Justified in dumping my unreliable DP?

[hr924]

Asking for perspective as my sister thinks I am being unreasonable. We are both late-20s, been together 2 years, I have one DC and ex-Dp doesn't have any.

These have all occurred over the last couple of months...

1. DP invited me over for the weekend, I got packed and sorted out childcare for DC... which he knew... he then texted me half an hour before I was due to leave telling me to no longer come because his flat mate had invited their guy mates over. (This was during the period we were allowed to mix)

1. DP is now part of my support bubble. There's been a couple of occasions where he is due to come over and will text me at the last minute saying he 'fell asleep' or is 'too tired to come over.' (It's an hours drive from door to door).

1. He was meant to come over for the day last Tuesday, but was uncontactable all day. I texted and tried to call him multiple times to find out what was happening. I get a text message at 7pm saying he was sorry but he'd 'lost track of time, had ended up spending the day with his family and left his phone at home'.

After this latest incident of him being unreliable I broke up with him. He's too unreliable, and it's not fair on me or my DC. I genuinely really look forward to him coming over / me going to his, and I feel really let down every time he does this.

My sister thinks IABU because he is 'only mid-20s and doesn't have DC of his own so doesn't understand responsibility.'

I think even if I didn't have children his behaviour would piss me off!

You don't need a reason, you decide what is good enough for you

When I broke up with him he just said, 'sorry about today, I should've let you know, I let the day run away with me. I'll come tomorrow if you'll give me the chance.' To which I replied, 'I am not going to be anyones after thought.'

Good for you 😎 I hope you also reminded him that his apologies were meaningless as he kept repeating the behaviour and letting you down. He's a flaky twat and I've dumped boyfriends for the same.

I haven't got kids and I would treat anyone like that or stand for being treated like that so that's nothing to do with it. Also as a PP said, you can end a relationship for any reason you want to whether anyone things it's a 'good enough' reason or not.

[quote Cadent]@MrsBrunch take a day off fgs[/quote]
No I won't actually. If it makes a difference to you, I work for the NHS. It matters to me and lot of other people too. I will call people out on it as they need to grow up and behave responsibly.

An ex of mine was like this. He was cheating. He’d arrange to see me but if a better offer came up he’d ditch plans. I was still living at home and my mum says it used to breaks her heart seeing me all dine up and then let down. He got caught out because he called a friend of mine after telling me he was ‘too tired to see me’ and asked if she was up for going to his. He didn’t know we actually knew each other.

Your sisters standards are very low. He’s been a dick and selfish and you should never put up with it.

I would have ended things a long time ago personally, he isn’t that into you I’m afraid.

Well done OP for not putting up with this. I ended a 4 year relationship for a similar reason. Couldn't reach him at all when I really needed him.

@MrsBrunch no it doesn’t make a difference to me because this isn’t the bloody Coronavirus topic! Keep to the topic!

[quote Cadent]@MrsBrunch no it doesn’t make a difference to me because this isn’t the bloody Coronavirus topic! Keep to the topic![/quote]
Shame you then.

Basically he doesn't bother with you if he has something better to do...actually anything else to do. Time to get rid, OP

A 27 year old man child. How unattractive.
Why would you want a feckless unreliable tool like this to mess you and your kids about. Your sister is clearly a doormat if she thinks you’re wrong. You’re not.