One of our DC has a disability; we travel to the US for month-long intensive therapy that is not available in the UK. We’ve been 3 times in the last 4 years. When lock-down hit this year, we were in a very ‘feck it’ frame of mind, and booked a much nicer accommodation than we have previously, for 2021. (It’s double the price, quadruple as nice - a ‘bargain’.) My parents immediately suggested they visit whilst we’re there - I said no. (My parents are sometimes hard work.) Then my brother and SIL asked the same - they already live in US albeit other coast. I said they could come for first weekend only before we start the therapy - that this isn’t a ‘holiday’ and we don’t want DS distracted. All fine... then at Xmas, my in-laws also requested a stay. I feel more pressure with this one. First off, FIL is genuinely interested in history and there’s a lot of civil war background to the area we go to. Secondly they recently offered to give us a partial early inheritance to knock through our kitchen wall. They are more easy going than my parents. But I’m still unhappy about it, and I hate myself for it. We don’t get to ‘holiday’ aside from these therapy trips. It’s our only chance at ‘family time’ - but, it is a whole month; which I know is more than most get; but it is four hours of therapy a day which isn’t exclusively a ‘holiday’. It can be very draining and hard work (more so for the DC involved, obviously). DH has suggested they come for two weeks. But I’m completely anxious about a) upsetting my family after I told them no, and b) just hate myself that I selfishly want the whole month just bonding as a family and devoting it to DS’s therapy and not risking anything impacting on it. AIBU to say no to everyone now?