Single people how are you coping?

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What are you doing at home?
Do you have a support system?

Feel free to rant on here if it helps 😊

I don't cope well being alone and being stuck in the house drives me crazy. I'm sure I'm not alone on that.

Hatstragicallydipped-

I hope the hospital help you and stay safe.

I really only hit the wall in December so did well for 9 months. I'm an extrovert in that I need interaction with people. Being isolated is detrimental to my mental health. Only so much that one can take I suppose.

@Summerdayshaze

Relentless. Struggling. Can’t even get exercise as recently paralysed. It’s a living nightmare.

You poor thing. It's a living nightmare - you have aptly described it. I'm not religious, but I believe in a 'Please God' every now and then.

@Hatstrategicallydipped

I really only hit the wall in December so did well for 9 months. I'm an extrovert in that I need interaction with people. Being isolated is detrimental to my mental health. Only so much that one can take I suppose.

An institute near me offer Zoom counselling sessions. Google ‘the Metanoia Institute’.

They offer low fees if money is a problem.

@Fieldofyellowflowers

I'm not lonely. Being single doesn't necessarily mean that you are lonely.

I still spend lots of time with friends. We just have our chats online now instead of in a coffee shop. Not being able to work is a pain though. I love my job and don't like sitting around the house.

Does you work allow you to get another job whilst on furlough?

They're busy watching all the relationships end on Facebook like its the start of the January sales?

Beginning to feel a little lonely. It's just me and my son (he's 23 and autistic)

There doesn't seem to be any point to life at the moment. His face to face support has stopped,he has Skype sessions 3 times a week though.

I'd look for another temporary job but we get weekly updates from our boss and we're not sure when we're going to open again (cafe,) and to be honest,I really want to keep THIS job.

Spending far too much time playing games on the pc. I need to get motivated and get a different routine in place.

Oh and my sleep has gone to pot,I'm up till 3/4 in the morning as I can't sleep. Then find I doze during the day.

Fresh air,exercise and a kick up the backside is what I need,as I'm luckier than a lot of people!

I live alone. I loved the last lockdown and I’m loving this one. Have been WFH since the start, which is a real luxury.
Everything in my house is very relaxed anyway, but the added bonus of knowing there’ll be no surprise visitors means I don’t have to keep on top of housework. I’m binge watching tv shows and sometimes I stay in my jammies all day. For me, lockdown has turned out to be a blessing in disguise and I really don’t want to go back to the busyness of my previous life.

My life hasn't changed much and that's the hardest part in a way- hearing others complain how awful this is and thinking but this is my life all the time...

I have no family in this country and only 2 living relatives anyway. I have friends but I'm no one's best friend... no one to bubble with and as I'm more cautious than most, not sure I would want to anyway.

I was getting shopping delivered for years and have continued that. I just do what I usually do, was working from home as a freelancer before pandemic times already. I have my cats for company. When I'm not working or sleeping I watch TV, read, do craft stuff, go for a walk or do yoga. I started seeing a therapist in the autumn (Zoom sessions). I've also taken a course (Zoom seminars) and another online group programme related to work.

I miss doing spontaneous things, just going out to buy cake or something (don't really feel it's worth going now and risking covid for the sake of cake!).

I worry much more about getting covid and being very ill with no one to help so I'm extremely cautious. Don't think I can stop living like this until after I'm vaccinated and that won't be for a long long time...

I have a clinical NHS job but not where we're completely swamped with Covid so at least I get out of the house. But am no one's support bubble because of the risk I bring home from work - my local relatives are 70ish and careful and it wouldn't be fair - my other local friends are bubbled together or have childcare bubbles with their parents.

I just feel down and fed up, but I know I have it better than many. I quite enjoy my own company but miss coffee or lunch with friends, theatre, swimming, church. Something to look forward to. But I have work, am being paid, have my cats. So it's not all bad.

I've always enjoyed my own company and love living alone so that aspect isn't too awful, but I'm bored of not being able to go anywhere. Managed to get away for a week on my own in October and it was fantastic, I'd never usually spend this much time at home. Feel a bit forgotten by friends/loved ones with partners & families – I understand why but I did feel a bit sad on Christmas, NYE & NYD as I didn't get many messages at all and saw one person in December for a socially-distanced walk. Definitely wasn't looking for a relationship pre-Covid but I also wasn't expecting to go nearly a year without intimacy!

