I am 43 op. I attended the same primary school that my 9yr old dd currently attends. She is in year 5. My 17yr old ds also attended there, as did both my brothers and all of my nieces and nephews and I have a good understanding of the school.
We have a way higher than average amount of children with SEN but as a pp said, this can mean anything from autism to severe learning difficulties and everything in between.
When I was there I was always “top of the class” with one other girl and I being pretty much level ability and the children were ranked every year which is horrible if you think about it. It was always me and the other girl at the top and several other children were always at the bottom. The same ones every single year.
Looking back and reflecting as an adult I can now see that many of my class ( mainly the boys ) really struggled and probably had some form of SEN but of course in the 80’s it wasn’t a “thing” and people were labeled otherwise such as “naughty” “thick” for example.
My ds has ASD. He smashed his SATs and GCSE’s and is currently studying for his A levels and has his sights set on a very prestigious establishment. SEN doesn’t mean that a child is stupid, far from it.
In my immediate family there are 8 children ( I have 2, 1 brother has 2 and the other brother has 4 ) and 6 of the 8 have SEN and range from my ds in mainstream 6th form to my youngest nephews non verbal and at a special school for autistic children.
We are becoming better as a society at accepting people and it’s no longer a stigma to have a diagnosis in my opinion. I was diagnosed last year with ADHD and have met so many others the same. Some of us slipped through the net. Others are more obvious.
Sorry for massive post.