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To kick DH out the bed

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noteabagsleft · 12/01/2021 23:33

THE SNORING
Honestly can't cope tonight. I'm shattered, almost time of the month and I've never been so irritated in my life.
I've woke him up about 6 times in the last hour to try and get him to stop but bloody hell he's almost lifting the roof with the racket!
Help 😖

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thisismetrying · 13/01/2021 01:07

Mine is snoring too. I can only hear it because I can't sleep rather than him keeping me awake. I might accidentally kick him anyway because it's annoying,

SheldonesqueIsUnwell · 13/01/2021 01:16

I am single now. beery I’d love to be all dramatic for the purposes of this thread and say it was solely down to snoring but it wasn’t.

I’d still have the dog though. I miss my old girl sneaking up and looking all faux surprised in the morning! (What me? In here? How did that happen???)

Should I hire beeryddog I shall tape myself first to make sure I don’t snore now as well! I could be doing myself an unintentional self-malkie!!!

Profits should be for you and the hound.

However if you make millions I’d be happy to have a very comfy economical car just in the unlikely event I manage to find another snoring significant other Grin

Heartofglass12345 · 13/01/2021 01:21

I snore ridiculously loud, maybe that's why my kids can sleep through anything now as they had to put up with me when they were babies Grin i was diagnosed with sleep apnoea and now have a CPAP machine, my husband said my snoring is a million times better but the noise from the machine keeps him awake instead Sad

LunarSea · 13/01/2021 01:22

I have one like this. Down 2 flights of dogleg stairs, and 2 closed doors, and "sleeping" on the sofa with fingers in ears it's still way too loud to sleep through. Unfortunately he is adamant that if he isn't waking himself up it can't actually be that loud, and it doesn't seem to matter if everyone in the family tells him, he still doesn't believe it.

1forAll74 · 13/01/2021 01:30

I think you can get some little gadget things to stop a person snoring, think they fit on the nose,,but only read about them,as Iive alone, and my cats don't snore. !

OnceUponAMidnightBeery · 13/01/2021 01:33

@SheldonesqueIsUnwell 😂😂 accidental suicide by beerydog 😂 now that’s not what anyone wants on their headstone!

Yes, that faux innocence is adorable (although I’m not entirely sure my daft girl actually did know how she got there, bless her)

Deal- I’ll even throw in heated seats for those chilly nights Grin Hoping your next one’s a non snorer though!

@LunarSea have you tried taping him? or taping up his mouth

SheldonesqueIsUnwell · 13/01/2021 01:37

Accidental malkie by beery ddog is probably better than ‘she was consumed by her inner core of cow* Grin

Deal on the heated seats though 👍🏼
Most generous!!

PastaPins · 13/01/2021 01:57

A gentle kick usually works Blush

mrsbyers · 13/01/2021 02:18

Been there , now we have separate rooms and I still have to wear earplugs ! He had surgery to remove his tonsils and loose skin in nasal area but didn’t cure it so this was the best solution - try some foam industrial strength earplugs , they don’t completely block out sound so you’d hear alarm or the kids but help loads

sadcatdiary · 13/01/2021 03:07

@PastaPins

A gentle kick usually works Blush
Not in my experience. Sad
BlackCatShadow · 13/01/2021 03:14

Maybe you answered already, but is he overweight? My dad was a terrible snorer until he lost weight.

missnevermind · 13/01/2021 04:17

Is this a new thing? DH has always complained about me snoring but since he had Covid he has been worse.

Uhhuhoyaye · 13/01/2021 10:16

Nothing worse than being kept awake by a snookering partner.

But if he is over-tired, stop waking him up. Go and sleep on the couch.

If your couch isn't very comfortable for sleeping on, and money allows, buy one that is better for sleeping on.

Don't make the kids share a room, but buy one of them a set of large bunk beds co you have a bed to go to when this happens again.

littlepattilou · 13/01/2021 10:25

@Shehasadiamondinthesky

Why the hell isn't he getting referred to the sleep apnoea clinic, I was five minutes away from losing my drivers license because of sleep apnoea. They told me if you snore too much like this you can easily crash your car by falling asleep wiping out other people with you. I take it very seriously now and have a CPAP machine which I use every night.
This. ^

This is no joke @noteabagsleft It's got to be dealt with. It's not fair on you, and it's detrimental to his health too. It can lead to heart attacks, and even death.

And trying to sleep with a snorer is hell on earth. Sleep deprivation is a form of torture, and no-one should have to tolerate this.

We are fortunate to have 2 spare bedrooms now, but for around 6-7 years of my life, I was woken up half the time by DH's snoring, and had to sleep on the bloody couch, because of DH's horrific snoring.

We met 30 years ago, (at 23,) and got a one bed flat together a year later. We slept together fine in that one bed for the 4 years we were there. We got married whilst we were there, and slept together fine.

Then we got a 2 bed house, and had DD shortly after. Several years later, by the time we were around 30, he suddenly started snoring. He had gained a bit weight - 2 stone - since we met, but was still a 'healthy' weight. He was a bit underweight when we met.