My sleeping pattern has gotten even worse too... I've no incentives to go to bed early such as having plans for the next day/somewhere to go.

Just me and DS(12). He's either doing school work, playing Minecraft or demanding food.

I work in the garden, redecorate and try out new recipes. I'm not bored yet but life is limited and lonely.

I have two local friends who I walk with occasionally individually, and I wave to my neighbours while out running, but otherwise I'm so isolated that a weekly trip to Tesco is a treat, and my appointment for a flu jab tomorrow feels almost indulgent

I've retreated into planning family lunch parties and holidays when this whole nightmare is over. That and ds' hugs are what keep me sane. I'm doing ok but if this goes on much pass April I will struggle.

Hate it. No one will meet me for a walk and my support bubble lives 100miles away. My usual places to go for a walk are now considered 'not local' fortunately I can still go to work and it's a lifesaver.

On my own with two dc so not completely
Alone but on the other hand not able to have any
Adult interaction or solitude or headspace. In a support bubble but it is not much help. It is probably hard to find a support bubble that meets emotional needs. I suspect single people develop networks of friends to do this usually not rely on one person.

Constantly want to die. Everyday is a struggle. I want my old life back

Hello @hatstrategiallydipped, here is a link to the Trust that was mentioned. www.maryfrancestrust.org.uk/

Can’t spell - @Hatstrategicallydipped, sorry www.maryfrancestrust.org.uk/

Im just fine, sleeping when i want, eating what I want, camping in the garden with my tent stove if I fancy it.

Daily walks (have a park, a common and quiet streets, able to vary them quite considerably).
Films (thank you BFI, Curzon Home Cinema in particular).
Variety in meals as lunch is at home not work.

Absolutely hate it and am really struggling this time around. Not sleeping very well, can’t be bothered to cook properly so am existing on junk, can’t concentrate on work or books/films. I do have a dog so get out a few times a day with him.

I’m completely fed up with people who think that a walk and a zoom call are a good alternative to proper human interaction. They aren’t!

for everyone else in the same situation.

Totally home alone since 12th March.
Managed a couple of essential trips to city over the summer, but other than that no social interaction.
I do not mind, because we are all in the same situation. However, there is nowhere to walk where I live and, as everything is closed, there is nowhere to go apart from to go shopping for food.
I have seen toyboy twice, although we do WhatsApp every day, but mostly good morning and good night!
My freezer died about a year ago, so cooking has been pared back because I get bored with the same food 2 or 3 or 4 days in a row.
There are lots of things I should be doing around the house and I appreciate that I have a big house and garden that I can wander around, but I am not able to find the motivation to get stuck into chores/cleaning etc.
I tend to spend most of the day sitting in front of my laptop.
I had hoped to be working again by now, but continued lockdown has put a stop to that.
The whole situation is making things very difficult to plan, due to the uncertainty and things changing at short notice.

Struggling. All the negativity in the world.😔
I am extremely lucky to finally work for a company where mental health is important so I can freely talk to my boss about these struggles (plus several online apps available for free and dedicated personnel)... 👍☺️

But I think the biggest help for me is a new puppy. She is beautiful and completely dependent on me (like a baby, hence I feel I qualify for MN) 😂
She makes me giggle 🙊

And I FaceTime my friends, but miss a hug 🤗

So anyone who is struggling, here is a BIG virtual hug 🤗, a bunch of flowers 💐 and a cuppa ☕️ with cake 🍰

Me and 2 small dc so I have company but no time for myself.

I've become best friends with the Calm app and would highly recommend it to anyone struggling. I do the 10 minute meditation in the morning if I wake up before the kids. Listen to one of the 'Spark' mini podcasts in the day, then drift off listening to the sleep stories at night. Having Cillian Murphy's beautiful voice whispering in my ear at night has saved my sanity.

I have another question if that is OK. The posters who are doing OK - would you regard yourselves as introverts? (Not in the judgy sense, just in that divide between those who gain energy from social interaction and those that don’t).