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to be getting really quite pissed off with covid Thread Police?

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PyongyangKipperbang · 12/01/2021 23:32

Not threads about Covid but people who will post on a thread about (say) meeting a mate for a coffee and say "Well you shouldnt be meeting anyone should you?" or "I assume you are in the UK, so YABU for leaving your house at all"

This always happens in threads where there is no information given about "bubbles" or mental health issues etc, but there is always one who does it!

Or people who feel the need to post....."I am meeting my friend for a walk, socially distanced obviously!" because if they dont add the final comment they just know that someone will jump on them.

I agree that we should all be doing what we need to do in lockdown, but I dont assume the worst when someone posts, I assume that whatever it is that they are discussing, they are doing within the law. I dont feel the need to remind them what they already know! And also, if someone is such an asshole that they will ignore the law then nothing said by a sanctimonious MNer will stop them so why bother?!

Vitrue signalling has got so much worse since CV19 imo.

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Littleposh · 13/01/2021 06:25

@Lockheart

I'm getting more pissed off with covid threads in AIBU tbh.
Took the words out of my mouth
FrancesHaHa · 13/01/2021 06:37

YANBU. I also hate all the tv programmes where they have to continually announce that the filming complied with social distancing rules at the time. So tedious

Luckyrabbitfoot · 13/01/2021 06:59

@Totallydefeated

Totally with you on this, OP. Every time one of the Covid Stasi pipe up with their sanctimonious finger-wagging, I want to scream ‘oh bore off, you tedious fucking sticky beak, and get a fucking life!’. I don’t, obvs. I mean, there’s no life to be had at the moment, in any case.

I just flounce silently off the thread, and go mooching about in AIBU forlornly searching in vain for a CF neighbour or juicy parking thread. It’s ruining MN.

I wish people wouldn’t use the word stasi so fucking flippantly.
Luckyrabbitfoot · 13/01/2021 07:01

@MamaTookMyEyebrows

See also:

“Fucking pandemic” (as in “don’t you know we are in the middle of a fucking pandemic” Shock)
“Global pandemic”
“Stay The Fuck At Home”
Also I hate “there’s a [fucking] pandemic on” because I am not entirely sure it’s correct. Are pandemics “on”? Do they go “off” again?

I hate ‘the virus’. ‘The virus doesn’t care that it’s Christmas’. Well no, no it doesn’t. It isn’t a sentient being.
Bluntness100 · 13/01/2021 07:05

I’ve noticed this too. It is like an obsession. Someone can post something really serious “my left leg has fallen off when walking the dog” and someone posts “where did you walk him and for how long, don’t ya know we are in lockdown”

Eh, that’s your priority. Honestly I wish they’d just stop.

Respectabitch · 13/01/2021 07:11

YANBU. It's incredibly tedious and petty.

I have found myself including the stupid bloody information about how I didn't break the rules just because I don't have the energy for the interrogation. I feel sorry for all the TV shows that have to repeatedly explain that they followed the guidelines in place at the time of filming for idiots who can't process that something might not be live and want to dob in something made a year ago.

peak2021 · 13/01/2021 07:14

I'm more upset about the incompetent government. Who cannot provide simple clarity on travel for exercise. And much worse.

Newyearohdear · 13/01/2021 07:22

YANBU

ApolloandDaphne · 13/01/2021 07:22

I hid the entire Coronavirus topic as it was all getting so tedious and it really annoys me now when I find it being talked about elsewhere on the site so I completely agree with you. If the OP is discussing their shoe choices stick to shoes, don't bring CV into the conversation.

Lollyneenah · 13/01/2021 07:26

Yanbu.

JamieLeesCurtains · 13/01/2021 07:29

I have a twitch when I hear the words "socially distanced"

Ditto. Why on earth don't people say 'physically distanced', for that is what it is?

inquietant · 13/01/2021 07:29

I don't think covid can just stay in the covid topic, and those who want that are presumably struggling in their own way to cope with it.

Covid is affecting everything, and is at the forefront of people's minds, so it will get talked about.

In short - the people who want to police what others mention on threads are doomed to fail.

Totallydefeated · 13/01/2021 07:33

I wish people wouldn’t use the word stasi so fucking flippantly.

Oh God, somebody else trying to police us 🤯

wanderings · 13/01/2021 07:44

I will use "Stasi" until Saint Boris's regime becomes less Stasi-like. Even though he's trying to paint himself as the good guy who "doesn't want" restrictions, it's clear that he and his merry men are actively encouraging the public to dob each other in.

And Covid threads belong in the Covid topic; and MN needs to sort things out so that those of us who have hidden the Covid topic don't see the threads with their inflammatory titles spilling over into "trending now".

CoopsMalloops · 13/01/2021 07:53

I agree with you. It really annoys me when someone is asking advice or whatever and some militant chimes in with something covid related.

I often wonder if these people are so ridiculously dull in real life as they are online.

inquietant · 13/01/2021 07:57

@wanderings

I will use "Stasi" until Saint Boris's regime becomes less Stasi-like. Even though he's trying to paint himself as the good guy who "doesn't want" restrictions, it's clear that he and his merry men are actively encouraging the public to dob each other in.

