof with the racket!
Help 😖

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Dora26 · 13/01/2021 12:15

I found wax earplugs from Boots worked well

SuperlativeScrubs · 13/01/2021 12:20

Earplugs are a godsend. Used them for night shift and now use them for my OH's snoring. I am looking at getting the little ear plug pod things that you can play white noise though as I have heard they are good and I like white noise.

As for your OH ask him to try and alleviate it if it is getting bad. Nasal strips, sprays, antihistamines before bed etc. If nothing works then an appointment with the GP might be in order

iwannascream · 13/01/2021 12:26

I've seen a new gadget on the market that you place on the forehead and everytime you snore it sends a little shock to the person snoring......is it really bad that I have ordered them in bulk and plan on sticking them everywhere on my husband when he is asleep obviously and will happily stay awake to watch the effects of the shocks :) My husband is a really bad snorer and we can hear him snore in my neighbours house oops

salcombebabe · 13/01/2021 12:27

I was reading about weighted blankets this morning and they’re recommended for snoring!!! Look them up OP.

dizzycatdance2 · 13/01/2021 12:31

May have already been mentioned.

Moldable ear plugs , they form to your exact ear canal.

White Noise app : have it on really loud and it will help mask the snoring.

Allgreyeverything · 13/01/2021 12:35

I’ve moved to the spare bedroom but still hear the snoring trough the wall. It’s not even that loud, but when you are trying to sleep, that noise is just unbearable. So I am thinking to move to another room which is at the other end of the house. But that room is haunted so not sure what is worse Hmm

littlepattilou · 13/01/2021 12:39

@noteabagsleft

I agree with a pp, and I said it myself, there is nothing 'light-hearted' about all of this. Many snorers are selfish and thoughtless. As long as THEY are getting THEIR sleep, that's all they care about. As for the poster whose husband said 'I can't help it, it's natural' and wouldn't do anything about it; he'd have been served with divorce papers the next day. Selfish twat.

I pity anyone who hasn't got a spare bedroom, because sharing a bed (even a BEDROOM,) with a snorer is hell on earth, and no-one should have to tolerate it.

Anyone who defends snoring is either a snorer themselves, OR they sleep alone/live alone, and have never suffered the devastating impact of sharing a bed/bedroom with a snorer. It literally makes you physically and mentally exhausted, and can have an impact on your mental health. And as has been said, it's bad for the health of the snorer too.

You have to be incredibly obtuse and narrow-minded to defend snoring. Seriously, give your head a wobble! Hmm

And I'm sorry, but bollocks to earplugs! NO-ONE should be having to get bastard earplugs FFS!

passthemustard · 13/01/2021 12:52

I felt the rage last night also. DPs fucking snoring was the straw that broke the camels back.
I share a room with DP, 2 dogs and our 3 week old DS.
DS only slept 30 minutes at a time last night and was cluster feeding, I might have managed an hours sleep between midnight and 7am. And sitting in the dark listening to DP snore his shitting head off made me want to smash his stupid face in. Then the dogs start snoring and/or licking and the baby starts crying. I'm feeling psychotic today.

noteabagsleft · 13/01/2021 13:23

Let me just make this clear
There seem to be the odd few who are taking this post very seriously
My husband isn't a fully fledged "snorer" if he was I'd probably have divorced him by now.
He snores when he's been drinking and the odd time in between, which was what last night was.
He IS NOT overweight or obese
He WAS NOT angry that I woke him up a few times
Pretty certain he DOES NOT have sleep apnoea
And I DO NOT need to give my head a wobble 😂
It was one night, I don't abuse him (like a pp implied) he snored for one night, it annoyed me a little and I jabbed him a few times 😂 I posted on here to occupy myself while he was snoring next to me.
We woke up this morning and had a laugh about it- no seriousness here. So I'm sorry to those of you that are taking this serious but I really am not. I actually think it's very amusing that everyone is getting so angry about MY DH snoring.

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OnceUponAMidnightBeery · 13/01/2021 14:26

@Allgreyeverything

I’ve moved to the spare bedroom but still hear the snoring trough the wall. It’s not even that loud, but when you are trying to sleep, that noise is just unbearable. So I am thinking to move to another room which is at the other end of the house. But that room is haunted so not sure what is worse Hmm
I’d take haunted over snoring any day, unless the ghost is noisy of course.

Can ghosts snore?

noteabagsleft · 13/01/2021 15:49

@OnceUponAMidnightBeery

A snoring ghost would be pretty horrendous 😖

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littlepattilou · 13/01/2021 19:10

@noteabagsleft

Let me just make this clear There seem to be the odd few who are taking this post very seriously My husband isn't a fully fledged "snorer" if he was I'd probably have divorced him by now. He snores when he's been drinking and the odd time in between, which was what last night was. He IS NOT overweight or obese He WAS NOT angry that I woke him up a few times Pretty certain he DOES NOT have sleep apnoea And I DO NOT need to give my head a wobble 😂 It was one night, I don't abuse him (like a pp implied) he snored for one night, it annoyed me a little and I jabbed him a few times 😂 I posted on here to occupy myself while he was snoring next to me. We woke up this morning and had a laugh about it- no seriousness here. So I'm sorry to those of you that are taking this serious but I really am not. I actually think it's very amusing that everyone is getting so angry about MY DH snoring.
@noteabagsleft

So people getting worried and angry about a serious health issue is amusing to you. Confused Wow.

