I’m worried as haven’t asked my best friend to be Godparent... please can I have your thoughts?

[MummyTreeC]

Hello there,

I’m a chronic worrier so need your advice please!!

I have asked two of my very close friends to be my daughters godparents. I had a really tough pregnancy and they were so incredible then and since our baby has come and they have been my very close friends for nearly 18 years. They have both posted it on social media today but I haven’t told my best friend as to be honest... I don’t know how to. She’s had the worst 2 years... losing 2 people extremely close to her which has completely changed her life. So I feel absolutely awful for not asking her I really do. But I really wanted to ask these two people as they are a huge part of my daughters life and an incredible constant support to me and always have been.

Please can you help me how I bring it up with my best friend? She’s going to be upset I know it and I hate for that!

Sorry this sounds silly... but sometimes you need an opinion from someone who doesn’t know you :).

My DS was originally going to have 2 godfathers and two godmothers (all close friends) but my DSis was heartbroken when she realised we weren't going to ask her to be his godmother. I honestly thought as she was already his aunt she wouldn't want to be a godmother but I was so wrong. In the end DS had 3 godmothers and 2 godfathers and 21 years on she is still chuffed she is his godmother!

Definitely have your friend!

@covidaintacrime

If Sleeping Beauty had 3 Godmothers, so too can your daughter

My thoughts exactly! 🧚‍♀️

There is absolutely no way on earth I would have stood up at my baby’s christening without my best friend there with me, becoming godmother. Absolutely no way.

She would never have said it, but she would have been really hurt and I’d never do that to her.

You need to make her a godmother too, or face that the friendship might well be over.
Can't be more blunt than that.

Glad to hear you're asking her. Honestly if it was my best friend, and she's like my sister, and didn't ask me I wouldn't know where to go from there.

I’m glad to hear you’re asking her, that sounds like the best outcome

I am still really pissed off that my best friend of 20 years and godmother of my son did not ask me to be involved in her daughter's life as a godparent or even to do a reading or something . To this day I don't know why. We have been inseparable since we were 12 and it really hurt (was not even invited to the christening). Glad you are thinking otherwise - this caused damage to our friendship and only know (her DD is 14) are we making steps. It was her DH who stopped it i have since found out, as I was going through a divorce and he felt
I wouldn't dedicate myself to his child 😳. He's was a dick then and still
Is! She is now separated and wishes she hadn't listened

That makes no sense but you get the idea

All well that ends well.