My partner called our 2yo a twat. This was in anger and quite aggressively shouted. 2yo was on his shoulders at the time and had just accidentally hit him in the face with a stick.
I immediately tried to remove 2yo from his shoulders as I didn't want him in that situation. I couldn't as partner is stronger than me and I won't enter a tug of war with my son in the middle. Argument carried on for ages with him calling me all sorts of names and me getting upset and angry too. Lots of wrong doing on both sides for sure. I definitely felt threatened when he kept standing in front of me trying to walk away (once I had been given my son again). Kept pulling on my coat/arms and threw the dog lead at a wall. I said that I accepted we needed to talk but infront of the children (7yo DSS was with us too) was not the time and we should just look for the lead and the dog who had run off by this time.
I over heard partner saying lots of unkind things about me to his eldest son which I just ignored.
I know I saw red when he insulted our 2yo as no parent should ever use language like that too their child. I should probably have let it go but he made me so mad. I told him I felt threatened and didn't trust him not to smack 2yo which isn't strictly true as I don't think he would smack the toddler for an accident. He does however threaten the 7yo and has been known to follow through when pushed and pushed right to the limit. Never hard, more along the lines of daddy has told you 27 times to stop shrieking gibberish and warned you of consequences attention grabbing smack through clothes.
Don't know what I'm asking really. He's gone out until after 2yo bedtime I think. I don't know where or when he'll be back exactly.