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Dh assaulted at work, ABH. What do we do?

134 replies

Sheilafeeler · 06/01/2021 19:09

Help. Dh was punched in the face by a colleague and then had his face grabbed with injutries

OP posts:
MotherofTerriers · 06/01/2021 20:37

I’m sorry OP. Definately police. Photograph injuries and write down exactly what happened while his memory of it is still fresh.
Then check what process is for reporting it to his employer.

oakleaffy · 06/01/2021 20:40

That is awful and completely unacceptable.
Sounds like a practiced brawler.
The thumb in the eye sounds wicked.

Hope your DH recovers ok with no damage to his sight.

cabbageking · 06/01/2021 20:40

Did he report it and was there any winess?
Phone Police, non emergency.
They need to be taking the photos etc. Anyone can put make up on or dock a photo. They have limited use without verification.

oakleaffy · 06/01/2021 20:42

PS Police. As others have said photograph injuries and also there will be medical record of injuries.

Crazed iattacker...Ought to be sacked on the spot.

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 06/01/2021 20:46

Jesus Christ. The police are your first port of call.

Daydrambeliever · 06/01/2021 20:46

How secure is your husbands job? And how likely is it that his employer will handle this appropriately. I ask this because I know many brickies/workies are technically self-employed and any complaints on site can result in the complainer being let go rather than the dick causing the problems. What does your husband want to do?

JacobReesMogadishu · 06/01/2021 20:47

Police, he doesn’t need his employer’s permission to press charges.

Hopefully his employer will also dismiss the colleague.

NourishedOutdoors · 06/01/2021 20:47

To all those posters who are saying a woman wouldn't have been asked what she had said or done, women absolutely get asked this all the time when they report or relay an assault

Not something i agree with, but please do understand that women too do get these questions.

I would report, not log, to the police, take photos, write down an account

SteelMack · 06/01/2021 20:47

@TeaAndHobnob

Depending on your DH's boss's response, you can point him towards the Health and Safety at Work Act - particularly the part which the employer has a responsibility to provide a safe workplace which also includes safe and competent people working alongside you.

If your DH has a written contract for work it may be worth checking that to see what that says with regard to dangerous behaviour in the workplace - it is likely the violent colleague also has the same info in his contract.

I doubt an employment contract would have dangerous behaviour in the workplace in it
psychopompos · 06/01/2021 20:48

Totally YABU for posting this on mumsnet.

Mrgrinch · 06/01/2021 20:49

Photos, and police.

Please don't refer to people as ex convicts.

BoomBoomsCousin · 06/01/2021 20:51

@Sheilafeeler

Colleague ex convict has threatened others
Medical care, police, HR and union (or, failing that, lawyer).

He should write an account of what happened ASAP. Get photos taken now and in a few days when bruising, etc. will be more apparent.

Since there have been threats from this colleague in the past, the firm may be culpable if they haven't taken reasonable precautions despite knowing about the threat, so it's important he get independent legal advice and not just wait on their HR response.

BoomBoomsCousin · 06/01/2021 20:52

@Mrgrinch

Photos, and police.

Please don't refer to people as ex convicts.

Why not?
BrumBoo · 06/01/2021 20:55

Always amazing in these dramas that people still have the time to name change or start a new account on MN. Hope your husband recovers quickly, especially his ability to call the police.

Mrgrinch · 06/01/2021 20:56

@BoomBoomsCousin I think it's extremely degrading and unfair on people who have made genuine mistakes and learned form them.

Userid227 · 06/01/2021 20:57

Hmmm

Userid227 · 06/01/2021 20:59

@BrumBoo

Always amazing in these dramas that people still have the time to name change or start a new account on MN. Hope your husband recovers quickly, especially his ability to call the police.
It’s almost like there’s a common theme .
WunWun · 06/01/2021 21:04

[quote Mrgrinch]@BoomBoomsCousin I think it's extremely degrading and unfair on people who have made genuine mistakes and learned form them.[/quote]
Genuine mistakes?

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HibernatingTill2030 · 06/01/2021 21:06

[quote Mrgrinch]@BoomBoomsCousin I think it's extremely degrading and unfair on people who have made genuine mistakes and learned form them.[/quote]
Doesn't seem this person has learned many lessons.

Amanda87 · 06/01/2021 21:14

Why are you posting this here?
Call the police!

Mrgrinch · 06/01/2021 21:14

@WunWun yes, genuine mistakes. Are you trying to say that there's no such thing?

@HibernatingTill2030 I appreciate that but I don't think it's a very nice term to use.

Felifox · 06/01/2021 21:16

I hope your dh is OK, but if a manager came on site to take dh to hospital then they should be putting a report of the assault on file. It's grounds for instant dismissal. Supposing the assailant had attacked a client.

Felifox · 06/01/2021 21:17

Dh should also report it to the police if the firm haven't done so

Ferrylights · 06/01/2021 21:19

Most brickies are self employed (my son is a brickie) so establish (after reporting to the police) what his employment status is and follow company policy if employed and report to the Site Manager. Was the aggressor under the influence of drugs ? Sadly it's not uncommon in construction. Hope your DH is ok and the Police do their job.

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