I’m sure my step son can’t bring his girlfriend round to meet us

[Carysmatthews]

Mumsnetters please can you settle something regarding Covid rules. I live with my husband and son. I have a lovely adult step son who lives alone in his own housemand we were in a bubble with him so he would come around to our house alone. He has started having a relationship with someone first online and now in real life. They met during the first or second lockdown. We’ve never met her. My husband has just rung me to say that he’s bringing her around to our house this weekend.

My first reaction is that he can’t do this as we are not supposed to be meeting up with other people in our houses. I also question whether he can be bubbled with more than one household, ie ours and his girlfriend’s. He told me a couple of weeks ago that they had stayed at each other’s houses.

Am I being unreasonable, have I misunderstood the rules.

No. She cannot come in your house.

Also, he can no longer be in your bubble as he is in one with her.

He can only bubble with one household, you are correct.

You're absolutely right. He can't have close "bubble" contact with more than one household.

According to the rules, neither of them should be coming around. You are correct, he can only have one bubble so it is either you or his girlfriend.

Not right now, it's a full lockdown untill maybe March 😭
In tier 3 or 4 restrictions she probably would have been able to come round.

Just say you'd rather stick to the rules, and that he'd need to decide whether you or her for bubble.

No she isnt allowed to if you abide by the rules. And correct that if he's now seeing her he can't bubble with you. Unless they are only meeting out of doors.

Exception would be if she’s been living with him for the last 10 days and not seeing her own family?

Then she would be his household and can join your bubble?

I think...

@bluebluezoo

Exception would be if she’s been living with him for the last 10 days and not seeing her own family?

Then she would be his household and can join your bubble?

I think...

If they were living together he’d lose his reason for bubbling with OP - which is him living alone.

OP, you’re right. Say no. Say no to him coming over with her, say no to seeing him if he’s also seeing her. Tell your husband to keep up.

Thanks so much for your replies. No she’s not been living with him, she lives in her own house nearby. I don’t know whether she’s also seeing her family, I would imagine so.

I didn’t think it was ok but wanted to double check as I don’t want step son to think I’m being funny or don’t want to meet her.

No she can't. As an adult living alone he's entitled to form one exclusive support bubble so if he's bubbled with GF he can't come around to yours. If they were living together he wouldn't be able to come round either as he wouldn't be entitled to a support bubble as not living alone.