[quote JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows]@CostaDelCovid my SIL did call the police when her (now ex) boyfriend kicked her in her crotch as she was holding their 2yo DD during an argument and wouldn't hand her over. She fell into the stairgate at which point he grabbed their DD and left the house.
She and the police, texted him to say she had, and he came back because it turns out he'd hidden drugs in their kitchen cupboard.
They came, 2 female officers, and told her she was over-reacting, she should have handed her over to the her boyfriend as "she's his daughter too". They then told the (very good looking and charming) boyfriend that if he wanted her could take his DD to the other side of the country if he wanted and there's nothing SIL could do.
She left his after that but he used that threat of "I will take her, I'm allowed, those police said and there's nothing you can do" to abuse and manipulate the her for years. I can't tell you the hell she's been through.
Her story is not unusual for abused for women. In fact it's the norm.
So many of us don't really buy the "what about when you need the police line".[/quote]
Yes, I called the police when my abusive ex was harassing me (because my new partner was visiting) at my home for over an hour, and when they (2 men) came, one of them said "can't you just give him the kid?" (he wasn't supposed to be seeing our daughter that day, and she was an exclusively breastfed young baby he was not able or willing to look after alone anyway).
When he stole my house keys, I reported it and they interviewed both of us, but didn't record what I said accurately (which I didn't find out till years later, when the police report was included in family court documents, as they never gave me a copy of it at the time). They basically wrote the opposite of what I said, which apparently justified them taking no further action.
When I reported another incident, my answers to their questions triggered a MARAC, but apparently they never actually held the meeting (just as well he didn't kill me...).
Etc.