As DD had the second bedroom, I had nowhere to go, and for around another 5 years (so 6-7 in total,) I had to suffer his snoring OR go and sleep on the couch.

Pissed me right off it did.

We got a 3 bed house when DD was about 5, and then I got my own bedroom (some 20 years back,) and I have never looked back. I could never share a bedroom with him again. We even book separate rooms in hotels when we are on holiday. (Or book a villa or apartment.)

I love him, and we have a good marriage, but I cannot sleep with him. I think sleeping with another person in the same 4' x 6' space is not tenable long-term. I honestly don't know how people do it.

He is happy to have his own room too. He got sick of me waking him to stop him snoring, and jabbing him with my elbow. So all is good as we both have our own space.

If we had only one bedroom, I would sleep on the couch.

DH offered to sleep on the couch quite often, but he is nearly 6 ft, and it would have been so uncomfortable. I was OK on there, (at only 5' 5",) but I was secretly a bit pissed off that I was woken so often, and that I had to sleep on the couch.

And the 'buy earplugs' suggestion that comes on here so often, when people are suffering noise nuisance, really boils my piss. Hmm

A lot of people can't wear them, and they don't cut out ALL noise!

cosmikdebris · 13/01/2021 10:30

my partner snores loud enough to wake me AND the baby. he refused to do anything about it. he says 'its natural and theres nothing i can do to fix it'. honestly infuriating. hes recently gotten so sick of my complaining he just sleeps on the sofa. we take turns on the sofa sometimes too, its nice to fall asleep infront of the t v sometimes too!

Rosebel · 13/01/2021 10:38

My husband uses one of those machines and it doesn't work. Some how he's even worse with the machine on.
I wanted to kill him last night. He's always moaning that I don't wake up easily in the morning and can't seem to understand it's because I've been awake most of the night.
I use, ear plugs but get frequent ear infection (not from the plugs) and can't use them when my ears are bad.
Think we need a big house with a spare room.

JemimaTiggywinkle · 13/01/2021 10:42

Do you open your bedroom window at night?
I find that if the heating has been on all day it gets dry and stuffy and that makes the snoring worse.

Just opening the window a little bit gets some fresh air in and helps decongest.

2BDIs · 13/01/2021 11:12

You sound really unreasonable op. Snoring is not something people can help and waking someone up 6 times in an hour is bordering on abuse, by you. There is a reason you use that as a torture.
If you are hormonal and pissed off go sleep on the sofa or in the spare room and stop being such a bitch to your husband. Imagine if he woke you up 6 times an hour as you snored. You'd be straight on to a women's refuse and a chunk of people on here would be saying how Unreasonable he is, as snoring isn't something you could help.
Get some earplugs and bloody well get over yourself

noteabagsleft · 13/01/2021 11:22

@2BDIs
Wondered when one of these would appear

As I said this was a lighthearted post!

My husband didn't have an issue with me waking him up so why do you??

If I was keeping my DH up all night snoring and he woke me up 6,10 or 20 times to get me to stop then that would be absolutely fine and I certainly wouldn't be complaining about it cos I wouldn't want my snoring to be keeping him awake.
Thanks for your input, although it really isn't wanted nor needed

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noteabagsleft · 13/01/2021 11:24

@JemimaTiggywinkle

Usually my window is open at night but it was freezing last night so didn't open it, so that could possible be why he was snoring actually!

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Uhhuhoyaye · 13/01/2021 11:26

Your DH is over-tired but does not have a problem with you waking him up 6, 10 or 20 times a night.
Are you sure this is a light-hearted post?

noteabagsleft · 13/01/2021 11:29

@Uhhuhoyaye

Oh my. Their out in force today

Re read my post! That's not what I said. I said if I was keeping HIM awake with snoring then I wouldn't have an issue with him waking me however many times that was.

Me and my DH laughed about it this morning, it was Definately lighthearted.
Not that I have to explain myself to you. Thanks though for your concern.

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mogtheexcellent · 13/01/2021 11:41

I bought a anti snoring pillow on whim in sainsbury last year as it was on offer beside the checkout queue. Cost £9. Works a treat. Although DH doesn't snore, he squeaks. But the squeaks have stopped.

noteabagsleft · 13/01/2021 11:42

@mogtheexcellent

Think squeaking would be more irritating than snoring 😂

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SwedishK · 13/01/2021 12:04

I don't think you need to keep this lighthearted OP. Sleep deprivation is no joke and it can cause all kinds of serious implications to both yours and your DH's health. My husband is a terrible snorer and he now has an app which records every noise he makes in his sleep. Apparently on a good night he snores about 4 out of 8 hours and when it's at its loudest it's on par with a hoover in terms of volume.

Basically, if we didn't have separate bedrooms I would be a complete wreck all the time and I used to be. It makes me so angry though that it took him years to take it seriously and all this time I have been suffering with bad sleep.

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