Your original post did not give any hint that you were being 'lighthearted' and you seemed really pissed off.

Many people have suffered having to sleep with a snorer, and it's made them utterly exhausted - both mentally and physically. It has also affected peoples mental health in some cases.

It IS a serious issue, and you mocking, and laughing at people who were sharing their stories of how badly their partner's snoring has affected them, is just bloody rude.

When I said people not taking snoring seriously need to give their head a wobble, that was not directed at you, and neither was anything else. I was actually posting in support of you and your issue... As most people were.

Wish I hadn't bothered now.

Enjoy the next 60 years of sleeping next to your snoring husband. You'll be fine, as you have both had a laugh about it, because it's 'so hilarious,' and he only snores when he's pissed, and he doesn't have sleep apnoea (you have decided with no actual diagnosis.) So crack on eh?!

Say you are being 'lighthearted' as much as you like, but having to sleep with a snorer is NOT lighthearted. It's horrible and debilitating for the person suffering the snoring partner, AND very detrimental to the health of the snorer! You're deluded if you think any of this is 'lighthearted' and that there isn't a problem here!

noteabagsleft · 13/01/2021 19:35

@littlepattilou

Firstly I won't need to enjoy the next 60 years next to snorer as he isn't a "snorer" he very rarely snores. If u have taken offence so badly at my "lighthearted" post (which actually I did say 2 or 3 comments in, and more than once throughout the post, that I wasn't being serious) then why not just walk on by?? What are you achieving by ranting at me?
I would assume that if my dH had sleep apnoea then he would be snoring much more often and there be more symptoms than just the odd night here and there.
Not making fun of anyone with this condition at all and haven't once said that was merely poking fun at myself and my own situation more than anything as was many other PP.
if by any mean anyone has genuinely got upset by any of my comments then I do apologise that wasn't my intention and as I've said I was laughing at my own situation as I don't take one night of horrendous snoring that seriously. Just my opinion

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noteabagsleft · 13/01/2021 19:36

And I was amused that people was getting so angry about MY husband snoring not about their own situation so please don't twist my words.

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Catty1720 · 13/01/2021 19:47

You can get pillows that help with snoring and also nose strips tried and tested on my DH

gamerchick · 13/01/2021 19:47

@Shehasadiamondinthesky

Why the hell isn't he getting referred to the sleep apnoea clinic, I was five minutes away from losing my drivers license because of sleep apnoea. They told me if you snore too much like this you can easily crash your car by falling asleep wiping out other people with you. I take it very seriously now and have a CPAP machine which I use every night.
Same with husband. I thought the GP was going to take his licence before he even got to the sleep clinic. It's so bad for the body and gets right on my wick when men especially ignore it.

God Iove the CPAP.

sadcatdiary · 13/01/2021 19:48

@noteabagsleft

And I was amused that people was getting so angry about MY husband snoring not about their own situation so please don't twist my words.
We might need to dig a bigger patio at this rate.

Here, have a nice Wine.

noteabagsleft · 13/01/2021 19:50

@sadcatdiary

U got more than just that glass?

Think this lockdown is doing awful things to me, don't usually get so worked up about people silly over reactions! Again about MY situation- not others, just before I get jumped on!

So I'm going to ignore the silly comments and just plan this patio dig instead 😂

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noteabagsleft · 13/01/2021 19:51

@Catty1720

Thank you, a PP mentioned those too. Will see how he goes. But hopeful it was just a one off

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Thingsdogetbetter · 13/01/2021 20:02
  1. Ear plugs for narrow ear canals (which woman have compared to men).
  2. Comfy sofa.
  3. Good warm throws on sofa. Pillow kept by sofa.
  4. Antihistamines- make you sleepy, but no doppy hangover in the morning.
  5. Most important: don't stay in bed hoping and trying to roll him over etc. Give up immediately and go to sofa. Otherwise you get angry and anger wakes you up so all hope of sleep is gone.
noteabagsleft · 13/01/2021 20:04

@Thingsdogetbetter

Thank you
Very helpful
Will keep that in mind if there is a next time 🤞

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Thingsdogetbetter · 13/01/2021 20:06

Op there will be a next time. Now you've noticed, it's like a switch in your head and even his normal breathing is amplified to snoring like a hog. Lol. Sorry. Lol

Catty1720 · 13/01/2021 20:06

Sorry @noteabagsleft just caught up. One night he of snoring?? Lucky lady 🤣 it’s enough to wind you up though isn’t it.
Glad he’s ok and it’s not health related the things of this thread may help others though ☺️

noteabagsleft · 13/01/2021 20:14

@Thingsdogetbetter

I suspect we have probably just jinxed it 😂 will keep you updated

@Catty1720
Yeah one night... so far but @Thingsdogetbetter suspects it won't be the last 😂 let's hope she's wrong haha

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whoamongstus · 13/01/2021 20:23

We both snore, which is a bloody nightmare because it means whoever goes to bed first is happily snoring away by the time the other comes up, and then they can't get to sleep. Getting a very comfy bed in the spare room has been a game changer.

I think we probably sleep together 2-3 nights a week, when we go up at the same time. Otherwise we sleep seperately and now we don't want to murder each other between 11pm - 7am every night.

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