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[Lockdowner35]

As the last thread reached 1000 posts

I will start

Jo Swinson would have do a better job than Boris on Coronavirus

I don’t mind who identifies as either/or and I’ll endeavour to do my best to respectfully observe those preferences. I just happen to find the entire topic mindnumbing. I’m tired of hearing about it. You can’t get away.

Transgender issues and COVID chat bored me to saturation point ages ago.

For a step mum to call the woman to birthed their step children - their step children's "Birth Mother"

I wasn’t expecting the idea that a parent should be at home for their kids to be the most controversial of my “unpopular opinions”

For clarity

• yes of course I think there would be all kinds of exceptions (like the example of the lady who’s babysitters daughter was her best friend), or any parent who genuinely needs to prioritise something else above this. But I think it should be taken into account as a child’s need that should be met if at all possible, rather than dismissed as something that is just not necessary
• No I don’t think someone martyring themselves by giving up their whole identity to smother their children is the same thing at all, that’s just passive-aggressive attention seeking on the part of the parent and nothing to do with the child’s well-being

As a step mum and birth mum, I think it is fine for step mums to call birth mums 'biomums'.

I think mums should be called exactly that. The only time there may need to be a prefix is if a child has been adopted. A step mum is a step mum. Not the child's mum.

I sometimes read the Daily Mail online (Im a leftie)
Being a SAHM is not the same as a FT job
I don't think there's anything wrong with only inviting some people to the reception of a wedding - I like being invited only to the party bit, means I must be fun

Daily mail reading may be presented as an unpopular opinion here, but I would bet all my shoes, majority of us reads them. I do. They are ok for breaking news and their headline writer is simply genious. I also read guardian and bbc, indepent and the times. Overall reading is important imho

@SchrodingersImmigrant

Daily mail reading may be presented as an unpopular opinion here, but I would bet all my shoes, majority of us reads them. I do. They are ok for breaking news and their headline writer is simply genious. I also read guardian and bbc, indepent and the times. Overall reading is important imho

I agree. I have subs to a few digital broadsheets but the first headline I go to in the morning is the DM. I like to get the hyperbole and then move onto something a little less florid.

Slightly less than 50% of people are below average whatever the measure. That applies to people's kids at school.

Men and women are different, and some of the 'gender roles' stuff is biologically based. We are not blank slates.

Voting Conservative does not mean that you want to kill people, you just see the way to solve things differently

People are very sensitive to talking about being overweight, unnecessarily

@BounceyBumblebee
I guess 75% of the country should hand their babies back then

The thing about being there when your kids come home.

My mum was a nurse and a single parent, often in bed from working nights, or on a day shift. I had a key and let myself in from 7 years old (round the back, she didn’t want people thinking I was a latch key kid!).

I felt a bit lost after school, or when she wasn’t in. I didn’t need her attention, I just needed to know somebody was there. I didn’t ever complain, of course.

I’ve always made sure there’s an adult in the house when my children come in. Three days a week that’s me, one day my husband and one day MIL. It’s been exclusively me since March last year.

My kids don’t need my attention, but it’s nice for them to know I’m here. Sometimes they talk about their day, sometimes they don’t. I make them a snack. They do whatever they fancy. I don’t think they feel smothered in any way.

Incredibly fortunate to have the choice, cannot judge otters who don’t.

Also, people who preach about how you shouldn't have children when you can't afford them are either well off themselves or don't want children that much anyway. As if they'd give up their chance to have a family (if it was what they wanted) if they were less fortunate.

You can only "afford" your kids because low paid workers (the kind who probably struggle to afford their own children, that you look down on) are providing care while you do your high paid job...either that or you're a SAHM relying on another person's income. If that person left them they'd struggle.

Don't try for years and years to finally have a baby and then leave them in a day nursery for 8 hours a day. Sorry, but my friend did this, 5 ivf attempts, 2 losses - then went back to work full time when the baby was 6 weeks old.

guess 75% of the country should hand their babies back then

No because a vast majority of that 75% are people who wanted to breastfeed or at least tried but couldn't manage it.

I talking about people who don't even bother to try or refuse to do it because bottle is easier and suits them better.

Being a parent is putting the child's needs 1st.

Oh, now I didn’t try breastfeeding at all! But then I always had a parent home for the children, as above.

We each choose what we consider important though don’t we? In the scheme of things, breast feeding wasn’t a big thing I felt I ought to achieve, whereas being there physically/emotionally for the next 18 years+ was. There will always be example of people who breast feed then turn into shit parents.

That step mums don't want to be called mum or even thought of as a mum to their step children, regardless of what the step childrens' mother thinks.

Tony Blair and New Labour were the halcyon days of societal and political change.

Tony Blair was the start of all that has gone badly wrong in the UK now.

For years I genuinely thought Tony Blair was Conservative .

That gravy is vile and disgusting. Food does not need gravy on it. Roast potatoes, yorkshire puddings etc are meant to be crisp not made soggy with gravy plus I want to taste the foods I am eating not taste gravy.

Plates covered in gravy make me feel sick. They look like slop or baby food.

As for gravy on chips! Only a complete heathen would think that was a good idea and, again, chips are meant to be crisp not soggy

Well Tony Blair was new labour so he did remodel it. It wasn't the same as labour of old that's for sure.

Anyone who is very overweight, smokes, drinks to excess, eats rubbish, or does not actively take care of their health, but of course, has the ability to do so (so no significant mental health/brain injuries etc) has no right to comment on how to support the NHS, when their lifestyle choices are either adding to the strain now, or will be in the future.

“I talking about people who don't even bother to try or refuse to do it because bottle is easier and suits them better.”

I refused and didn’t try with my third child because being the first two had been awful. I hated it. I couldn’t face it a third time, so I fucked it right off, went straight onto a bottle and it was wonderful! Totally suited me better. Yahoo.