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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

How would you feel about this?

115 replies

KiKiKiKi123 · 08/01/2021 08:37

A teacher at my DD’s school came up as a suggested friend on FB. I looked at her profile. These are public posts. I’ll only upload the ones I could edit to hide identifying details but there are some that are MUCH worse. Her current profile picture is the #LEAVEHOME one. She has multiple posts about how this is all a ‘plandemic’ and Covid doesn’t exist. Makes me feel very uncomfortable that she has access to young impressionable minds. I saw her once at the shops and she wasn’t wearing a mask, I just assumed she was exempt. She is also VERY anti-vax and has posted about how dangerous the Covid vaccine is. Again, all public posts that anyone can see.

YANBU- this is dangerous and I would either talk to her or bring it to the school’s attention. Or at least tell her to change her privacy settings.

YABU- mind your own business.

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Cherrysoup · 08/01/2021 11:12

I’d screenshot the lot and send it to her headteacher. It’s extremely dodgy that this bit of her profile is open.

I’m actually gobsmacked at this coming from a teacher. We’re all singing from the same hymn sheet at my school, keep the kids safe, keep us safe. I find this really bizarre.

Cocolapew · 08/01/2021 11:15

I would tell the school, we have strict social media rules to follow in mine. She can think what she wants but it needs to be flagged. It's public and she probably isn't adhering to hygiene guidance and then going into a class.

Dee1975 · 08/01/2021 11:52

This would worry me too. Is she taking precautions in class? What is she saying to the children? I’d be worried .. so yea I think it should be mentioned to the school. Although I don’t know what they can do about it. I suppose as long as you have reassurance that she is complying in school and not spreading fake news to young children, then what she thinks in her own time is her choice.

lemonsquashie · 08/01/2021 11:53

Im surprised as a teacher she has a page which is not private. Most teachers I know use an alias for social media

lemonsquashie · 08/01/2021 11:56

I don't think greenland sounded abrasive at all. Just offering genuine advice l. Which you have asked for

Plussizejumpsuit · 08/01/2021 11:58

The school will have a social media policy. This likely goes against it. I'd also be really worried this would negatively impact on her safety around the children at school. If she doesn't think covid is real why would she take covid safety precautions?

fleurbelle · 08/01/2021 12:12

Report.
If this happened at my school it would be a serious disciplinary.

BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou · 08/01/2021 12:15

[quote KiKiKiKi123]@OfTheNight on one of her posts she says she has made these posts public to reach a wider audience. I’m not too clued up on social media so I’m not too sure how the algorithms work but I’m guessing she came up as a suggested friend because she has looked me up at some point?[/quote]
More likely because your devices have been in the same place. This could be school, local shop. The algorithms work so that if you are regularly in the same place then they think you might know each other.

My FB recently suggested “someone you might know” and it took me ages to work out who she was.... until I saw her working in my local coop... which I visit a few times a week... I’ve never looked her up (didn’t know her name) and she wouldn’t know my name in order to look me up....

KiKiKiKi123 · 08/01/2021 12:17

@BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou so interesting! You learn something new everyday. Thanks. Makes much more sense

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KiKiKiKi123 · 08/01/2021 12:24

@lemonsquashie I have no reason to make this up. I have lots of teachers as friends on FB and many of them use their real names. Some don’t, most do. Different strokes for different folks and all that. Being told I sound obsessive and paranoid is a little abrasive IMO but Greenland explained she didn’t mean to come across that way so it’s all good. Not sure why you felt the need to comment on that? Yes, I asked for opinions, and I’m grateful for them. Most people have been very helpful.

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MissBaskinIfYoureNasty · 08/01/2021 12:28

Are you going to report it then?

KiKiKiKi123 · 08/01/2021 12:35

@MissBaskinIfYoureNasty I haven’t decided for sure yet. I’m leaning towards reporting though, yes. I haven’t shared this with any other parents, only anonymously on MN, so I have time to think about it. I feel like it’s the right thing to do but I would hate for her to be sacked over it. I was initially more inclined to have a quiet word about her privacy settings but now I’m conflicted.

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Sciics · 08/01/2021 12:39

Please report her.
It is a big deal.
My local hospitals morgue has exceeded capacity and they are now using the local ice rink to store bodies. It is bad enough already without people encouraging others to break the rules.

GreenlandTheMovie · 08/01/2021 12:40

I think then I would tend towards not reporting someone if I could endanger their job. I don't think this teacher has any great intention to cause harm.

This is the sort of thing best resolved by someone, a friend of a friend maybe, having a word with her about her privacy settings on FB. Problem solved and no harm done.

Unless you have evidence that she has been repeating her views to children or doesn't comply with safety measure in school of course.

BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou · 08/01/2021 12:40

These days it is nearly impossible to have a set up a fake name on Facebook.

I tried to do it (for work privacy - I work in school) and the system asked for proof of ID, photos etc. etc. I explained why I wanted to do it but was told that it was against their rules.

I know one person who managed it but they used deceased relatives details....

OhCaptain · 08/01/2021 12:43

She shouldn’t be anywhere near impressionable children.

Especially if she’s insisting on not keeping a distance and not keeping her hands to herself.

I wouldn’t trust her to maintain rigid hygiene standards.

Ithinkim · 08/01/2021 12:48

She would most likely be sacked from our school if reported.

whoamIamIalright · 08/01/2021 12:52

@contrmary

YANBU.

You must take screenshots and report it to the school ASAP, she is a major risk to the safety of the children.

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Fangdrew · 08/01/2021 12:52

I doubt she’ll be sacked, but as it potentially impacts the safety and well-being of the children if she isn’t following the school’s covid guidelines, her manager should be alerted. I’d raise it and wouldn’t feel in the slightest bit guilty - she is a professional adult and needs to take responsibility for her actions.

If you raise it can you let us know how the school responds?

GeordieGreigsButtButtZoom · 08/01/2021 12:56

Tell the school. Nothing to do with her moronic views, but she's announcing her intention to expose herself, and therefore the children and other staff, to infection.

coconuttyhead · 08/01/2021 13:08

How can she be a teacher at the moment AND publicly express these views on sm. She needs to be reported, there’s no grey area.

SunsetOverEasterIsland · 08/01/2021 13:11

You have a duty of care to tell the school now that you know. If she actually believes that stuff, she won't be following lockdown or any other guidelines thus putting all her colleagues, the children and everyone she and they come into contact with at risk.
All schools have a social media policy that staff have to agree to which usually includes not having 'friends' who are parents, pupils etc.
Would you still be dithering over reporting if she had put terrorist propaganda on FB?

chaosrabbitland · 08/01/2021 13:20

@Godimabitch

If she's not discussing these ideas with your kids, which surely you'd know about. Then what's her personal life, opinions and beliefs should be irrelevant.
exactly
OhCaptain · 08/01/2021 13:26

Her opinions if they including not believing in the pandemic and insisting on physical contact are very relevant actually.

Fangdrew · 08/01/2021 13:36

She is in a position of responsibility and trust, so of course it is relevant if she is failing to follow covid related procedures as a result of her views which may put staff and pupil’s health at risk.

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