Anyone else considering coming off Mumsnet for the foreseeable?

[PlasterIt]

Because I can't cope with all the 'this will never end, this will be life forever now, it's going to last until 2023/24'.

I've honestly realised that no where else social media wise is so doom and gloom. There really doesn't seem to be this complete end of the world sentiment anywhere else other than on here.

I have always loved coming on here and reading and contributing to threads but I honestly don't think I can anymore. My mental health and anxiety is becoming considerably worse from being here.

Is anyone else feeling this way?

@Tenyearsgone

Apart from the Covid threads and the unpopular opinions threads that are full of spite, MN is not a very cheerful place right now.

Oh the unpopular opinions threads are really tiresome, there's a variation of one every single day.

Omg Soupy!!! You're still here!!! I rarely see names from the "old days"!!! You won't remember me, I've changed my username 20 million times!!

Yeah I report every thread too. But last time I just gave up and left! In fact I did a flounce thread!! I love a good flounce thread!!

Being back in work after the Xmas break is actually great I didn’t come on here at all yday and felt better for it tbh! 😂

In a perverse way, I’m glad to read this thread, because it feels like a beacon of sense in a quagmire of negativity.

Of course we’re all fed up; of course we want things to be better, but the blaming and shaming and inability of some to perceive that they are part of the problem is astounding. I’ve been made to feel worthless and useless, told I should never leave the house and that all the poor little children are being sacrificed for folks like me. Where’s the humanity?

I’d bet that a good proportion of those who are doing the moaning are responsible for the fact that things have got worse. They’re the ones ‘bending’ the rules, ignoring advice, pleasing themselves.

It just demonstrates what a very selfish society this is and that, long term , is extremely worrying.

Yes. Have name changed recently but I'm off. Everyday some starts the same old threads and active is littered with it. I've had enough doom scrolling. If they'd keep the CV topic off active I'd stay.

There are certainly people who wallow it. Who rush to post some doom and gloom threads.

Having said that - a fair number of the elderly population arent taking this seriously, ditto the teens. Those parties on NYE where they were escorted from a flat that was having a get together was shocking. They really couldnt give a toss. If I was that parent I would be hanging my head in shame but I recognise that some parents dont care. Wring their hands or claim they dont have control over their children.

Which made me think - what about fining the parent. Of course there will be some claiming they dont have any money but it might well stop SOME kids from behaving just the way they like.

I agree @PlasterIt

In between the real information and chats with familiar names are the doom and gloom,terrifying posts.

@JingsMahBucket
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Enjoy

I've found I have to steer clear of certain topics while enjoying the rest of MN. It's too wearing to keep speaking up if your opinion doesn't match the consensus on certain subjects.

It doesn't matter how well @mnhq moderates and moves threads.

There is that "Errrm. Don't you know there is a pandemic going on?!" Person on every thread.

"Aibu to say x cookies are the best?"
"Don't you have more important things to think about with people dying!"

"Aibu to want to plant a raspberry bush?"
"People are dying and you are talking of raspberries. Give your head a wobble."

"Aibu to want to dig up the garden and start again?"
"How insensitive!!! Don't you know there is a GLOBAL pandemic going on and many don't have the PRIVILEDGE of having garden? You just madee even more depressed. Hope you are fucking proud"

@Aixenprovence I also find accurate, well-analysed, well-explained data a comfort even when it's not necessarily giving good news.

I am now employing stay focused app for parts of a day

@HazeyJaneII

Hello! Hope you and your family are well.
I think of you all the time.

Still waiting for delivery of some Christmas presents here. Can't decide whether that's a marker of grounded-time or whether it's simply final proof that all time has turned to a storm-mingled sea of indeterminacy!

Anyway - hope you're well and living happily, surrounded by love. ❤️❤️

a fair number of the elderly population arent taking this seriously, ditto the teens

Everyone from twenty to sixty on the other hand has been sticking rigidly to the rules?
I don't think so.
It's this kind of thing that's so annoying.

I want to. There are better things to be doing. I also think it's become a pit.

However, MN does appear to be good for news headlines!

I have hidden the coronavirus section. That helps a bit, but there are threads elsewhere on the board.

@SchrodingersImmigrant

It doesn't matter how well *@mnhq* moderates and moves threads.

There is that "Errrm. Don't you know there is a pandemic going on?!" Person on every thread.

"Aibu to say x cookies are the best?"
"Don't you have more important things to think about with people dying!"

"Aibu to want to plant a raspberry bush?"
"People are dying and you are talking of raspberries. Give your head a wobble."

"Aibu to want to dig up the garden and start again?"
"How insensitive!!! Don't you know there is a GLOBAL pandemic going on and many don't have the PRIVILEDGE of having garden? You just madee even more depressed. Hope you are fucking proud"

Just call them out on it every time. Everyone needs distractions right now, and we need to not behave like twats to one another.

Yep, demonising particular groups is one of the frustrating things - but no worse on mn than anywhere else including real life! Anyway, best wishes to all pp who are trying to get the best of mn. I recommend tv threads, particularly when there is a scandi thriller on!

As an older person, I’ll say that everyone I know like me, has been as conscientious as possible. The only places I’ve been to since March are the dentist, the hospital and the supermarket when we couldn’t get online. We haven’t seen family or friends for months, except on Zoom, haven’t used public transport, haven’t been into a shop, a pub, a restaurant.

Just call them out on it every time. Everyone needs distractions right now, and we need to not behave like twats to one another.

We did on one thread. But it just changes the mood instantly.

The ageism on MN has become vile of late (and has even reared its ugly head on this thread), but MNHQ seems to care not one whit and often lets hate fuelled posts remain.

@contrmary

If you don't like it, leave. You don't need to announce it - I imagine that every single day people make their last post, just as others make their first posts.

Dont be an arse, it's a conversation. Anyway if I had left, like I wanted to last night (after shaking my head and feeling despondent about the umpteenth poster spouting 'the elderly and vulnerable just need to shield and let the rest of us crack on' horseshit), I wouldn't have seen that post from @thecatfromjapan, which has seriously enriched my morning!

@contrmary

If you don't like it, leave. You don't need to announce it - I imagine that every single day people make their last post, just as others make their first posts.

We'll be getting the predictable 'It's not an airport you don't need to announce your departure' quote next.

TBF OP was asking if anyone was considering coming off MN more than anything.

@contrmary

If you don't like it, leave. You don't need to announce it - I imagine that every single day people make their last post, just as others make their first posts.

Yeah...speaks someone that obviously isn't part of a community. Some of us have been on here for fifteen years. I hope your 3 are well