To ask how long it took for your DC to be dry at night

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DC1 is 5 and a few months and not yet dry at night. I had been waiting for dry nappies in the morning, but it hasn’t happened yet, and they are very aware that friends don’t now wear nappies so are asking not to.

It’s been about ten days so far, and every night has been like clockwork: fine and dry all night until 5.30-6am, when they come in to say that they have done a wee.

I was just wondering how long it has taken other DC to learn, and if we should just keep on as we are, or if there is something else I can do to help them?

(Sadly I am aware of the very persistent piss troll, so would ask that people don’t give any actual details about their DC that he might enjoy, just how long it took/anything else I can do, thank you so much!)

Oldest not till he was 11, autism amd sleep apnea didnt resolve till he had tonsils out.

Middle 8, she was just lazy (didnt want to get out of bed) and i threated to take her to the incontance clinic as i did my eldest, she sorted herself out within days.

Youngest 3 months after day dryness at 3 (lockdown helped).

Its really down to the individual child. Dont worry to much as long as its not upsetting them, they will eventually sort themselves out. Some sience though, they body needs to have the correct amount of melatonin to trigger the bladder to concentrate the urine. If they are not getting adequate sleep this can cause bedwetting.

DC1 was 4. He was dry during the day from 3 but it took another year to get him dry at night. DC2 and 3 were quicker- they were dry by 3. They’re girls though so that could be a factor, I believe boys generally take longer.

Dc1 is 7 and still not dry
Dc2 is 5 and recently dry
Dc3 is 2 and always dry

My DS has just turned 5 and still in nappies at night. Until I have a solid 2 weeks dry I'm not taking him out as there's nothing more would destroying than cleaning a piss drenched bed.

We had some success (a few dry nights) for a few weeks when we were actively encouraging him to wee every couple of hours but it went back to normal when he went back to school and with everything else we haven't had the energy to keep pushing him. (He tends to wait until the last minute for a wee)

DS was dry at night as soon as we potty trained at just under 3. But he got up to pee every night and still does age 5. Thankfully for about the past year he just takes himself

DD was 3 in October. Potty trained her in April and she’s had dry pull ups overnight for a while now. Probably a month. Christmas Day one was wet, but I think she was so excited she forgot to go pee. I just need to bite the bullet and take them away. She was just such a bad sleeper I’m finally getting an uninterrupted night and I don’t want to change anything. She very rarely pees in the night (maybe once a week), but she does get up and go to the bathroom by herself. I know it’s mad to keep using pull ups when they’re dry every day!

So my take is they will get there by themselves! And there’s very little you can do. My friends 5 year old DD is still in pull ups. Very wet overnight. But her second DD just potty trained and is mostly dry at night already.

At 4 he doesn't want to wear a nappy anymore, unfortunately he still pees during the night, last 2 nights he has woken himself, stripped off wet PJ trousers chucked them out of bed and gone back to sleep (on a wet sheet thing that goes across middle of bed. He hasn't woken me. Doesn't seem ideal but he's slept 12 hours, not disturbed my sleep and is far happier with no nappy on! Extra washing is a pain though! Can we buy this hormone that stops peeing at night! (Joking!!)

DD was 2 and DS was 10! Didn't do anything differently with either of them 🤷‍♀️

Our DS has been day-dry for 6 months now (potty trained just before 3yo) but still wees so much at night that nappies and pull-ups often leak! He's big for his age and addicted to his bedtime bottle of milk so there's a lot I'm doing that's not helping him, tbf.

Just curious about what size/style of pull-ups people are buying for their older kids that really keep the bed dry?

My Dsis found with hers that they just one night asked for no bedtime nappies and sort of self-trained pretty quickly at that point - I'm hoping when he's ready that will happen for us!

Thought in general this article was really helpful:
www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2013/mar/01/boy-wets-bed-six-years-old

My eldest son was 3, my middle son was 3 and my youngest is still in them at nearly 5.
He is dry most nights though so I don't think he will be long.

DD was nine years and three months. They get there in their own time, trying to hurry things with interventions is only worth it - in my opinion - if the child is distressed by it and wants help. There's a reason they sell pull ups for up to age 15!

DD wore pull ups at night until she consistently woke up dry. There was certainly no shaming on my part but I wasn't happy to have her wet the bed night after night, especially as she has a double bed in her room and spends 99% of her nights in my bed. It's horrible waking up nightly to, 'Mum, my knickers are wet' and realising that your own PJs are soaked with someone else's wee! Then having to jump out of bed, strip the bottom covers, get both of you cleaned up, and move to whichever bed is available and NOT covered in piss.

