I just need advice and different perspectives because I am just feeling so lonely in this situation.
I've been with my partner for 5 years almost, we have a young daughter and live together. When I met him it felt like we fell in love straight away and we were inseparable since, but since she was born its been well.. a complete sh*t show.
I don't know how to explain how lonely he makes me feel in this relationship. Examples of things that make me feel unvalued.. Not once in this whole year of 2020 have I had a lie in whilst he gets up with DD (I'm not exaggerating not even on my birthday). He doesn't cook very often, never washes up etc. I do all the cleaning and on top that he is always so angry about everything.
A few weeks ago, DD wanted to play something with him and he said no he was very tired so I ended up arguing with him because he was being unreasonable. He ended up going upstairs and punching several holes through a door which DD saw him do.
He never wants to do anything - even before this pandemic he would never suggest going out on a date night or anything. Never initiates being intimate, he has said before that he hates the weekends because he has to be at home and everyone's up early etc.
I feel like he resents us and the life he now has. I feel he has everything that alot of men would appreciate - our daughter is so wonderful, I'm a good person, I would do anything for my family. We have spoken about how I feel many a time and nothing has changed.
He shows he cares in other ways I suppose, if I needed him to get me from anywhere or if our daughter needed anything then he would drop everything. But I don't know if I've set my bar so low now that that sounds pathetic.
I'm so scared of the future alone, but I feel that maybe that's the best thing.
Can anyone offer any advice? Am I being unreasonable?