I was adopted when I was a few weeks old and have had a wonderful upbringing, the best parents. It was a closed adoption so never met my birth parents. However I did make contact with my birth siblings and have remained friends but haven’t spoken in years. Birth parents never wanted contact so respected this. Have suddenly got a text from one of my siblings saying birth mother has died suddenly and I have been added to the funeral in central London for next week and have also been allocated spaces for my twin girls (12 months old). They also made a point of saying how these 3 spaces were hard to slot in as per the current Covid guidelines. Now here is where I’m stressed; I live 2 hours outside London, and my husband has a disease and is shielding. I am anxious about travelling there during Covid, but am clearly expected to attend as the text message made a point of it. My birth mum never wanted any contact (20+ years of my siblings asking her - they were adopted by her brother’s family) what do I do!!