She toilet trained herself for daytime wees very quickly, BTW, when she was two years nine months. Accidents were fairly rare and short-lived. She just didn't reliably manufacture the hormone (vasopressin) that concentrates night-time urine until she was nine.

DD is 99% dry and has been since 3 BUT

• we almost always lift her at midnight before we go to bed and put her on her potty (50% time she'll have a wee).

• she sometimes makes up herself to pee (not often) and does so in the potty/in the loo.

• if she's unwell, even a minor cold, all bets are off and her likelihood of peeing the bed is much higher. Sometimes her wetting the bed is the first sign of incoming illness.

• I wasn't dry until I was 8 (despite my parents also lifting me to the loo every night), pure physical biology plays a part in both waking you up to pee, and the size of your bladder/ability to retain pee.

Dd1 was 8 and on meds to get her dry, Dd2 was 4. Varies lots!

2 DCs were about 3. 1 DC was about 8.

DS1 was nearly 10 (tried alarms, which woke everyone in the family except him, vasopressin, didn’t work), just left him in pull ups at night.

DD at 3, DS2 at 2.

Don’t make a bug deal of it, it will happen eventually and I guarantee lots of his peers will be the same, it’s just not spoken about!

Oh and we didn't wait for dry pull ups. We just said "let's try sleeping in pants, if you need a pee your potty is there" - the first few nights were soggy (and we learned to have a full set of dressed bedding ready for a late night swap). Come the second week she was pretty much 'there'.

Dc1 was 4.5
Dc2 was 4 but could have done it much earlier, it took us ages to realise she was just waking up and weeing in her pull up in the morning
Dc3 was 3.5

DD was about 3 1/2 I think? We
Wools make sure she went for a wee before bed at about 7pm and then used to get her to do a dream wee when we came to bed about 1030-11pm - that seemed to do the trick

DS1 was 11.

So I hadn't even thought about trying when DD trained herself at 3, followed by DS2 doing the same at 4.

Oldest 13, youngest 2.
Oldest is a very deep sleeper. We tried numerous things, alarms, tablets etc, and he was under the enuresis clinic but nothing worked. It just happened naturally after we had just about given up.

DD2 was nearly 8 I think, although her sister was much younger. It seemed to help when we got her to drink lots earlier in the day, and then less in the evening. The ERIC website is worth a look.

Thanks very much all, a real range then. I’m not at all worried, but DC is keen to lose them, which is why I thought we’d try. I am surprised that some think it’s not on their radars, it has certainly been a topic of conversation for mine with friends when they stopped wearing nappies. DC also knows that the baby wears nappies, so perhaps is associating them with being babyish in some way maybe.

I know they’re dry until they come into our room because when I go to see to the baby in the night I then go and check. Plus they say it’s the wee that wakes them up. (I dread it being before 6, as they never go back to sleep after then, somehow even 5.55am feels so much worse than 6am!)

DS was 6 nearly 7. We ended up trying an alarm and it worked perfectly. It turned out he was simply being lazy and the inconvenience of an alarm and getting up in the middle of the night to change was worse than jumping up for a quick wee. First 2 nights he begged us to leave him in wet PJs then night 3 onwards he just got up for he wee and back to bed again.

Try an alarm. We got one a couple of months ago for my six year old who I also suspected was also weeing about 5-6am. She was wetting pull-ups nearly every night. Within 3 nights of the alarm it all stopped, and she’s been dry for last 6 weeks. Wished I tried it a couple of years ago now! Those 3 nights were a bit grim, as we all wake up with a startle. I think it teaches them quickly what the full bladder feels like during sleep as they get woken up at first drop of urine. We have just got her a vibrating watch too for school with alarm set to coincide for break times to remind her to go for a pee and have a drink. Also have been more careful to stop fluids after ~6pm.

The doctors don't refer children till their 7 for any tests so 5 is still young and considered within normal range.
One of my dc was 9 when stopped. Having spent time under a urology team and found the cause which could be treated.
The first steps they got us to try were:
No blackcurrant,
No caffeine,
Don't restrict daytime fluids,
Stop all fluids one half hours before bed,
Go to the toilet several times in the last hour then go just before bed,
Try night waking toilet visit before parent goes to bed (didn't work for us) were told to attempt for two weeks and stop if no improvement,
Told no nappies just incontinence pad on bed as this wakes them and they can sometimes stop the flow,
We did try a bed alarm but this distressed dc so stopped.
Good luck.

My daughter was dry in the day at 2.5 but still wore pull ups at night while still in reception . My son toilet trained at 3 and was dry both day and night but pooed himself until he was 4. While you're living it it seems never ending but these times will pass!