And Covid threads belong in the Covid topic; and MN needs to sort things out so that those of us who have hidden the Covid topic don't see the threads with their inflammatory titles spilling over into "trending now".

Yes, just like the stasi Hmm, last yougov poll showed over 70% of the public wanted lockdown.
JamieLeesCurtains · 13/01/2021 08:07

I often wonder if these people are so ridiculously dull in real life as they are online

My family's full of them. There's one who can move from any harmless comment about anything at all into a long tedious description of the foibles of her long-divorced ex-husband, within about five words.

"Love your new towels, Margaret, so fluffy."
"Mmm, and I don't have to share them with that bastard Trevor. Did I tell you about that time he was grouting the splashback ... " zzzzzzzzz

Luckyrabbitfoot · 13/01/2021 08:32

@Totallydefeated

I wish people wouldn’t use the word stasi so fucking flippantly.

Oh God, somebody else trying to police us 🤯

Is it? What wording choice did I use to make you think that? I said ‘I wish’. Not ‘people should’. So unnecessary (although luckily not as achingly try hard as your original post).
LuaDipa · 13/01/2021 08:37

@PyongyangKipperbang

Not threads about Covid but people who will post on a thread about (say) meeting a mate for a coffee and say "Well you shouldnt be meeting anyone should you?" or "I assume you are in the UK, so YABU for leaving your house at all"

This always happens in threads where there is no information given about "bubbles" or mental health issues etc, but there is always one who does it!

Or people who feel the need to post....."I am meeting my friend for a walk, socially distanced obviously!" because if they dont add the final comment they just know that someone will jump on them.

I agree that we should all be doing what we need to do in lockdown, but I dont assume the worst when someone posts, I assume that whatever it is that they are discussing, they are doing within the law. I dont feel the need to remind them what they already know! And also, if someone is such an asshole that they will ignore the law then nothing said by a sanctimonious MNer will stop them so why bother?!

Vitrue signalling has got so much worse since CV19 imo.

AIBU?

Couldn’t agree more. It’s as though they can’t wait to assume the worst of people. Why not give the benefit of the doubt? We are all fully aware of the rules and the vast majority of people are complying. There is just no need for the witch-hunt.
Itsmainingren · 13/01/2021 08:40

I often wonder if these people are so ridiculously dull in real life as they are online.

They're probably very anxious, very stupid or want to make sure everyone else is as miserable as them. Still dull though. Wink

The phrase that bothers me the most is 'stay safe' or 'keeping you safe'. Somehow this combo of big brotherishness and virtue signalling really gets my goat.

FreakinFrankNFurter · 13/01/2021 08:45

@Theunamedcat

I had a socially distanced ice cream...so someone slingshot it into your mouth from two meters away?

So tired of the words "socially distanced" I want to be classed as an antisocial bitch again im tired of being politically correct its not in my nature

Maybe we could start doing socially distanced olympics with that as one of the games - how many ice creams can the contestant slingshot into someone’s mouth from 2 metres, Chinese whispers while standing 2 metres apart and wearing masks, how many masks can people correctly place on mannequins - points deducted for them being under the nose or chin! Grin
Liftmusic · 13/01/2021 08:46

People have always picked on irrelevant details on posts here though, it’s just covid has taken over the board. I don’t know what annoys me more the hysteria or the deniers that troll the hysteria threads with jokes about killing granny or shoot them for leaving the house.

Both should be locked up together somewhere quiet.
Are there any normal people who are just trying to do their best, keep their heads down and sticking to rules as best they can?

My most hated phrase of covid is ‘masked up’.

Sojo88 · 13/01/2021 08:49

YADNBU! Every time I see my family or friends talk on WhatsApp or Facebook about what they've done, and then add "socially distanced", I think "I don't need you to add that. You're my family/friend, I'm sure you're following the rules and it's not really my business if you're not!" It shouldn't bother me so much except I have come to detest the "SD" phrase (can't even type it anymore!) and sincerely hope it is never used again after the pandemic.

I also hate it when a programme starts and says "this was filmed before covid" or "this was filmed with SD regulations in place" - you don't need to justify yourself to us! Your programme probably wouldn't be on tv if you hadn't made it legally!

Wow - turns out I feel quite strongly about this 😂

hammeringinmyhead · 13/01/2021 08:50

Yes. It is only justified in about 0.1% of cases, such as when an OP was handwringing about an 11 year old's birthday sleepover and it was blatantly obvious we were going to be in Lockdown 2 before the party. So she could stop stressing!

thepeopleversuswork · 13/01/2021 08:53

Agree.

I'm following rules to the letter etc and as happy as the next person to judge someone for being a covidiot but a thread about the breakdown of someone's relationship isn't the place for it. It's beyond tedious.

I wonder if this is how it felt in the old Soviet Union? Did every conversation end up with someone questioning your loyalty to Comrade Stalin?