To ask how long it took for your DC to be dry at night

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DC1 is 5 and a few months and not yet dry at night. I had been waiting for dry nappies in the morning, but it hasn’t happened yet, and they are very aware that friends don’t now wear nappies so are asking not to.

It’s been about ten days so far, and every night has been like clockwork: fine and dry all night until 5.30-6am, when they come in to say that they have done a wee.

I was just wondering how long it has taken other DC to learn, and if we should just keep on as we are, or if there is something else I can do to help them?

(Sadly I am aware of the very persistent piss troll, so would ask that people don’t give any actual details about their DC that he might enjoy, just how long it took/anything else I can do, thank you so much!)

Ds was 8 and we needed to train his brain to wake him up by using an alarm in the end. Wished we'd tried that sooner, but had gone on the advice that he needed a hormone to kick in and it would just happen naturally one day. It didn't. One week with the alarm was all it took and he's been totally dry since.

Dd was 3. She just managed to go longer and longer and we had a run of dry nappies so ditched them. She's been reliably dry ever since and continues to have the bladder of a camel.

Eldest dry during the day at 3 and youngest was night and day at the same time . It was in the summer so he would have been just two. They’re all different .

Mine was dry at night under a year old, which I found a bit unusual. It did mean she didn’t have to wear a nappy at night once she was potty trained.

I think any time up to 8-10 is considered fairly normal?

As was dry in the day by 3, but it took him until 11 to be reliably dry at night. Even now, at almost 15, he’s still up for a wee a couple of times a night.

Night time dryness isn't only dependent on 'learning' to do it in the same way as day time potty training. There's a connection to the development of part of the brain which sends signals to unconsciously inhibit the bladder-emptying reflex. It simply takes longer in some children (for my DD she was 7, she was day potty trained at 2 years old, so I understand how frustrating this can be)

There are some night time pants which look less like nappies which you could try in the meantime if your DC is self conscious.

My girls were dry very young but my best mate's son still wets at 10. Your local school nursing team can help and offer advice but often it's a matter of time.

DS1 dry at 6
DS2 still not dry at 10

Had an apt at the clinic 2 years ago, probably ought to see if I can get a follow-up apt.

It's a whole different set of hormones that control urine production at night - and they kick in later and differently to waking hormones. Being dry in the day can happen a few years before at night. Pull ups and relax

DS was 7 before dry at might
Ironically nnow dealing with the result of these hormones paying up at the other end of life with DF (77) - urine production ramping up at night

Contact the charity ERIC for all your child continence needs - loads of resources on their website too.

My dd is nearly 3 and we've just done nught time training. Took about 2 weeks, with a couple of accidents.

We followed oh crap, so i would wake her up twice for a wee the first few days, then dropped to once.

Last 3 days dd wakes up herself to sit on potty in her room, and haven't had to wake her up as she does it

@PeonyTruffle

DS is 6 and still in pull ups (night only) limiting fluids doesnt work, waking him for a wee doesnt work, putting him on the loo half asleep doesnt work, he is the deepest sleeper I have ever come across, so I dont I don't think it's a case of him being lazy, he has no idea he is even going.

I could have written this word for word! I spoke to our GP about it before Christmas. He doesn't think it's anything to be concerned about & just a case of waiting - we were sent this link which I found helpful & reassuring in our circumstances: patient.info/childrens-health/bedwetting-nocturnal-enuresis

We've been referred to the bed wetting clinic too, but I don't expect to be contacted anytime soon.

Mine was 2 when he said one night 'No more nappy, Momma.'
Dry nights after that!

DS was potty trained at 2 yr 8 months and I originally kept a nappy on him overnight, but after a few days realised that his nappies were completely dry in the morning, so stopped nappies altogether and he has never ever wet the bed. I realise that we are very lucky.

Child 2 and 3, between age 2 and 3.

Child 1 still struggling.

We tried again at age 5 and 6 but he just couldn't do it. We used dry nite pants for another few years and now we have brolly sheets. I still ask him to wear dry nite pants on holidays cos I can't take the stress.

He still wakes at night to go to the toilet and makes it about 90% of the time. We get through a lot of pj trousers. :(

He was referred by the GP at about age 9 I think and there's a paediatric continence nurse service who are trying to help him increase capacity.

Eldest was dry first night we tried after he was dry in the day, aged just 3.

Youngest still soaked every night aged 6.5, tried lots of things and nothing makes a jot of difference so gone back to night nappies for a while as it was taking its toll to wash everything at least once a night, often twice.

Our first 4 had no issues but our youngest needed intervention as she was still wearing night time pull ups at age 9. We took her to the dr and they advised us to wake her and bring her to the loo when we were going to bed and again during the night if necessary. It took nearly a year, we had to wake her twice for the first few months, then just once and eventually she just stopped needing to go during the night.

Dd1 was 5.5
Dd2 just turned 3
They were dry at night at the same time.
Now dd1 always gets up in the night to use the loo and Dd2 never does.

DD was 2.5 never wore a nappy in bed, has never had an accident. Just luck I think. I wet the bed until I was 14.

3 with eldest, middle is 3 1/2 and only just showing natural interest in potty/toilet etc and youngest DC is too young to consider yet.

I learnt from potty training my eldest not to sweat the small stuff and they’ll nearly always get there in their own time. Some will need extra help but I’m sure if that’s the case it will make itself known in due course.

My 11 and half year old isn't dry at night yet.

One was 11 and the other 13!

2 and 3. They were both dry at night not long after being dry in the day. I have friends whose children were 11+ when they were dry at night. It's one of those things with a massive age range.

I havent read the whole thread but some things to watch for for anyone struggling (from someone with a child who was much older than any of the earlier posters to be dry):

• Avoid the dark coloured squashes - blackcurrant etc particualry after lunchtime
• Avoid fruitsoots etc permanently they are a nightmare for bedwetters there is something in them!!
• Don't restrick simple fluids, milk water etc as they need their bladder to expand.
• Make sure they are not constipated - as this can presurise the bladder.
• An importantly Make things as easy for yourself as possible so that it does not become an additional stress - buy lots of extra bedding so that the washing is not an issue. We used alot of light single quilts for ages with cheap covers, covered over with blankets or another quilt if it ws needed. We also used washable bed mats - Bolly Sheets - the disposable ones are crap.

Ds wasn't dry until 6.5yo. It was like a switch when he was though, went from wetting almost every night to never! Apparently it's a hormone they have to start making and there's not a lot you can do about it. People told me to limit drinks after a certain time, wake him up for a wee when I go to bed etc but nothing worked!

My 5 year old is still in pull ups at night too. When he was 4, he went through a dry patch for about a month but then went back to being wet in the night. We obviously know he can do it but we'll just have to be patient.

My baby was dry at night by 10 months. This is the problem with contemporary attitudes to toilet training / modern nappies.