so so many thingd here
firstly its outrageous for the head to be publically blaming SEN children
My son is both adopted and has ASD, because of his very poor start in life began his education in special provision. Thanks to a truly heroic teacher and his own hard work he caught up to the point where he could function in mainstream.
He is not ‘dysfunctional’, he is a hard worker and his teachers all thought the world of him. He has always been firmly in the middle to bottom 20% in terms of achievement, but never right at the bottom, He achieved a decent set of GCSEs and is in college.
He was lucky in that I sent him to two of those schools considered to be ‘good with special needs’ and which many other families try to avoid.
His secondary school was amazing, sent children to university, including Oxbridge but also supported children like mine to achieve to the best of their ability.
But the school had a ‘reputation’ such that the parents if one child in my son’s scout group chose to send them to a private school when they were allocated a place at my son’s school. Wouldnt even set foot in the school to see what it was like - when I asked why the reply I got was ‘over my dead body’ are they going there.
By contrast one of my friends sent her son with ASD to a fee paying school, was managed out at the age of 13 and three years later is still not in school. Another sent her daughter with ASD and ADHD to the local catchment school and was also managed out at 12. It took my friend two years of appeals, fighting the LA to get her a place in special provision.
Children who are managed out don’t just walk into special provision, and many don’t actually need it.
My son didnt need specislist secondary provision. My friends daughter would have managed in her mainstream school if they had got a few basic things right, such as not doling out detentions or punishments which aggravated behaviours, including on numerous occasions preventing her from eating at specific times which was essential for her medication.