Dh doesn't respect me

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Dh confirmed what I have suspected for a while. That he doesn't respect me. And he thinks that no else does either, including our dd.

This came about after an argument where he shouted in DD's face as she listening. When I say in her face he was probably 1cm and bellowing at her, reducing her to tears (she's 6)

I told him never to do that again as I don't think it's right, which is when he turned round and said that because I don't discipline her properly that's why he and no one else will ever respect me and will walk all over me.

Have left him watching the tv while dd and I have done some jobs round the house. But feeling very upset at the moment.

You're pregnant now. In a few weeks you will have a new born. In a few years you will have a toddler and then you will have a teenager.

Are these all going to be excuses for?
"I can't leave because the kids are too young/school age/studying etc.

Your husband is bullying a 6 year old little girl? Come on!!

It is hard to respect anybody who is complicit in their children's abuse when they have the means to stop it.

Opening this thread I didn't expect to read what I did based on your title. Why is your priority thought for yourself and not your poor defenceless child?

Im so sorry you are going through this. I know ending the relationship will be hard, particularly if he has dented your self esteem but honestly think he is being controlling and abusive, and its not good for your daughter to see him behave like that or for her to see you accept it.
It may be "easier" to leave him before your baby is born, when you will probably feel exhausted and hormonal and the arrival of a new baby may worsen his behaviour. Sadly i do not think it will get better.
Do you have anyone your can confide in and who can suport you?
Pls contact a womans refuge or dv charity fir advice and support, in other posts the freedom program has been strongly recommended. I hope someone will along soon who can give you advice from experience .
Also contact a solicitor and get your ducks in a row.
You are in a strong position as you are financially secure in a good professional job so this should make it financially easier for you to break free.
Be strong dont let him undermine and devalue you💐

How can you live your best life if you feel you are walking on eggshells everyday? Shouting right into the face of a 6 year old is massively abusive. What if the baby cries a lot, will he scream in babies face too? You have got to get away from this bully for you and your poor dd sake. You say you can buy him out. Do it sooner rather than later. Don't let him grind you down until you lose your confidence and can't go out to work.

You could be pregnant with quadruplets and I would still tell you to get away from this man. You must stand up for your daughter. You have a duty to protect her. Staying with him is not protecting her. Be a mother. Do what is right.

He sounds awful. Is he always this nasty? Why are you with him. Poor child 😢

He sounds like a knob and he’s intimidating your daughter by shouting at her like that. Take some steps to leave him

What an awful bully he is. Yelling at anyone like that is appalling but a 6 year old? Arsehole! I doubt anyone would respect him should they find out what a knob he is!