Am I unreasonable?

[ennaycul]

I have just realised that I have a slow puncture on my car tyre. I asked hubby to have a look at it. He confirmed it was a slow puncture and pumped it up for me using a foot pump. So I asked him what the best solution is to get this sorted, as I have to travel to work tomorrow using my car. He told me my options were to try to get it fixed somewhere today (was not really keen on that, as I'm super busy today working from home) or to drive to work with the dodgy tire tomorrow. I'm totally miffed, since he has a perfectly good car that he will not be using since working from home but has not offered for me to use it! Why would he send me to work driving a car that is not road worthy rather than offer to drive his? I am fully insured on his car and he is aware of that! If it was the other way round, I would have offered mine straight away! Feeling rather upset!!!

God this would exhaust me 🙄
Stop being ridiculous

I don't understand your mentality at all. You know you have a problem, you know what the solution is, but you don't want to ask your husband if you can borrow his car, he should want to offer it? Maybe he doesn't realise you're too busy this afternoon to get it fixed, maybe his mind is on 100 other things he took your question literally when you said you needed Your car tomorrow. If he says no you've got a problem, until then you've just not got a mind reader for a husband!

I presume you've booked for your tyre to be done on Thursday.
So tell that to DH and ask him if it's ok to use his car tomorrow.

I'm constantly reminding DD that when she has a problem, rather than procrastinating, it's simpler to just get on and work out a solution. Sometimes that involves asking others for help, sometimes there is a quick and easy way to deal with it.

I just don't want to have to ask him for his car!

Why? I think your relationship has issues if you can’t even ask a simple question.

You're cutting your nose off to spite your face. Just ask to use his car!! Some people really do baffle me, just looking for issues!

Just ask for the car! Bloody hell!

This is stupid, maybe he hates that you expect everything offering to you rather than just asking outright. Also, he didn’t puncture the tire I presume, yet you are mad at him for not fixing it enough for you. Just ask him to borrow his car and stop making your incredibly busy day harder just to spite yourself. Also try one of those companies like tyres to your drive or whatever that come to your home or work for you.

I just don't want to have to ask him for his car!

I feel like you are being a martyr about this. You definitely have bigger problems in this relationship than just a puncture.

What an odd thread.
You can take your car into any Kwik Fit/independent Tyre place to have it repaired or, just ask him for his car.

Poor sod isn't a mind reader.

I just don't want to have to ask him for his car!

I know that everyone has different dynamics in their marriages and relationships but unless there is some back story where this is just the latest incident in a long line where he has been selfish and inconsiderate, then you are definitely being unreasonable. How does communication between you work if you refuse to tell him what you want?

Well try another garage or tell your DH you will need his tomorrow. Honestly don’t be so wet about it!

@ennaycul

To add insult to injury, I just tried to get the tire fixed at the garage where I bought the tires from less than two month ago and they are fully booked today. I just don't want to have to ask him for his car!

No mobile tyre places?

I don't understand why you don't just tell him you're borrowing his car until you can get yours sorted. He's not using it and you are married, so presume it's a joint asset even if only he usually uses it.
DH and I stick to the same cars but if either of us had an issue with ours then we would not hesitate to swap.

Nobody should be driving if they need to ask what to do when they have a puncture.

If you need to borrow his car then say “can I use your car tomorrow then I will get mine sorted on Thursday”

What a ridiculous thread. You are very immature.

Really good to see people's perspectives on this! Helps me put it into context!

You asked him the best solutions to get your car sorted. He gave them to you. Crikey your hard work - just ask him to borrow his car, it probably hasnt occured to him

YABU. Get your car fixed or ask to borrow his. You sound like my moaning teen when I 'send him off' to school 😂😂

@tobedtoMNandfart

YABU for 'hubby'. MN will hand you your arse on a plate. YABU for expecting him to solve your problem. YABU you need it tomorrow but don't want to fix it today. YABU Just ask him! HTH

Absolutely!

You do have insurance and a set of keys for each others cars, like normal 2-car couples, right? No need to wait for him to offer his idle car; just drive it.

If my partner demanded to take my car i would likely hide my keys and say he will have to get the bus or bike. Not my problem his tire needs doing. I'd cave last minute and give them him. Probably.

I just don't want to have to ask him for his car!

Oh I cannot stand martyrs

Tyres on the drive will come out to your work place or home a bit dearer than some garages but convenient.
I’ve had a slow puncture usually pumping it up will last a couple of days or so. If your busy tomorrow take it the day after and just keep it pumped up until then .
He’s probably not offered because you can use yours if your worried get it fixed .

Has anyone seen the speech that Reese Witherspoon gave about how in films there was always a line where a woman turns to a man saying “Well what do we do now?” and how bad a reflection that is on women - this reminds me of that speech